How to Pick the Right Wife

You have two options: You will get married or you won’t get married. If you will get married then this article is for you. We will not review whether or not you should get married but we will review how to pick the right wife.

Picking the right wife is of utmost importance. Marriage is a life-long commitment and requires a great deal of forethought. Getting married without a plan and without any forethought is a terrible decision.

Getting married is a business decision. Marriage is a contract between two entities. You’ve got to enter into it with the ruthless mind of a determined businessman for it to work.

You’ve got to pick the right wife like a businessman picks a company to invest in. It shouldn’t be left to chance (“love”) – you’ve got to be pro-active, know what you want and then go after it.

Marriage isn’t about love or connecting with your soul-mate. Those are inventions of TV and movies. Marriage is an exchange of resources. Your wife shall provide A and you will provide B. If your wife doesn’t, or won’t, provide her share then she should not have the privilege of marriage with you.

Marriage is a contract and you’ve got to try your hardest to make sure that contract is reinforced. You cannot make the best decision when you’re emotionally love-sick like a 16 year old school girl. No businessman who wants to stay in business will sign a contract in an emotional state of mind and no man who wants to stay married will sign all of his power away just because he loves her. It takes rational, clear-headed planning and thinking to pick the right wife material.

There are only two reasons a man should ever get married:

1) He wants to start a family.

2) His career or political ambitions demand he has a wife (he is interested in going into politics).  We will not talk about this except to say that a political wife is for show and show only. For this article we will assume the reader falls into the first category.

There is absolutely no other reason to ever get married. Love is not a reason to get married. When you get married you sign all your power over to your wife – it must be of some benefit for you to do so. That benefit is to grow old with your family.

The goals of a marriage should be:

1) Minimize the chance of divorce theft and child robbery.

2) Maximize wife’s happiness with her wifely and motherly duties (the complete opposite of everything you will see, read or hear). It’s not about empowerment (or any other buzzword designed to kill the traditional family), she should be completely devoted to her family. True happiness for a woman comes from her family, it does not come from her career, or her “independence”, or her sexually liberated point of view.

3) Have a healthy, happy family with well educated, respectful children – non-sissified sons and girlish daughters with strong family values.

Be honest about what you want:

Most men don’t want an “independent, empowered” woman. That’s code for bitchy slut with a chip on her shoulder.

We all want a sweet, nice, joyful, feminine woman who treats her man like a King.

Bullshitters will suck up to the dregs and say the opposite in a futile attempt to get some action. These poor suckers get shit on the most and never understand why. Hear this gentlemen – women love men who go after what they want, who don’t take a woman’s BS seriously, and treat her like a woman, not like a man in drag. Women hate suck-ups as much as they hate stepping in dog poop on the street. To a woman, a male suck-up is less than human.


There is no denying that marriage is a very, very bad deal. When you get married you immediately give your wife all the power over your money and your children. “No-fault” divorce really means “his-fault” divorce. If your wife is to decide she wants a divorce she can have all the benefits of being married and none of the drawbacks. Divorce is theft from the man. It’s a redistribution of wealth from men to women. She can live off of your paycheck via alimony and child support and she can keep your children and raise them in a single-mother or step-daddy household. She has the complete and full support of Papa Government behind her. In the eyes of the law she can do no wrong and you can do no right. And there is nothing you can do about any of that. That’s why you have to choose the right wife in the first place to eliminate much of that risk.

Steps should be taken to minimize the chances of divorce. You must take extra special precaution to choosing the right wife so you can avoid the possibility of a financially devastating and family ruining divorce.

When to get married:

The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with.

Now remember, 30 years old is the starting age to think of marriage. That doesn’t mean you should get married at 30 or by 30. Anytime between 30-45 is a good time to tie the knot. Between the ages of 30-45 is when a man’s marriage value is at its highest.

We have spoken about the need for a good woman here. In the following section we will look at how to determine good women from bad women.

The top 12 rules for picking the right wife to maximize a happy life and minimize the chance of divorce…

1) She should be young.

The woman should 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age.

A woman’s body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.

It’s a tradeoff, she gives you her good years and you put up with her in her bad years. Never take a woman already in her bad years.

Women do not age well. “Cougars”, older women that younger men find irresistible, are an invention of the movies. Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years having a lot of random sex and now they want to find a sucker who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don’t be that sucker.

A young body is especially important for bearing children. Old women cannot have and don’t have healthy children. At 30 years of age a woman is already 15 years past her child-bearing prime.

But I like talking to smart women. 20 year olds are stupid.

Her IQ won’t grow much with age. A dumb 20 year old is a dumb 30 year old. The difference is that the 30 year old dumb woman is a lot more bitter and has a whole lot less to offer.

2) She has to come from an intact family with original mother and father.

No step-mommies and step-daddies. Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies. You want an emotionally healthy wife. Women who grew up with divorce have too much baggage, use sluttery as a way to get attention from daddy, and will not know how to act in a proper family setting.

3) She cannot believe in divorce or even imagine getting a divorce.

If she mentions the word ‘divorce’, what to do in case of divorce, praises a friend who got a divorce, or says divorce is an option then she is not a keeper. Throw her back in the water and go fishing some more.

To make a marriage work, both the man and wife must think of divorce as no option at all.

4) She must have the natural body type you prefer.

Every woman will gain a few pounds when they settle with a man. It’s unavoidable. What is unacceptable is a woman blowing up to whale proportions. If a woman was once very fat, lost the weight on crash diets and ultra-gym sessions, that weight will ALL come back plus more when she gets married.

If she has to constantly diet and go to the gym she is about to blow up like a balloon when the ring is on her finger and the vows are spoken.

You must pick the natural body type you like. That means she must have the same body type her whole life, never yo-yo’ing up or down in weight.

She should have a pretty face. When her body goes the only thing that will be left is her face and you will have to see it every single day.

5) She must be image conscious.

A woman who gets pig-fat after marriage is a disgrace to herself and her family. She must be aware of her image and keep her body trim for you. Women will always gain a few pounds after marriage, but there is a difference between a few pounds and one hundred pounds. Take a look at all the women in her family, if they are all pig-fat it’s a good idea to walk away as fast as you can. You will have to see your wife daily, you don’t want to be thinking about skinning some bacon off of her back to cook breakfast.

6) She must be family oriented and not career oriented.

This is going to be the mother of your children and the keeper of your house. An Ass-kicker doesn’t need two incomes, he can provide, what he needs is a keeper of home and heart.

