An accountability partner is someone you share your plans and ‘must-do’ tasks with.
Your accountability partner holds your feet to the fire and makes sure you complete what you said you would complete.
An accountability partner is someone who gives you encouragement when you need it, motivation to finish your tasks, and a boot to the ass when you don’t finish what you were supposed to finish.
An accountability partner is like a gym partner: he’s there to spot you on bench press, he’s there to yell at you to “push that weight up!“, he’s there to give you a helping hand on the last rep or two, and he’s there to tell you “you had way more in you! You better finish that set next time! Now spot me, I gotta hit 12 reps no matter what.“
An accountability partner is a person you do not want to let down.
With an accountability partner you must have something to lose for the plan to work.
If you respect you accountability partner a great deal then the friendly competition is enough fire to keep you going.
You can make friendly bets with your accountability partner. For example: “If I don’t finish this I’ll give you a crisp $20 bill.”
An accountability partner is there to call you on your bullshit. If you say “…well, I didn’t finish because of this and that…” your accountability partner is there to say “Brother, that’s bullshit. You know it’s your own damn fault.“
When you finish your big goals your accountability partner is there to say “That’s great, brother! I’m damn proud. What’s next on the horizon?“
An accountability partner can be a friend, a brother, a father, or even an internet stranger. But it’s got to be someone that will hold your feet to the fire.
You can meet up on Saturday nights to drink some Whiskey, go over everything accomplished that week (person who didn’t accomplish buys drinks), go over next week’s plans and action items, and then go holler at some beautiful blonde babies.
You can meet up for breakfast, lunch, or dinner and go over plans. Whoever didn’t accomplish what they said they would accomplish buys.
You can smoke cigars and go over plans after a Saturday Barbecue.
You can fire off e-mails Sunday evening / Monday morning to your accountability partner and review everything that has happened this week and what needs to happen next week.
You can fire off e-mails first thing every morning to detail what you must accomplish that day.
It doesn’t matter if you meet in person, speak over the phone, or use e-mail to review your plans and action-item lists, but e-mails are a must to send off your daily must-do list.
The goals have to got to be specific and clear. Nothing like “I have to be more confident“. More like “I have to say ‘hello’ to every beautiful blonde baby I see“.
I’ve got to get my company website going this week…
I’ve got to follow up leads on at least 10 new clients…
I’ve got to hit the pavement and drum up some business…
I have to specifically do such and such…
I’ve got to accomplish or die this week.
You’ve got to do the same for your partner.
You’ve got to hold their feet to the fire. Make sure they do what said they were going to do.
If they don’t accomplish what they set out to they’ve got to give you that $20, buy your whiskey, or, even worse, they lose their pride and got to gain it back.
You don’t need an accountability partner, but having one can be a nice asset in your motivation and accomplishment arsenal and can help to fully visualize and realize your goals.
Even better than having someone hold your feet to the fire is the active review you must do of your plans. The simple act of seeing your plans, speaking your plans, or typing your plans and the plan to accomplish them can make productivity sky-rocket. ‘To-do’ lists are an absolute must and having an accountability partner is a way to insure you prepare your all-important ‘to-do’ list every week.
The people who love to go to the gym and train alone won’t need an accountability partner.
The people who like having a gym partner will have use for an accountability partner.
Other people will fall in between. Experimentation is key to finding the best way to be productive.
The accountability partner system is based on the Honor Code. Honor is for men. If your accountability partner has no honor and lies to you to avoid the shame of losing then you’ve got to find a new one. The system cannot work without honor.
The accountability partner system is a way to keep your feet to the fire and accomplish all those small goals that build up to something big.
Keep your BIG goals to yourself. That’s for you and only you. After you put your plans into action is when you are allowed to talk about them. Never talk about big plans before they have been put into action. That’s what motormouths do. That’s what talkers do. That’s not what walkers do.
With the big plans you are your own accountability partner. You’ll hold your own feet to the fire and you’ll do or die because that’s how it’s done.