From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: Why you shouldn't take advice from nice people
I was shopping at the local supermarket the other day and in front of me in line was a little girl.
She looked like she was waiting to pay for something, but she didn't say anything so no one paid any attention to her.
She was at the front of the checkout line. There were about 3 people in front of me. They all purchased their food and left, the little girl just silently stood there.
When I got to the front of the line, I looked at the little girl and I looked at the cashier. I said “what does this little girl want?”
Finally the cashier looked at the little girl and asked her what she wanted.
The little girl said she wanted to buy some candy.
She was too nice to say anything so she just waited until somebody acknowledged her before she could buy her candy.
Finally after she was asked what she wanted, she was able to buy her candy and leave.
I learned an important lesson right then and there…
Being too nice can make you invisible in this world.
After the little girl left, a woman cut directly in front of me in line at the supermarket.
I had several things to purchase, the woman did not. She had 3 kids and a pack of gum.
She looked directly at me and she said, “I'm sorry, can I purchase this first? I have only one pack of gum.”
I said “yes, no problem” and I realized another important lessons right then and there…
Asking directly for what you want can give you exactly what you want.
In the span of 20 seconds I saw a little girl being ignored because she was too nice and I saw a woman ask for exactly what she wanted.
I see things like this over and over again.
As a happy traveler of the world I have learned this lesson repeatedly: most people are too nice.
Most people are so nice that it ends up destroying them. Let me explain…
In my travels I stay at hotels frequently. To find great hotels I often look at user reviews.
If a reviewer says “wow, this hotel is great, everything was perfect” then I don't stay at that hotel.
It has been my extensive experience that when a hotel gets great reviews, the hotel experience is poor. Those great reviews are usually lies told by nice people.
For whatever reason nice people have to make up lies about how great their stay was, how great the hotel was, when the truth is the opposite.
I once stayed in a hotel in Hanoi that had phenomenal reviews, it made it sound like the perfect hotel ever. In reality? It was a low end hotel in the middle of a slum.
When I got there I thought “Why did all of these people leave spectacular reviews when this place is a dump and doesn't even have it's own restaurant?”
The only conclusion I can come up with is that…
Nice people are afraid to be honest.
(After you read this article you will understand that “being nice” is the same thing as “being dishonest”.)
Because they are afraid to be honest they do not leave bad reviews, instead they lie in reviews and pretend that everything is great.
Because they lie in reviews and leave great reviews they trick other people into making bad decisions and having a bad time.
Nice people aren't strong enough learn for themselves, they always want a path to follow.
They are afraid of something new, so they just follow what other people say “here is good for you to travel, there is not good for you to travel.”
They just believe it but they don't learn for themselves. Then they repeat what they have been told.
If they were told such-and-such hotel is good, they will repeat that lie and leave a review saying how great such-and-such hotel was.
Nice face = weak face
So many people think they're being nice when in reality they are being incredibly stupid.
Nice guys let people cheat them and let people think they're stupid. A nice stupid face is a lure for people who want to cheat and rob them.
Nice people are the easiest marks for con men and other nefarious characters. A nice face says “come cheat me, I'm easy for you.”
You cannot be nice to everyone, even if your mom taught you that.
You can only be nice to other good people, everyone else will cheat you.
I always see these idiot tourists being too nice to criminals and deviants who are in the process of robbing them.
Nice people waste time talking in circles, trying to say one little thing.
They focus on being too nice and they end up rambling and talking in circles, never getting to the point.
They try to say, “Please, I want to tell you something but sit down, calm down, relax first, I don't want to make you angry.”
You say: “Just say what it is.”
They say: “Well, you know, I just, um, please calm down, relax before I tell you, because, it's just that, well, I don't know how to say it.”
They might be trying to tell you that your house is on fire but you'd never know.
Nice people waste 5 minutes trying to say what could be said in 5 seconds.
To be heard, speak clearly.
Successful men speak strong and clear.
The strong man wants good business partners but he won't let anybody cheat him or his business.
When you do business with a strong man, everything is clear.
They call the strong man all kinds of names but they respect him and they fear him.
They love the nice guy.
Of the nice guy, they always say, “Oh him? He's real good and real nice, we can cheat him relentlessly.”
When a man is too nice he is like a child, the body grows up but the soul doesn't grow up.
You can be a good man, a strong man, but you shouldn't be a nice man.
Every man who is too nice acts like a girl, but the world belongs only to strong men.
To a female, a strong man shows his care through actions.
The normal, nice man, will always say, “I love you so much, I miss you so much, I really love you, I think about you every day.”
They say it so much they start to look like cheats and liars, and so girly.
Everything in this world is for the true man, not for the nice/fake man.
Nice guys are easy targets for other people who are faking their niceness. Outside, a fake nice person is a rabbit but inside they are tigers.
If you're out in the jungle and a tiger wants to kill you, what would you want to do? You'd want to kill the tiger.
If the tiger wants to kill a nice man he will start crying and say “the tiger will bleed and hurt, the tiger is endangered, I cannot hurt it, don't hurt it, boo hoo.”
They say all of that from the belly of the tiger. They wasted time crying about what is nice to do and they found themselves eaten alive. Just kill the tiger and run.
Remorse is for nice fools who are easily taken advantage of.
Fake nice people set traps for real nice people who don't know any better.
Once you're in their trap they'll eat you alive and all you will do is cry, “Why do people always cheat me, why are they always so bad to me?”
People always cheat you because you LET THEM cheat you and you say nothing about it.
They will forever cheat you until you harden up and don't allow them to cheat you.
Start with something small, like when you're in a restaurant and they bring you the wrong food.
For example when you order orange juice and they bring you a lemon juice.
The nice guy says, “Thank you for the lemon juice. It's exactly what I wanted. I'll be sure to leave your restaurant a great review!”
When they bring me a lemon juice I say “Take it back and bring me an orange juice. I am not paying for the lemon juice.”
Be smart before these people take all your money away from you.
And stop being so nice. All it is getting you is nothing, like the little girl waiting in line at the supermarket.
If you want it, be a bad guy and go get it.
Until next time.