Two income households leave the raising of their children to expensive day cares and schools, and then mommy goes to work so they can afford to pay for day care and babysitters.

I don’t want children.

Don’t get married. The only reason to get married is to have a family.

But I want a career woman.

Doesn’t matter, even if she is a career woman when you meet she will not be when she is older. No woman wants to work but it takes some of them a long time to figure that out. They waste all their youth playing/working their career and then realize what a huge mistake they made and leave their jobs to take care of their (quite possibly retarded – that’s what happens when old ladies have babies) child. How many 45 year old married female lawyers or other professionals do you know?

The women who work in middle age do so because they have no choice and they whine about it every day of their life. They would give anything to leave their jobs and take care of their family instead.

No woman truly wants to work. Work is a man’s world and always will be. A woman’s work should be in the home taking care of the home and children.

7) She must be a “good” girl.

She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a whore into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.

Are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are sluts?


The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced in about 6 years and lose most of your money, possessions, and your children.

If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she is changing then you are being foolish and you are being played. It’s going to end badly for you when you get hitched to a woman like this.

Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient.

8) She must have no problem signing a pre-nuptial agreement.

A Pre-nup probably won’t save you much money, if any, in the case of divorce but her signing a pre-nup does one very important thing for you: it shows you she is serious about making the marriage work.

9) She should change herself for you.

When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform toyou. Her new favorite food will become steak and eggs, she will enjoy watching all six Rocky movies with you, and she will do things to please you she has never done or liked before.

I don’t want a woman who flip-flops!

A woman who doesn’t flip-flop is a woman who does not respect you.

Women are not men and should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love. She should not be degraded for that because that’s what ‘keepers’ do.

10) She must look up to you and respect you.

Women marry up and men marry down, since the dawn of marriage. If she looks down on you she will leave with your money and your children. You’ve got to be a man that she can look up to, admire, love and respect – always.

11) She should not have any children from a previous affair.

In the animal kingdom when a Lion takes over a pride he kills the cubs of other Lions.

Raising someone else’s child is cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent.

If you raise someone else’s child you will be taking care of another man’s seedling and there will always be another man in the picture.

Be selfish and keep your wife and children to yourself. They should be yours and only yours. Don’t settle for another man’s leavings and sloppy seconds.

Here is what women with children do: They have unprotected sex with a stud, get knocked up, and look for a sucker to raise the bastard.


She has already been married, had children, and then divorced the father and left.

In each case the woman is unfit for marriage.

12) She should be a smiler.

She should smile when she sees you. Her eyes should light up. She should be excited each time she sees you and reward you with her beautiful smile.

A big, bright shining smile from a pretty girl is worth more than any university degree she has, worth more than any job she has, worth more than any other baloney modern women wrongly believe makes them attractive to men.

You want a happy woman. You don’t want a frowning, nagging, pessimistic bride.

Always pick a smiling, warm, happy-go-lucky woman to share your life with.

Things to remember:

American women have been indoctrinated since birth to believe in and embrace divorce. They have been indoctrinated and instructed to believe that their feminine instincts are wrong and bad. This causes a great deal of confusion in their minds and, to put it plainly, many of them are unfit for marriage and raising a family. Especially avoid women who use psychiatric drugs and especially avoid women who go to therapy. Therapy only makes women more insane and teaches them to blame men more for their problems.

Party girls are for fun, good girls are for marriage.

If a woman cannot or will not cook daily, how will she ever care for children? She can’t. To raise non-fat children you must marry a woman who can and will cook.

As a man your options do not dwindle as you age. Your options only increase with your age and wealth. Conversely, as a woman ages her options plummet. That’s because men age gracefully, like a fine wine, and women age like milk. That’s why you must pick a beautiful young lady. It is highly advisable for a man to wait until he is a little older to get married. 30 years of age is an acceptable starting age for a man to start thinking of marriage.

Never, ever take advice from a woman on how to be attractive to women. Be nice, be yourself, be courteous, buy her gifts only works to put you in the friend zone and rightfully so because it’s pathetic behavior.

You should avoid women who have a lazy, entitled, “me-first” attitude.

Don’t let your wife have complete and utter control of the home decor. You don’t want to live in emasculation-station with throw pillows and doilies and dolls and flowers everywhere.

Men are not women and women are not men. Things that women should do do not apply to men and vice versa. Double standards exist. That’s life.

You are the leader. She is the follower. Lead her.

When she loves and respects you she will enjoy all things about you. She will not demand and nag you into changing. If you smoke a big fat cigar and your clothes smell like an ashtray she will enjoy the smell. She should want to sleep in one of your shirts because it has your smell. That’s the power you should have over your wife for her to be happy and content.

If she’s a nagger before marriage then that is a sign you need to give her her walking papers. Nothing is going to get better with marriage, it will only amplify.

Marriage should be old school traditional for it to work. Pick a non-traditional woman and have some baloney non-traditional marriage and you can expect non-traditional results: Alimony payments, child support payments and seeing your children every other weekend.

Never get married just because. Have a purpose and a reason for the things you do.

Getting married is a dangerous proposition – make sure you know how to swim before you dive in head-first.

Dealing with the one who got away:

There are over 3 billion women in the world. The median age for women the entire world over is 29 years old. There are millions of women who are possible marriage material. “She” isn’t the one or your soul-mate or other baloney. There are millions just like her. And if she was your soul-mate you’d still be together. Let her go and move on. There are plenty more where she came from.

Personal recommendation from BOLD & DETERMINED to find a suitable wife:

Picking a woman from your own country and culture is always the best solution. Unfortunately, there is wholesale, systematic destruction of marriage and family in many 1st world countries, especially America and England, which has narrowed the options tremendously. One may have a broader selection if he were to go abroad to another country where marriage and family are still valued. But, and this is a big but, think long and hard before you marry a woman of another race and father half-breed children.

Remember, it is best to marry a woman of your culture and race. If that option is unappealing for the reasons described above there is a whole, big, wide world for you to choose from.


Growing old alone and with no children to carry on your name seems a worse prospect than following this checklist and picking the best wife you can.

Civilization exists because of the nuclear family. Certainly marriage has been tainted in the last 50 years, to the detriment of all, but if you make smart decisions you can cut down your risk tremendously.

If you are going to get married, do it the smart way.

If you aren’t going to get married go ahead and have a beer.

