I have a question for you.
Where have all the good blogs gone?
I used to find so many great blog articles all the time.
Several years ago the blog world was alive with color.
It was vibrant and alive and full of life.
There are still a few around, but…
It seems like all the good blogs have disappeared within the past few years.
Where did all the good blogs go?
I can answer that for you…
All good blog artists disappeared into social media addiction.
Nearly all of those former blog artists – the ones that used to produce great content and who have since stopped – are very active on social media.
They disappeared from the world of doing great work, and they appeared in the world of instant likes, lost in the glow of hearts and likes.
Their work suffered fatally.
Their obituaries read:
“Once upon a time he did great work, now he's garbage.”
I built my great business without any use of social media whatsoever.
People would ask me to join constantly and I would say no. I knew the truth well.
Social media takes away your focus and energy, your priorities become shifted, and in the end you sacrifice your work for some short-term likes.
Your real work – the blog articles – are evergreen and will stick around for years, decades, and possibly centuries or more.
Your social media posts disappear by tomorrow.
So what kind of moron would join social media and let that happen?
I was one of those morons.
I listened to many other social media addicts and decided to join social media.
I would wake up and check my social media.
I would get a small high from the likes and retweets.
I would see what all the people were saying to me.
If they said nice things I was in a happy mood.
If they said nasty things it would put me in a nasty mood.
More and more, social media was a nasty place to be and my attitude suffered severely.
I became a nasty person.
I would snap at people – even my friends and proteges like Dylan Madden – for no reason at all.
If things didn't go my way I didn't have any ability to handle it.
Like Norm McDonald might say, I was a real jerk.
I had no serenity, I had no calm, I had no peace – but there's one thing I did have…
I had my phone in my hand, 2 inches from my eyes. Searching, scrolling, and getting my fix.
“I just need one more like before I can go to sleep!”
My ability to concentrate vanished.
I got to a point where I forgot how to write.
I had to bring in ghost-writers to work on future book projects (which will never be released).
Of course I never had an article ghost-written, but even worse, my articles during the time were not up to the standard that B&D was known for.
My brand suffered, I lost fans, I lost readers, I lost friends, I made a fool of myself.
A few likes here and there.
My patience vanished into thin air.
I make plans years in advance.
I wait with the patience of a saint.
I expect nothing today, I work only for tomorrow.
I don't live in the now like the fake Buddhists say, I live for the future.
When I was on social media, all that patience went away.
I had to live in the now. I had to live this very moment, this very second.
Don't make me laugh with talk of future plans.
“How could I plan for the future when I have likes to get?”
I was seeing new content every few seconds.
Always waiting and searching in anticipation for the next dopamine hit.
“Do my work? I can't! I've got to be on social media!”
My work suffered dramatically because my attention span was dramatically lowered.
I was used to writing in only 140 characters and getting instant hits of dopamine via likes, hearts, and retweets.
(All things that mean nothing to the bottom line of a business.)
The things that do matter in the blog business – writing great blog articles – suffered dramatically.
I finally realized the truth one day and I deleted my social media accounts instantly.
Many people were shocked and could not understand why I simply deleted my social media accounts with no word and never looked back.
The social media addicts never understood my logic.
The people on social media think you disappeared from the world.
What they don't notice is that you actually left the virtual reality and appeared in the real world.
They were too plugged into their phones to notice you standing right next to them at the grocery store.
Those people who promote social media – like the potheads who promote marijuana – are addicts to social media.
And misery loves company.
Social media has a disastrous effect on society and well as you personally.
The joke is that social media connects people, what actually happens is that social media drives distance between people.
Instead of wanting to spend time with people face to face, you want to spend time with your “online friends” so you can continue to get your dopamine hits via likes and hearts.
Not to mention, every creative artist is doing a grave disservice to their art by using social media.
All creative work declines in quality the more the artist uses social media.
This is one reason why there are nearly zero great working artists today (Victor Pride excluded).
I've seen it time and time again, people come to me for advice, they have talent, potential, and the will to do the work.
But they can never grasp my biggest piece of advice – stay off social media and concentrate on the work.
They always end up doing the opposite.
They concentrate on social media and their work becomes an afterthought.
They never get anywhere, but social media plays tricks on them.
Because they get dopamine hits daily, they think they are accomplishing something.
But where is the work to show for it?
Nearly all good blogs have disappeared from the web.
They'll say that social media is important for building their business.
Run this test…
Ask them where there business is.
Watch them stumble over the answer.
“Oh well, I'm in the middle of building it, first I have to build an audience on social media.” – Social Media Addict
Don't even get me started on the effects social media has had on family members.
When regular people (non-bloggers) get addicted to social media, real bad things happen.
Families break up, lives get ruined, people become isolated, lonely, and turn into hermits.
They say, “You're never lonely when you have a smartphone!”
Actually, lonely is exactly what you are.
All social media companies were created by lonely recluses and hermits like Mark Zuckerberg and Jack Dorsey.
They created social media in their image.
Social Media turns you into a hermit and drives distance between all people.
All social media was invented by nerds who were socially inept and schizoid. These men were asexual, with very low sexual activity, and even involuntarily celibate.
The profile of every man who invented social media sites is always exactly the same. They created social media in their own image.
Since they were asexual, anti-social, schizoid, white men – they created a tool that was geared towards asexual, anti-social, schizoid, white men.
Then to their utter surprise and shock, social media took off and started to cater to black men and black women, very sexual people, social people, it took off in different social groups which were totally out of synch with this character.
The technology is designed for a highly specific psychology profile but is now being used by all different social groups. This creates dissonance, in-built dissonance.”
Exposure to social media encourages depression, suicide, anxiety and decreases your self-esteem.
The leading cause of death today for teens up to the age of 24 is suicide.
Quitting social media can be hard, but it must be done for your own happiness and life satisfaction.
My Monk Mode program includes a dopamine reboot/reset program that will help you overcome social media addiction, as well as internet pornography addiction and food addiction.
Monk Mode is not about isolation, regardless of what the name implies.
Monk Mode is about taking control of your life.
Monk Mode is about unplugging from addictive behaviors and creating great work that stands the test of time.
Monk Mode is about building a future for you and your family.
It is about helping you connect with real people by being a positive influence in their lives.
Frankly, it's about overcoming the petty addictions of the modern world and becoming something far greater.
Until next time.
PS – Don't forget to go into Monk Mode to build your real world. It is so necessary in the crazy world we live in.