Today I have a very special post for you.
I am going to share with you the BOLD & DETERMINED MISSION.
I am going to share with you picture proof that what I am saying to you is true.
I am going to share a confession with you.
I would like to ask one question of you before you read this article: Do you aspire to be a better man?
I don’t mean would you like to become better, everyone would like to become better, I mean are you actively changing your life for the better? I AM. Everyday I work to achieve more.
My mission with BOLD & DETERMINED is to help as many of you guys as I can to develop PRIDE.
Pride is a dirty word when you have none of it. Having pride is what makes all the difference in the world from being a boy, a feminized dude, or a Man.
I hear guys making jokes all the time, feminized guys, pretending to be masculine. They will put on a comically deep voice and say “YEAH, I’M A REAL MAN! HAHAHA” and then all their little friends will laugh.
The thought of actually being a man is unreal for a lot of dudes or guys or bros. It is impossible for these types of fellas to say “I am a man”, without a trace of irony or jokiness, and mean it.
Friends, I will tell you right now, without a hint of irony or sarcasm, I am a man.
Let me tell you what it is to be a man:
- Stand tall.
- Stand proud.
- Make eye contact.
- Say exactly what you mean and mean every word you say.
- Don’t defer to the weak.
- Admire the strong and pity the weak.
- Don’t talk, talk, talk all the time.
- Speak with authority and conviction.
- Never speak about things you know nothing of.
- Don’t apologize for the mundane.
- Do not be ashamed of the superior and do not make excuses or apologies for the inferior.
- Be strong, be proud.
Now, friends, it’s easy enough to type these words and make you nod your head “yes” but I will go the extra step and show pictures of myself without a blur or black box covering the face. I want you to know that I am real, that I exist and that what I say is not bullshit or just talk, talk, talk.
As you can see from the picture I go to the gym regularly to lift weights. I don’t eat fatso foods. I keep my hair clean. I keep myself looking good. I take pride in myself.
I know that when I walk into a room I am going to be noticed. I will be noticed because I do not walk meekly.
I am not saying this to be braggadocious.
I am telling you in no un-certain terms because there is no other way to put it. I want to prove to you that you can be a winner.
I am saying this to you because it did not used to be so. I was not always this way.
I have a confession to make:
I used to be skinny.
Take a look…
Fake mustache (for comedy, haha) and girls jeans.
You see, friends, I know all about being skinny. One day, I flexed my biceps in the mirror and my upper arm was the exact same size as my forearms. Even worse than being skinny, I had no pride. I had skinny guy syndrome: I was weak, I was a devout liberal atheist (the know-it-all kind), and I was broke as a joke.
Not only was I skinny, but I was a loser. A skinny loser.
When someone would say to me “I am proud of this or that”, I would jealously think down on them. They weren’t as smart as me, a smug, liberal goof.
I did not build anything. I didn’t work hard. I did not try to better myself and I looked down upon those who had pride in themselves. They were better than me, but I didn’t want to admit it so I made jokes.
When I met people with confidence, pride and drive I would make fun of them behind their back. I would get together with my loser friends and we would make fun of guys who were better than us. Plain and simple. “He goes to the gym, makes a lot of money, has clean hair he must have a little dick hahaha“.
I would brag about how much porn I watched and say “It’s no big deal. Everyone does it“. I would brag about never working out and eating anything I wanted. I would brag about not gaining any weight.
The worst part of all – I did not realize I was a loser.
I Had the Skinny-Guy Mindset.
It was not until I actually started lifting weights that I realized how wrong I had been about physical development. I thought there was no need for it – and I was dead wrong.
You see, being skinny does not make you a bad person. No. Having the skinny guy mindset makes you a bad person.
The skinny guy mindset is one of weakness pretending to be strong. Making excuses for weakness and the weak, trying to shit on everything that is strong and good.
The skinny guy mindset is one in which you actively try to bring everyone above you down to your level – even if you do not realize it.
But I found my savior: the Iron.
With weight training comes strength, with strength comes pride.
You see friends, it is not only about lifting weight and pumping up. It’s about developing pride. Pride of body, pride of mind, pride of soul.
I want you to know that you can change. I want you to know that you can become better. I want you to know that you can evolve.
All it takes is one very small change of mindset.
The body will follow what the mind says. When your mind believes it your body knows it’s for sure.
I’ve got money in the bank, muscle on my arms and pride in my heart all because I changed my mindset and anyone can do the same.
On your “journey” you will get people, lessers, who question you or mock your decision. Doesn’t matter.
It’s for you, it ain’t for them. They can rot and you can grow.
Remember one thing friends, there is no overnight solution. A life change is required. The transformation pictured below took me 7 years, but anyone with a bit of knowledge can do it faster than I did.
See the archives of Bold and Determined for a swift kick to the ass.
Until next time.