Good luck and Godspeed.

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  1. pete smith says

    I am curious about your views on adoption. Do you consider that “cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent?”

    Also, you have suggested in previous posts that you will likely someday get married. Is getting married important to you?

    • Victor Pride says

      Adoption is a great thing for children whose parents cannot raise them and for parents who cannot have children. Everybody wins.

      Yes, I believe having a family is important. I would also say it is better to never marry and have a family rather than divorce and lose custody of your children. Which is the option many are taking.

      • D says


        You make a lot of good points and even as a progressive woman that has accomplished more than millions of the pussified men of today I would say there is something wrong with the modern western woman. We seek independence and only alienate ourselves….we seek liberty and only accumulate physical and emotional consequences. You are correct that marriage should be a more balanced approach with a higher degree of reason than emotion taken into consideration. But blanket statements based on popular (or even unpopular assumptions) are easy to make concerning individual humans and human choice. Reality is often more complex than theory!
        There is a lack of balance in your philosophy (despite its valuable points) and it really sounds like you have never loved another human being more than yourself and thus cannot comprehend the actual existence of Love. And maybe you are right…maybe love, joy, good and evil and even God Himself does not exist and we are all just animals making things up in our minds. But what if they do exist? Then you have lived your life and told others to live their lives in a way that cuts out one of the most significant experiences of the human existence: Love.

  2. James says

    This is great..Unfortunately, this western culture nonsense has now spread all over the world, including my hometown (Nigeria.) It’s almost like the Nigerian women want to be even more “American” than the American women..George Clooney is smart for not getting married. My Nigerian uncles always advised me not to marry an American woman, especially not an “Akata” (That’s a Nigerian nickname for Black Americans), but what they don’t realize is that Nigerian women are becoming even worse!

    • Victor Pride says

      That’s unfortunate for Nigeria. The trend is going worldwide, but there is plenty of time to get a good woman while the gettin’s good.

  3. Mr Arena says

    Victor, These posts are relentless!!!
    Here in Australia which is a super multicultural continent almost all the women here are but poisoned by the Westernized ways. Ill never even consider dating a girl here as there becoming more like blokes. Even if they are awesome, pure & amazing n just come from Sth America or Asia, in just a few months they completely change for the worse because they want to be like the rest of the women in the surrounding society here they envy these hood rats. Super stuck up demanding rough loud mouths.
    When i was in Colombia, Brazil, Argentina, Thailand & Philippines i wanted to marry a different girl there every week it felt. In time my future wife will be from 1 of these places. Also ill be careful to not have her in this country Australia to be seduced by the materialistic ways and spoiled. Better i reside in 1 of these fascinating Countries when i decide where and who.

    • Victor Pride says

      Yes, I think if you are going to marry a foreign bird it is best to live in her country. Take her away from the grounding influence of her family and put her right smack dab in sex and the city-land and she’s going to go nuts.

      Your best option is to pick a solidly middle class woman. For some reason guys who pick up foreign girlfriends and wives completely overlook everything about her except for her perceived sweetness. If you marry a foreigner you’ve still got to run the checklist to pick a good one.

  4. Phoenix says

    Hey Victor awesome post. I am curious about your views on marrying outside your race? Awesome blog

    • Victor Pride says

      Well, after giving it much serious deliberation, I don’t think it’s a good idea. Half breed children often feel lost and alienated like they belong neither here nor there. Racial identity is very important even though our tv’s will tell us differently.

      Imagine having children who don’t even look like you. Imagine people sneering at your children. Why give them such a disadvantage right from the start.

      • Seekay says

        You are so wrong. Are you mixed? No. So you cannot tell.
        Second; girls around 20? Are you crazy?? Most Women under 30 change their minds every 5 minutes and don’t know what they want. Big problem there.

        The rest of the article makes sense…hey but relationships attraction love etc don’t make sense! So it’s just a lottery.

        Do you wanna play?

        I don’t. I’m 41 single with some f-friends, my company, my house, my hobbies, my maid and my friends. I LIVE ( yes, live) this site and I recommend most of the articles.

        Women= problems …sooner or later.

        Nowadays women are not the same as women back then. They changed. They wanna be invited out to dinner, flowers, opening doors, gifts, etc and at the same time earn more than men and be a boss.

  5. RX-78 Alex says

    Highlighted, copied, pasted, and saved into my personal notes; fantastic stuff.

    I’m curious, in particular, about the logistics of older men (35-45) meeting younger women (20-25) (i.e. how to meet younger women without being the lone “weird/creepy” older guy at a restaurant or club where most youth hang out.)

    • Victor Pride says

      For men 35+:

      Be someone she is attracted to. Take care of yourself very well. Don’t go to dance clubs lone wolf style trying to meet a good girl. Don’t think of yourself as creepy (unless you are creepy, then fix it).

      1) Be in excellent physical shape (testosterone replacement and human growth hormone are your friends)
      2) Have impeccable style
      3) Have a large bank account

      If you want to meet young women you must remember this one magic word, “Hi”. Spoken with sincerity and eye-contact there is little else you need. If she’s into it you’ll get her number. If she isn’t into it move on to the next one.

      Every young woman is on the internet, it’s not a bad place to search.

      • Brandon Green says


        I agree with what you are saying. I am 52 years old and am fairly muscular and getting leaner all the time.
        Women like muscular men regardless of age and i agree that women typically do not age well.
        Glad i found you. Great site.

  6. Russ says

    Great post Vic. I’d like to second ‘Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy.’ since I was such a child. You know it wasn’t until I joined a sailing club that I realized how messed up my idea of what a man is. The sailing club was full of rich successful family men who owned yachts and men who wern’t that rich or conventionally successful but owned and sailed yachts anyway because they wanted to, you got a problem with that? Up until that point most the men I’d met were one of my Mother’s boyfriends. A 100 names but to me they were all called Paul. Every single one was a hapless beta who was only delighted to get with an aging women and put up with her existing kids. No wonder my model of reality was distorted.

    Before I get married I’m going to hide some money away in a tax haven. As little as $50k would allow you to escape after a divorce (child abadonment aside) and head to SE Asia to start again.

    I’ve just spent 23 of that last 28 hours hiking up a mountain and back. This gave me a lot of time to think. I’ve decided to concentrate on business only this year, expending no effort on women. I’m also going to register my second company in Hong Kong when I fly through this Summer and maybe take a peak at China to see if I’d like to go live there. The land of opportuneties they say and it sounds like a nicer place to live ( Fuck women, do exciting things and make bank, then pick up a fresh young wife when you’re 35~.

