From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: How to be the boss
I recently received this question from a B&D reader…
What kind of relationship should a boss have with employees and interns? I feel as if they start to take advantage if you are too friendly with them, but if you are cold and too professional they do not approach you and are reluctant to ask for help or to inform you about bad news.”
I'm from the world of D.I.Y.O.D.S.
Do It Your Own Damn Self.
I've never asked anybody for anything, I've never had a mentor, I've never looked up to anyone, I've never been an intern and I never knew what interns are supposed to do.
So I never even thought of having interns until I met C. in Indonesia…
I liked him right away and he said he wanted to come out to Bangkok to do some good work with me.
After I made him jump through some hoops I said sure, no problem. He was great so when Sam wanted to come out to Vietnam to do some work, I did the same.
I've never asked anyone to intern for me, they always come to me. Over the years I have had several more interns, starting with C. and ending with Red Steve.
They think they can handle life with no net. I have always made it my duty to ensure the opposite…
I don't know what the job of an intern is so I only ever did two things:
- Try to teach them little by little
- Try like hell to make them quit
I don't build them up like Tony Robbins, I break them down like Gunnery Sergeant Hartman.
Interns have to be broken down and built back up from the ground, especially the ones with college degrees. I've found the more schooling they have, the more useless they are.
My only goal with interns is to make them strong or make them quit.
It is very pointless to teach them too much, too fast. They won't retain it, they will become overwhelmed and quit.
If they're going to quit I want them to quit as quickly as possible, so I put them on non-stimulating work for a good long while.
The sooner they quit, the better for me because they are not usually a big help but a big burden.
I take them under my wing and slowly teach them the secrets of the game through the kindness of my heart, I don't make any money from them.
But for them to learn the secrets of the game, they have to make it through hell…
Interning with me is like taking a journey into hell.
I run the game like a drill sergeant.
I am cold, distant, harsh, and feared, like a drill sergeant in the armed forces or a Don in an Italian crime family.
It is better to be feared than to be loved. Let them love their dogs, me they have to fear.
To master the game, the training must be severe.
If they can handle the severity of the training and not quit, they will form the patience that success requires.
Patience is the absolute key to victory in this game.
It takes a very long time to achieve the success you require, in the meantime you have to wait for it.
The hardest thing to learn in this game is how to wait.
Do the work… then what? Money rains from the sky immediately? Get real.
Everybody knows the secret formula: do work = get paid
But there is a middle part of that equation that gets overlooked…
Do work + wait a long time = get paid
Money rains from the sky about a year after you do great work.
What happens in the meantime? You have to learn how to patiently wait.
The waiting is the ultimate hell that they have to overcome.
Hard work is not the devil, waiting is the devil.
The young guns who “want it all yesterday” cannot handle the waiting.
So instead of waiting for success, which is inevitable if you do not quit, they quit and never achieve success.
My only job is to make them quit faster.
They think they're going to be experts in a week, well, think again.
I've been in this great game of blog artistry for seven years. Some intern is going to learn what I know in seven days? Get real.
IT TAKES A LONG TIME!
It takes a long time to achieve success, and for many young men today it takes a long time for them to stop being entitled and impatient.
I will kill their impatience and entitlement or they will not be able to handle the hell I bring and they will quit.
The ones who do quit go on to do nothing. A quitter is a quitter is a quitter.
The ones who continue to do work for me go on to do good things, like Sam who is now doing great work with Vahva Fitness.
So how to be a boss?
Do everything you can to teach them the way and try like hell to make them quit every step of the way.
They have to learn to have patience, it is the most important skill to possess.
To learn patience they have to learn to be as Musashi.
No matter how tough, how hard, how blah you get…
NEVER STRAY FROM THE WAY.
This is how success is achieved and it is the only lesson anybody needs to learn.
Don't quit, especially when you want to quit. And if you do quit, you deserve everything you don't get.
For me, it is a fun game. When they quit, I win. When they last, I lose the game.
But no matter the outcome…
I always win in the end.
Until next time.
PS – Bold and Determined Vol. 2 is your example of never straying from the way.