From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: How to quit your job as a waiter
What is that baloney they always say?
“Life is about the journey“.
“Journey” means to travel from one place to another.
In other words, journeying is a bunch of waiting.
“It's all about the waiting” doesn't have the same cool factor as saying “it's all about the journey” but it means the same thing.
It's an excuse to not achieve, an excuse to never actually get anywhere.
When you have not succeeded and someone asks you why you can say “hey man, it's all about the journey” and people will fall for it.
Most of them will probably nod their heads in agreement. No one is going to pat you on the back if you tell them the truth, “I'm just waiting around“.
I do a lot of traveling. I don't travel because I like the journey, the journey is the worst part. It's a bunch of waiting. I don't go to new countries because I like to wait around in airports, I do it because I like to ARRIVE and be there in the moment.
When it's time to go home it's not “about the journey”, it's about getting home as fast as possible. When I come home friends and family don't ask me about the hours I spent waiting on planes, trains and automobiles, they ask me how the destination was.
The same goes for life and business. It's not about the journey, it's about the outcome. The achievement. It's not about how much time you can waste waiting around. It's about how much ass you can kick in the least amount of time possible.
Here at Bold and Determined, the website for winners ™ there are two things we don't do:
- We don't BS with words. We don't say “journey” instead of “waiting”. A lot of words mean the same thing, but one word is a powerful word and one isn't. For example dedicated and obsessed have the same meaning but one word is soft and one word is strong. “Waiting” is a powerful word because it describes waiting without glorifying, “journey” means the same thing as waiting but can be taken positively and is easy to use as an excuse.
- We don't accept this baloney word “journey” as a valid excuse for non-achievement.
If you're “all about the journey” then what you really are is a waiter. You wait, wait, wait for the perfect time but the perfect time never seems to come at the perfect time. Does it.
“I hate my job so much, I can’t wait for the right time to quit….“
“I can't wait to lose 40 lbs. Just as soon as I start going to the gym……”
“Just as soon as I move to _______ city I will blah blah…”
“Just as soon as I get my business off the ground……”
“Everything will be better just as soon as ______. All I have to do now is wait for ______”
“Just as soon as I save up enough money I can afford _________”
I used to wait and wait and wait and complain about my job and then wait some more until I could start my own business. I did that for a decade. One day, I just stopped waiting and I started making and taking.
I wasn't born with a silver spoon and I'm not a genius. I don't have a trust fund, I don't have an inheritance coming my way and I wasn't invited to smart camp when I was in school.
The only reason I'm now free and clear is because I made the decision to start doing A (kicking ass) and stop doing B (waiting around and taking orders). Nothing will ever come and get you while you’re waiting around. You’ve got to go and get it, whatever it is.
If you’re too skinny you don’t wait round to gain some muscle, you take yourself to the gym and then you take yourself to the local all-you-can-eat buffet palace.
If you want to make some money and leave your soul-less job you start taking action and you stop waiting around. Just because something takes time to achieve doesn't mean you need to wait around or use the journey excuse.
While everyone else is waiting around pretending to enjoy their journey to nowhere you can be kicking ass and getting to your destination faster.
All success is is a decision in your head. Success is a yes/no decision. The decision that YES! I will do this or the decision that no, this isn’t the right time.
If your decision is no, well, hey man, I understand. Life is about the journey. Like Leonard Cohen once said…..
Baby, I’ve been waiting,
I’ve been waiting night and day.
I didn’t see the time,
I waited half my life away.
Until next time.