    About going to China:

    I met a local guy here two weeks ago. He made $260kAUD last year setting up vineyards in China. I have no reason not to believe him. Most the vineyard owners around here would be better off working for minimum wage in a supermarket. It seems there’s money to be made teaching the Chinese how to compete with Western industries, and since we’re ‘one world’ now and nationality is just a piece of paper why not leave a decaying country for a rising country?

    • Victor Pride says


      Excellent comments, like usual. Hiding some money is a very smart move. Be glad you aren’t American, we have a real liability when it comes to international banking.

      That was an interesting article. I do find myself freer in communist china than in the us. That goes for me as a White foreigner, Chinese don’t have it the same. Even in a place like China where the women aren’t so feminine you see a huge difference in the way they act (they still act like women) and the man hatred just isn’t here.

      When you’re in HK it’s an easy trek through the border into Shenzhen and you can take a gander at China.

    • Seekay says

      Pick up a young fresh wife when you are 35?? Lol

      Dude, when you reach 35 you are gonna say the same thing but when you turn 40…

  7. john says

    spot on as usual, vic. i married the wrong woman and am paying dearly for it. luckiy she was more into her career than her kids so i had it written into the decree that i get the kids everyday after school until 6pm. i work a night shift job. luckily we divorced while i was still relatively young and in good shape. i have always dated younger. there are 25 26 year old women in every gym and bookstore that love older guys, i am 42 now and still have never dated a woman over 30. i am not looking to get married again anytime soon, i am enjoying myself way too much, but i can say that everything you said in your 12 rules is right.
    i would also add that the demise of our society and family values started with women in the workplace. that leads to greed, affairs, and children being raised like animals by other women not even in the kids family. there is no way they have your kids best interest at heart if they have 20 others to watch. and if your kid is a little rambunctuos then they probably get tons of time alone in “time out”. no way my kids ever went to day care. i manned up, got a night job, and raised them myself.
    i just discovered your web site last week. it is my new favorite. i am starting the 30 days and steak and eggs diet monday. i also discovered the vince gironda 8×8 workout and will give that a shot.
    keep encouraging the ass-kickers and real men! i love to watch the news with my dad…he says “that fella just needs an ass kickin” about 20 times every news cast, and he is right!


    • Victor Pride says


      You’ve done better than most divorced dads. And yes, the worst thing that ever happened to the western world is feminism/women’s suffrage/whatever you want to call it. Women going to work to pay other women to watch their children. It’s absolutely disgusting.

  8. says

    Agree with everything except for leaving marriage till your 30s. It’s true that men remain attractive (or even become more attractive) as they get older. So that’s not the issue. But I’m not sure that a social model in which men are wild in their 20s before settling down and marrying young women in their 20s is going to work. If men model a “wild party lifestyle” in their 20s, then won’t that influence young women in ways that will make them unsuitable for the men in their 30s? And, if large numbers of men are marrying women in their 20s, doesn’t that mean that many men in their 20s are going to be unable to find partners? And will an unsettled lifestyle in your 20s, really set you up for being a good husband in your 30s? And how old do men want to be for their children? You write that anything up to 45 is OK, but a 45-year-old embarking on family life is going to be old as his children grow up and if his son were to do the same thing he won’t be there as a grandfather. Personally, I think mid-20s is the ideal time for most men to marry, though I admit that some men will hit their straps and their peak attractiveness to women a little later, perhaps early 30s.

    • Victor Pride says


      I wouldn’t necessarily disagree with your statements, if it were a different time under a different set of circumstances. But the game has changed. Marriage is a complete and total raw deal. If the young men of today want to partake they should be very smart about it because if/when it goes wrong it has disastrous consequences. Most mid twenties men can’t support a family with their wages. It takes time to make some dough. In another world I would agree with you, but in this world we have to make the best of a bad situation.

  9. says

    Victor great post glad I found you from the In malafide links. I concur with nearly all of it and they key for long term happiness has to do with marrying a woman who aims to please and make you happy as the #1 goal.

  10. James says

    About the half breeds i think this even applies to a white American dad & white non-American mom. My mom is foreign and i feel like i don’t fit in. My wife is the same, foreign mom, American dad – though her mom is Asian.

  11. pete smith says

    Victor, correct me if i am wrong, but haven’t you praised Asian women, even as possible wives? I, too, like Asian women and could settle-down with one, but agree with much of this post. Kind of a win-lose situation. If you feel so highly about Asian women, are you willing to overlook or ignore your own advice?

    • Victor Pride says


      I have given this considerable thought. It isn’t a matter of liking Asian women or not, it is a matter of the children being halfies, neither here nor there. Like James said above, it is better for the children to be the same as both parents.

      I didn’t make it one of the 12 rules, but I think anyone who wants to marry foreign should give much serious consideration as to how happy and adjusted the children will be. Since I do not think anyone should get married unless they want children it is a big issue. Just my 2 cents.

  12. thebrownman says

    Excellent post, sir. I’ve seen alot of posts about marriage lately in my blogroll so I felt compelled to comment on one of your reasons to get married which is to start a family.

    I stopped dead in my reading tracks.

    I disagree that you must be married to start a family as marriage is a religious institution, family is not. Marriage is completely unnecessary for starting a family, as if it would negate the fact that a child is the product of combined genetic information. One can start a family, raise his children, and make his woman happy without this silly contract.

