Are you an angry man?
You are, huh.
Well then, I have a little secret for you…
Anger is not a bad thing.
Anger is fuel.
The trick is channeling the anger into worthwhile pursuits and not letting that anger get the best of you.
Being able to control your anger is what men do.
It is childish to show your anger constantly.
It is childish to not be able to control your anger, or to show your anger inappropriately.
Certainly, your anger must come out at the right time – but each time some little thing bothers you is not the right time to show your anger.
This is not repression, it is channeling.
The anger must be channeled into a higher pursuit.
I know some very angry men, it is not a life I would wish for anyone.
Even with all the baloney that you face each and every day there is still too much great to be angry all the time.
The absolute beauty of being born a free man of the west is that you are free to change your circumstances as you wish.
Maybe you had someone tell you, when you were a child, that you would not amount to anything.
And maybe you even listened to them.
But I am here to tell you right here and right now that those motherfuckers were wrong.
And it is your responsibility as an achiever to prove it.
Take that anger that you have and channel that into a project.
Channel it into power.
Don't just let it eat you. Eat that anger first and spit it out a winner.
“You want to make me angry? I will take a bite out of that anger and shit out success.” -Victor Pride
Channel Anger into Business
Take the anger and use it as energy for success.
The best revenge, the best remedy for anger, is success.
The best kind of success is the kind you have created and built for yourself.
If I were a young man I would focus 150% on building a business online.
If I were an older man with a job, wife, kids and all those other shackles I would focus 99% on building a business online and generating some nice side income.
Or I would focus on some other side business, but something that fills your time with something positive and gives you rewards on your work.
When I was a corporate man I was very angry.
Sitting in traffic, yelling in my car at the dumb motherfuckers who can't drive, moving 10 feet and then stopping for two minutes, on and on until I finally got to work or home.
Since I have made the decision to go on my own forever, I will never be forced to sit in traffic again.
I have my own personal rule: I never get on the highway between the hours of 4:30 pm to 6:30 pm. I just stay at home, laughing at all the goons stuck in traffic.
Channel Anger into Art
Art requires energy.
Energy that could otherwise go into blind anger.
I am of the belief that every man should practice art.
Art is not limited to the obvious (painting, drawing).
Art can encompass many things. Being a skilled craftsman is like being an artist.
Art can be:
- Fixing up cars
Anything that requires talent and that you have a genuine love for is art.
You can turn that anger into expression of the highest form, rather than the lowest form.
If I lived in, say, Arkansas I would be highly angry.
All it would take to remedy that would be a simple move.
If your location is not to your liking there is a very simple fix for that: move.
I cannot say this enough:
YOU HAVE COMPLETE CONTROL AND CHOICE OVER YOUR LIFE.
If you hate the area you live then pack up and find a new place.
If you hate that place pack up and find another one. There's a great big world out there.
You may even figure out that there is no place quite like home and it's not so bad.
After all, you do not know how much you have and how well you have it until it is gone.
Channel Anger into Fitness
It's hard to be angry when a hot blonde with big titties is running her hands over your abs with wide eyes.
The purpose of the gym is to get in there and work out your anger.
There is one gym rule to live your life by:
Get in that motherfucker and get to work.
Drop the weights, curl in the squat rack, stare at the ladies – do whatever the fuck you want as long as you are pushing it 110%.
It's the little guys who are constantly worried about what everyone else is thinking and if they're “doing it right.”
Let me tell you something, I don't give two shits what anyone in the gym thinks about me.
I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do and that's all there is to it. And that's why when I leave the gym I'm void of anger and pumped up on adrenaline.
Channel Anger into Jogging
When it comes to burning fat and getting jacked, jogging is the worst route to take.
On the other hand, there is a thing called runners high.
Runners high happens when you are running for a while and endorphins are released into your system.
It is like taking a shot of adrenaline, all natural and narcotic free.
I always thought it was a bunch of hippy nonsense but I found out for myself that it is very real. I am not a jogger or a runner, never have been.
Again, it is the worst way to get in shape. However, I signed up for a 12 mile death race and had two weeks to prepare.
Enter the running…
I started running one day for 25 minutes. Then the next day I would do 30 minutes, then the next day 35 minutes and so on.
I dare say that runners high is more effective than the high you get from weightlifting. It is intense and champion molding.
After pushing your body to the limit, and then pushing beyond your comfort zone and pain barrier, your body goes into runners high mode and the pain is no longer there.
It's just you and those miles adding up. In the midst of this high there is almost no better feeling in the world.
Treating men and boys like dickless curs is big, big business.
It will happen to you if you let it. Women will cheat on you. They will laugh at you.
They will treat you like you have a vagina.
IF YOU LET IT HAPPEN.
It does not happen to me. It never has.
But I have seen it happen over and over and over again.
There is an easy fucking fix: Act like a man. You have a dick, don't be shy to act like it.
Make the decision to never give your power away and it won't happen.
When your women treat you like a man instead of a girl it is hard to be angry.
Hail to the King, baby.
Avoidance of Anger Inducing Places
Grocery stores in certain parts of town make me angry (disgusted may be a better word).
For this reason I only visit high-class (super white) grocery stores like Whole Foods.
These places are always very pleasant. I shopped at one of these places exclusively for almost a year and it was pleasant beyond belief. I spent a ton on food every month, I could have had an apartment for what I spent, but it is completely worth it to not have to look at human garbage.
Under no circumstance do I visit Wal-Mart.
It is time to turn that anger into worthwhile pursuits.
Being angry and doing nothing about it or having nothing to show for it is just a waste.
Being angry and letting that fuel you, well, that's how you can create something special.
If you are an angry man, channel that anger into power and create something.
Remember friends, you can let the anger eat you up or you can turn that anger into fuel for achievement.
It worked for me.
Until next time.
PS – If you're really angry, go into MONK MODE and shit out success on your enemies.
This article was originally published on Bold & Determined on April 24, 2012.