  13. George says

    Hey, Victor. One of my 5 friends showed me your website a few weeks ago and I have been reading it every since. I’m 19 and live in the small town of Searcy AR. This town is defiantly a redneck town and most all the female species are nasty slutty animals. However there is a collage (with decent girls) and a coffee shop that I frequent almost every day, and I sit and watch people and can tell you what each person does with his or her life every day without ever talking to them. My few friends say that I am a creep, witch is true but I don’t know what else to do with my life. I don’t want to do the collage thing because that’s four years of life my gone by. I just recently got a job at the local Filipino reasturaunt making $3.75 an hour plus tips… I work two days a week, that’s about $40 a week. My future looks promising doesn’t it? I have been thinking of starting a pressure washing business. It would be $1100 for the pressure washer and I have a truck so that’s all it would take. My brother is a graphic designer so he would make the business cards and flyers and possibly a website. I could make indecent living. But my problem is that I don’t want to be 48 and still be washing some pissed off grandpas driveway. Have a wife that is just always in the “oh whatever” mood. I want to not be like every other person in Searcy. I want to be able to have a beutiful wife with a few kids living in a house that I want to build (it would be a container home) be able to have money saved up so we can travel the world and crap. I just don’t want to be old and crabby. Oh and I’ve never dated a girl before there is a girl that I watch and the coffee shop and I recently was going through a Facebook friends, friends, friends list and found her and was looking through her pictures and saw a picture she had taken of me eating a fry at chick fila. It was weird. This post is probably really weird. But anyways, It wouldn’t let me tag myself in the picture so it requested it to her and she accepted it and now we are friends on Facebook and it’s just weird. I don’t know if I should try to ask her out or what because she leaves this week for Italy for the next three months. It will probably be awkward when she comes back. Idk. I feel like a teenage girl writing this on here and your probably throwing up reading it. Anyways thanks


    • Victor Pride says


      Here is what I would do of I were you: I would start a pressure washing business immediately. Do what you need to do to get the $1100 (but don’t steal). I would post flyers everywhere, I would post internet ads and I would go door to door looking for business. I would do this all by myself so I could learn the business inside and out. A bonus is that you will be working outside, getting sun, getting in shape, staying busy and being productive – not just sitting in a coffee shop creeping people out. When I started to get some good repeat business I would hire someone to come in and do a lot of the work. I would concentrate on getting more business and hiring more people until eventually I had a full time staff who took care of everything and deposited my checks. When this happened I would leave Searcy and go travelling a little but, open my eyes some. That would be my goal: Start the biz, hire people, let them do all the work. Think of it as a business, not as self-employment.

      In re: getting girls: You have a lot more confidence when you have 4 grand in your pocket than when you have $40 to your name.

      I wouldn’t ask the girl out. I would forget about her. Find a new one when you have more confidence ($$). After you make some dough there is nothing keeping you in Searcy. If you don’t like the rednecks then you can leave for greener pastures. There’s a whole, great big, wide world out there.

      • George says

        Thank you so much, Victor this has given me motivation to go ahead and buy the pressure washer and get started! I do have about $5000 In the bank though. The girl is from Seattle… Still think I should forget about her? Haha thanks again.

        • Victor Pride says

          “Still think I should forget about her?”

          Yep. There are plenty more where she came from whom you can start with on a non creepy level. She’s going to be gone for 3 months anyway, you can concentrate on making some dough. Good luck.

  14. Leon Maderas says

    Great post man.

    Some other things to look out for.

    Any history of, or inclination towards lesbianism. This might seem sexy for a porn infested mind and yeah whatever it could be fun, but not with your wife. This only shows that she is liberated and hedonistic.

    Gay friends are out of the question. They tend to be loose with touching each other, showing their pierced nipples, shaved crotches, etc. Plus, since you are a man and you won’t put up with their bullshit they will turn against you and badly influence your woman.

    The woman is physically or verbally aggressive. A bit of hair pulling in bed is fine. But if she slaps you around “playfully”, or curses you, this is an indication that she doesn’t see aggression as it is, a lack of respect. Don’t tolerate this it will only get worse.

  15. pete smith says

    Good points, Leon.

    However, many “good” females have bi or lesbian friends these days. I understand your point about the touchy-feely nature you mentioned, and agree, but does having a bi or lesbian friend necessarily mean that you have those tendencies too?

    How about you Victor, would you break-away from a girl who you thought was marriage material if you got wave that she has a bi or lesbian friend? I know people in this situation and when you are close to it, it is hard to advise one way or the other. Remember, not all people want to broadcast their sexuality, so it is possible that you only find out after forming a strong relationship with your girlfriend/fiancee. Is it the duty of a girlfriend to disclose to her boyfriend the sexuality of all her friends? In Asia, for instance, discussing sexuality is still a tight-lid issue, where one of my aforementioned friends lives and is in a long relationship with a prospective wife who has a bi friend.

    • Victor Pride says

      “How about you Victor, would you break-away from a girl who you thought was marriage material if you got wave that she has a bi or lesbian friend?”

      I wouldn’t consider a woman with gay/lesbian friends to be marriage material in the first place.

    • Victor Pride says


      Women who hang out with gays tend to be promiscuous and potty-mouthed, not good traits for a wife and a mother. Women who hang out with lesbians tend to be angry and ultra-liberal (read: anti traditional family and “gender roles”). Women who hang out with “bi” girls are usually club-sluts themselves. Who do you think those girls are “bi” with? Their friends. Like I said in the article, those girls are just for fun. You can’t turn a ho into a housewife.

      • Nora says

        A lot of women hang out with gay mean because they want to have friends that don’t hit on them. It isn’t because they are promiscuous, in fact hanging out with gay men promotes the opposite. The funny thing about a lot of gay men is that they actually promote gender roles; they frown upon bad style, hygiene, being overweight, and slutty habits. And they are LOUD about their disproval in a way that no ‘straight’ man or woman could be. Thank those guys, because they’re the ones promoting women to stay hot, thin, and to wear heels.

        Gay women can be more liberal, fair enough, but a lot of them have great homemaking habits. They often know how to knit, crochet, and do other household crafts. Plus many can cook absolutely delicious, healthy food because they’re so damned environmentally conscious that they don’t want all those chemicals and preservatives in their diet. Guess who could use a few tips on cooking? Those fatties feeding their kids frozen pizza or fast food.

        As far as bisexual girls go – it depends on the woman. Some are “sluts”. Others aren’t. I have a friend who is married to a quiet, sweet woman who is bisexual. She does all of the cooking and cleaning; she dotes on him; she is naturally slender and pretty. She is not promiscuous. They’re ridiculously happy because she isn’t petty like a lot of women are. He is the alpha; he pays all the bills; they even each other out. You over-generalize far too much to be close to accurate.

        • Joey the Bartender says

          “He’s the alpha, he pays all the bills.” Do you really think that “paying all the bills” makes him a man? Your dad paid all your bills, did you fuck him? By your logic, you should have.

          Furthermore you are the one who is overgeneralizing. You know ONE couple that supposedly are great together and that makes EVERYONE the same? Wow, did you go to college? Do you know anything about data collection and research? In the biz, we call your friends: outliers. And we ignore them. Because outliers do not make up the majority. They are blips on the screen. Finally, how do you know they’re happy? Do you watch them fuck? No? Perhaps the girl is kiddng herself that she’s happy. You see, your “facts” are based on nothing but over generalizations in your tiny little eggshell world where you long for a character from “Twilight” to take you away from your terrible life.

          • Nora says

            You misspelled the word “kidding”. It detracts from your vastly educated response. Apparently you don’t read many of the blogs here – Victor prefers a woman to stay home, cook and clean while he makes the money. Start reading, and do less talking. You don’t sound ignorant – you sound mentally handicapped.

  16. Leon Maderas says

    I want to add something else that is intolerable in women, and a definite red flag if looking for wife material. Women who can’t get their faces off their phones. Women who are always updating their Facebook status, texting friends, receiving calls. These women will pop out their cell phones in the middle of a conversation, or at the table, or on your bed. Never tolerate this. As a man, your presence is the testament of your greatness. Sharing your presence with a woman is all that your woman should aspire to. If a woman is not satisfied with just being at your side doing what you tell her to do she is not worthy.

  17. crunchie says

    I would add one thing, a lot of women don’t seem to have any empathy or care for men. For example show an article on a false rape accusation when she says that’s terrible, ask her whats the worst thing about F.R.A.s. If she says its crying wolf and hurts actual victims of rapes deduct points from her, if she says it’s evil as it destroys men’s lives add points to her score, as she seems to have empathy towards men and believes men have a right to not have their lives destroyed.

  18. says

    Just stumbled upon your site. A lot of well written, insightful stuff. I respect your honesty and strength of mind, but this post felt a little cold. You talk about the importance of time throughout other posts, but here, when discussing the person you’ll presumably spend more time with than anyone else in your life, you make no mention of the importance of common intellectual ground – sense of humour, shared interests etc. If you want a marriage to outlast what you acknowledge as being a limited period where sexual appeal alone might hold it together, I’d suggest a bit of genuine friendship belongs well up the list. And this isn’t me being a pussy, by the way. You need to be able to have fun together – a marriage will fail a lot quicker through lack of this than it would through a lack of most of the other attributes you discuss.

    Please bear this in mind if you’re reading this seriously planning your wife hunting ;-).

    • says

      When I first saw this post I considered it cold. However, it rang true. There’s a lot of ideas on here that I might rather neglect, but I know deep down they’re actually right and it’s better to face them no matter how unpleasant they seem.

  19. says

    Wow. I’m speechless. I’d love to read an article from you on How to Pick the Right Husband.

  20. Mario says

    I am 55 and thinking of finding a young woman to have children with.
    This post sparked my interest in marriage as I never had children yet for some of the reasons mentioned when I divorced the x knowing then if I go her pregnant I would be an unhappy divorced man as most of my employees of the past.
    I retired from making money and now I have been having a full time enjoying life with out any issues perusing all my athletic passions including the enjoyment of lots of dating for fun.
    Even though I date lots of young woman I have not found the one yet worth of having children with.
    I wonder where does one draw the line with age as I am wondering about being able to be athletic as now enough years ahead to share healthy activities and worthy adventures with children of my own,being able to show them the world and making sure they will be worthy of my genes for their happiness starting in life with the security I can give them sharing what I have learned and leaving behind what I have created.

  21. AJ says

    I agree with your view point 99%.
    However, I disagree with the following:
    “A womans body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.”

    If a woman can keep herself fit at age 30 then she will most likely be fit for many years to come. By age 30 she has passed my beauty test. Marrying a girl at 20-25 is a recipe for disaster. I can’t tell you how may girls look hot at 20-25 and by age 30 they look like hell because they have no commitment to maintaining their bodies.
    I think 30-33 is the best age to get a future wife and she must be very youthful looking and must have a very fit body.

    • wiscanada says

      whoa, I never thought of it that way…thats a good point as I know girls that used to be hot at 25 are not married but turned into jabba the hut by 30. Its a good point and maybe just a good idea to look for healthy habits in a woman…sports, eating, gym etc.

      Reminds me of a guy and girl I saw at the gym the other day, the guy is in great shape, girl is in natually good shape at 21 with a tiny bit of chub. He was trying to show her some workout stuff and she whined and talked about how she didn’t like to sweat, tried sports in high school and never liked it etc etc. and then talked about how she wanted to go out drinking with her friends that night. Fat disaster waiting to happen.

  22. John says

    I’m a millionaire 43 years old married 6 years my wife was 34, maxim look and still beautiful. Don’t listen to the BS this ignorant is saying. You do not want a 25 year old because they are immature emotionally unstable which kills WIFIE. Best age for wife material 30-35. Mature, sexual prime at the best, looks are phenomenal and mature.
    Whoever wrote that article is a sad heartless DILLUSIONAL cocky liar.
    You make no sense buddy.

    • Victor Pride says

      “John”, you are obvious. You over the hill hag piece of trash. Do you understand the word ‘projecting’? You probably don’t because you’re an idiot. The word is ‘delusional’, idiot. If you don’t want to sound like a moron you can spend 2 seconds on google.

      I fixed your comment for you, “John”:

      “Wow, Victor, you punched me in the stomach with honesty. Let me tell you a little about me. My name is Sandra, I am 29+ years old, I live in Ridgefield Park, New Jersey and I am a capricorn. I am single and likely to stay that way for eternity. I am rotten and forgotten. Men don’t even look at me anymore. And it’s entirely my fault.

      Is there anything I can do?

      Rotten & Forgotten”

      Dear Rotten & Forgotten,

      Your life is utterly hopeless and when you die no one will notice or care, not even your cats.


      • Le'Shomo says

        Ha ha! What a come back, Victor to John. John you did not have to take it so hard, honesty that is. However, with regards to age for a wife material, it is not really so much of a big deal. Victor the figures you used like 20-25 should not be confused for anything other than a guide, simple because that’s the age group within which most women look their absolute best. At the end of the day if women around 30-35 of age look youthful and with no baggage, then it’s still pure gold. Personally, my priority would be to go for a 20-25 wife with good enough level of maturity and a great personality. Those in their 30+ are a last resort, provided they are an equivalent of a 20-25 girls, in terms of youthfulness. By the way i also like ”She must be family oriented and not career oriented”. Thumbs up.

        • says

          “Those in their 30+ are a last resort, provided they are an equivalent of a 20-25 girls, in terms of youthfulness”

          Simply, that’s impossible. Their most fertile years are behind them. They are years closer to menopause.

          Vic is right in saying 20-25

          • Seekay says

            I disagree. Women under 30 that are shy will be sluty in their 30s. They will wanna try another dick. Its better an over 30 year old woman that knows what she wants. And that is …MONEY.

  23. M says

    I hate to say it, but trans-racial adoption is a BAD idea. I came to believe this after seeing my sister, who placed children from Korea, the Phillip[pines, and China for 20 years and adopted 2 children herself from Korea. WITHOUT EXCEPTION, every child she placed that I know of is a disaster today. They all, upon reaching early teens, became ‘strangers in a strange land’ KNOWING they were out of place and from another culture and having everyone around them know it as well. IT DOES NOT WORK!!! I cannot tell yo uhow many of them are now drug users/addicts (all that I can think of) have made huge life mistakes, ended up in jail, etc. Someone needs to do research and compile stats on trans-racial adoption because it does NOT serve the adoptees well at all!

  24. Sunny says

    I just discovered this website randomly and I gotta say it kicks ass literally! about me I am a 20 year old guy with Cerebral Palsy residing in Toronto, Ontario, didn’t do so well in college (3 times) because I was unconventional and I couldn’t the norm and socially “accepted” definition of successful, on disability support ($800/a month), trying to go for a apprenticeship, got any advice Vic?

    • Victor Pride says


      Advice? Yes, dont give up. You have a disability but you aren’t mentally disabled and you aren’t helpless. Don’t just rot away on disability. Find something that lights a fire for you. Is there any way you can help young men and women in the same position as you? Ones who aren’t doing so well emotionally?

  25. james says

    oh one more question will mesterolona and sustenone increase your HGH as well or do i need to take something else ………….. im in mexico and you can but most things over the counter

    • Victor Pride says

      The first thing you should do is read the title of the article before you leave a comment like this.

  26. Jeff says

    Victor, you described my wife to the T. Well done and you are so right. God dropped my wife into my life when I was 24 and I was smart enough to marry her one year later but I did not know any of this stuff 25 years ago. We have 7 children that she homeschools. I wish I could go down your list and your details and agree with each line but space does not permit. But I would like your opinion on my thought on the age to marry a girl. The number of virgins in high school may be 50% (I am not sure), the number of virgins in college is 16% (based on 2011 book on Sex in America), and thereafter the number of virgins must drop off to insignificance. I tell my sons that the best way to get an American virgin is find them when they are 17 years old through our church, date them through high school and college, and marry them right after college, the girl being 21 or 22, the guy being around 24. This conflicts with your advice to be older and maturer but dramatically increases the chances of finding a virgin to marry. Do you have any thoughts?

  27. Nora says


    I’ve read a few of your blog posts, and I appreciate some of your points. However, you’re very wrong about age and women. If you marry a woman who is 25-30 and still looks great, it shows she has good hygiene and upkeep and she will continue (and it shows great genes as well). Upkeep makes all the difference in age. You’ve mentioned men needing to be older to know what they want in a woman – do you really believe women don’t need any time to figure that out? Marrying an inexperienced 20 year-old could lead to absolute disaster.

    My absolute worst issue with your blog is this; you assume a woman you meet is at that moment exactly how she has always been and how she will be. This is not the case. Perhaps with stupid women, sure, but who wants babies as dumb as a doorstop? I’ve changed from not being sure about children and thinking I’d have to have a doctorate to realizing parenting is my highest goal and if that means I can only work part-time – so be it. But between that, I’ve smoked, I’ve drank, and sampled outside of my strict sexual preferences just to realize that it’s okay to take it slow.

    You may have some good points – but you allow next to no room for a woman to grow as a human being.

    • Joey the Bartender says

      Okay let’s break it down for you Nora. What Victor is explaining is that by age 25-30, a woman has become extremely jaded which in my experience as a bartender is damn true. In a way it’s not completely the woman’s fault though, by her mid 20’s she’s met her share of losers and sorry to say the majority of men who are actually worth a woman’s time are off doing much more interesting things than wasting their time listening to your drunk ass at a bar. These men start businesses and have careers and are working towards a higher goal in life, whatever that may be. What’s left is the sycophantic boys who still believe that pussy is worth something. These are the majority of the guys you meet. This is also why you get screwed over since one should never send a boy to do a man’s job. Get screwed over enough by these fuck-ups and you begin to think that every man is some sort of creepy ass bastard that lives with his mom in the basement. Marriage is fucking worthless, period. The only reason women used to get married was for financial security because the job prospects weren’t that great but now there are more women graduating college than men and use for marriage is gone. Face it, the only reason you really ever wanted to get married is because you thought it was “the right thing to do.” or all your friends are doing it. I was engaged back when I was 21 and thankfully I caught her cheating on me and broke it off. That was 12 years ago. I wasn’t ready then and I’m sure as hell not ready now.

      • Nora says


        It sounds like you were getting married because “it was the right thing to do.” Those weren’t my reasons. You sound awfully bitter – sounds like guys get jaded, huh? ;) But let’s dismiss that. Bitter women is your take on the topic. The discussion revolved around prime age, looks, and probably impressionability. Women at 20 have barely left their parent’s household. They’re barely adults, they haven’t experienced anything, and as several others mentioned – those girls go nuts later. Most are not ready for the responsibility of children and make horrible parents. I’ve seen it over and over again. Look up divorce statistics by age. Not only that, but women with a four year degree are more likely to be a virgin than those who didn’t get one. 23-27 is probably the best age to marry a woman. Her frontal lobes have finished developing by her early twenties, so she’s more logical. Plenty of women have very healthy babies up to the age of forty – but hell, what do I know? I come from a family of good genes. I have three grandparents in their late eighties, none of which are requiring any assistance.

    • Joey the Bartender says

      Oh and by the way, no one cares if you “like this blog” or not. We’re not here to please you.

      • Nora says

        My advice: you’re past thirty. Take Victor’s advice and go get a real job. You’re not a 20 some odd year old college student trying to scrape for a few bucks by bartending. Clearly you aren’t ready for a family.

  28. Victoria says

    Hello Victor… I’m sorry I don’t mean to bother you if this seems like a silly question. I am a young woman, I’ve never smoked, I don’t drink, and I am a virgin. You said that a woman should come from a typical family, I’ve been raised by both my father and my mother, though my father just passed away due to a sudden heart attack about two weeks ago. If I am raised by my mother for the next few years until I move out, does that make me unfit for marrige? I want to get married and take care of a family and home, never get divorced, and be with a man that I can trust and look up to. I honestly have these values, though I have a lot of trouble approaching men at times, because I do get very nervous and shy. Your “Shy Girls” article was eye opening for me in that sense. I just wasn’t sure and I wanted to hear your opinion, if that is alright of me to ask.

    • Victor Pride says

      “If I am raised by my mother for the next few years until I move out, does that make me unfit for marrige?”

      I can’t tell if you’re being serious or if that’s some kind of haha snarky humor. If you are being serious then the answer is no, it does not make you unfit. Single mothers BY CHOICE are scum. Single mothers by fate are not. Good luck.

      • Victoria says

        No that was not snarky humor! I am being completely serious when I say this. My father just passed away, so I was worried that growing up without one for the next few years would make me unfit for marriage by these standards. Thank you very much.

        • Victor Pride says

          You are on the right track now, stay strong and you will be fine. Wherever your father is now you should always try to make him proud. Good luck.


    • Victoria says

      I like to believe that there are a few girls elsewhere that are not all bad. Although I can get very shy around men, I’m faithful to my partner, a virgin, we are not married and I’m certainly not ready yet, I have never smoked and do not drink, dress appropriately, don’t party, and have no tattoos or piercings besides the basic ear. I want to start a family and take care of them, stay at home to cook and clean the house and know that I can look up to my partner and depend on them while supporting them in whatever way they need. I know that I can’t be perfect, but I try to be the best I can, and I keep friends close to me that I know are not bad people and respect others. You may have higher standards then what someone like me can offer though, I don’t want to impose an opinion that you don’t agree with if you truly feel like there are only good women in those countries, I’m sorry if I came off that way!

  29. Helen says

    Victor, I enjoyed reading this, and I agree with almost everything you’ve said, but I do disagree on a few points.

    – You say the ideal wife is 20, but I am wondering what age of man you say this applies to? You say a man can easily marry at 45, but should he still be trying to marry a 20 year old at 45? Myself, I don’t think that’s necessarily the best plan. You say to ignore women’s advice on attraction, so you may ignore me when I say I don’t know any girls that age who are attracted to 45 year olds, but I have other reasons independent of attraction.

    One is that you seem to dislike girls who are loose, manipulative, selfish, looking for money for nothing, etc. But I think if you are a man over 40 dating 20 year olds, you are much more likely to run into the ‘shallow gold-digger’ than if you dated women a little bit older. Most young girls I know who date older men want one thing: money, and not just support – most of them don’t even want children soon, they just want money for traveling and dresses and manicures. Young, traditional women who want a family want a man established enough that he can support us, yes, but many men in their late 20s and 30s can do that, and beyond a certain salary necessary for living comfortably, -needing- (rather than appreciating) anything more is pure gold digging.

    And I think there are reasons many traditional young women will go for men a little bit younger. The man should be older, yes, always, IMO. But 25 years is too big an age gap for many people. I want to live my life with the man I marry and care for our children and grandchildren together and I want a big family and so do most traditional girls I know. Men do slow down after 60 for sure, many of them after 50. Ideally, I want a man who will be younger than that while we are raising our children, to be the energetic working, handyman, play-sports-with-the-boys, take-the-kids-camping father I had growing up. (Who was 8 years old than my mother, for the record. I think between 8 and 15 years is a good age gap personally.)

    If a 45 year old man will only be happy with a 20 year old, by all means, nobody should settle. But they should consider it may be a much harder search and they may run into more unpleasant women this way. I would not want a man to pursue much younger women and run into too many trashy gold-diggers and get a poor view of women or his desirability to them, and settle for less moral a woman than he deserves because his experiences and the media have made him believe it is his only option (I have sadly seen this happen to men in my own family, which is the only reason I even think to bring this up.)

    – My only other issue with your advice is that you don’t seem to discourage men who want a traditional marriage from partying it up during their younger years and sleeping with the unmarriageable girls. If we are talking about a man to whom having a traditional, as-virginal-as-possible wife, is very important, I am not sure he should be doing those things. It would hurt his chances at least, I would think? Especially if we are talking about religious women, who you said in another article can be good mates – if they are truly religious, even when it’s uncool, for example.

    Does a traditional, religious virgin prefer a man 20 years her senior who has slept with many trashy party girls in those 20 years, or a slightly younger religious man who is also waiting until marriage? I know which one myself, and the other traditional girls I know prefer, and they do exist. The only man I’ve ever seriously dated was a Mormon man waiting until marriage, and I know other religious men with the same beliefs. It’s usually liberal women who prefer the former.

    And that’s also not about attraction. Or about me minding double standards. I’m fine with double standards and agree with most of them. i’d be fine with my husband smoking or drinking, and i wouldn’t do it myself because it’s not ladylike or attractive. But sex is a bit different because usually a college age virgin is a virgin for principled reasons – like believing that sort of casual sex before marriage to be immoral. Of course, I would be attracted to a man who is an aggressive and a man in every sense of the word – but not somebody who tries to get me to do that with him casually or who has a long sexual history.

    That would suggest to me that we do not have compatible morals, and so it wouldn’t be responsible for me to marry him. In a world where traditional values are becoming increasingly rare, we want to make sure we marry a man of similar values who will raise our children with the right beliefs and set the right example for them. A sordid sexual history is a sign that a man may not share my values, and its a sign my friends, family and conservative community wouldn’t forgive me for ignoring.


  1. […] 3. Victor Pride says that in choosing a wife: She must be a “good” girl: She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a whore into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce. Are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are sluts? Yes. […]

  2. […] 1. Victor Pride asserts that: The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with… […]

  3. […] Prior to encountering the manosphere, I simply didn’t have an understanding of the true relationship between age and sexual market value for both men and women. Rollo Tomassi’s Sexual Market Value post opened my eyes to how this actually works. The desperation of older single women started to make sense, thanks to the likes of Dr Meg Jay explaining fertility and Lori Gottleib giving her life story. The first hand experience of the Audacious Amateur Blogger and Athol Kay’s post on relative sex rank also opened my eyes. The biggest problem with this is that I’m noticing the effects of women ageing far more. It has also meant that I’ve decided I would never start a serious relationship with a girl older than 23-24, as per Victor Pride’s recommendation. […]