52 Things Every Father Should Teach His Son

fatherandson-dsIn honor of Memorial Day, let’s talk about 52 things that every Father should teach his Son(s).

1) How to Throw a Ball

It breaks my heart to see little boys who don’t know how to throw a ball. They stay inside all the time eating potato chips and playing the newest video game system. Put a baseball in their hands and they look like a Deer caught in headlights. No boy should ever be caught dead throwing like a girl. When I was a youngster we had a name for all the boys who threw like girls, and it wasn’t a nice name.

2) How to Throw a Punch

Our single mommy world is raising a bunch of little pussified boys who get bullied (because they are bulliable). You’ve heard the rallying cries of “STOP THE BULLYING! STOP THE BULLYING!“. I say stop raising twinks and the bullying will stop. Each Father must teach his son how to throw a solid punch. Bullies are cowards who pick on the week, after a jab to the nose you can forget about bullies picking on you ever again.

3) How To Tie a Tie

If you don’t teach your Son how to tie a tie he is going to learn from the internet. Is the internet a better father than you?

4) The Power of Willpower

Your mind is your greatest asset and with it, and the right attitude, you can accomplish anything you set out to do. Make the decision, do not waiver in the face of adversity, and you will reap the rewards of your effort. Give in to adversity and quit and you can expect to be completely and totally AVERAGE.

5) Never Give Women Power Over You

When women have the upper hand they will use it to your peril. It is only when you hold your rightful power that women respect you. It is usually the case that men who give women power, who try and do everything to please women, who would never dream of arguing or abusing a women, that get the police called on them for “abuse”.

6) How to Build a Bookshelf

Not knowing how to use a hammer, nails, screwdriver would be highly embarrassing later in life when little Johnny has to have his nagging wife fix everything in the house.

7) Discrimination is Good

Disregard the media baloney about discrimination being bad. Discrimination is how you survive and prosper. You see a girl in a bar dressed like a slut, you can be sure she is a slut. You see a group of blacks with their pants around their mid-thighs you can be sure you don’t want anything to do with them. You see a group of Mexicans gathered around the Home Depot you can be sure they are illegals.

8) It’s Not OK to Be a Sissy

Only single mommy’s and weak daddies raise sissies. A strong father will not raise a weak child, he will teach his child the importance of stoic strength. He will teach him the importance of a “Yes, I can!” attitude.

9) Trust is Earned, Not Given

Treat everyone with respect but never let your guard down. People in this world are out to eat the weak and if you show vulnerability the Hyenas will feast.

10) The Importance of Hard Work

The years of 15-21 will mark you for the rest of your life, it is imperative that you get in some hard work so you can develop the habit of not being a lazy slob. That can mean athletics, yard work, farm work, work in the family business, or school work.

11) The Importance of Physical Fitness

Keeping your body lean and mean shows pride in yourself and your abilities. Letting yourself go is a sign of weakness, depression, and high estrogen and low testosterone.

12) Don’t Believe Her When She Says She’s on the Pill

A.P.O.E. (Always pull out early).

13) How to Swim

I was at Maya Beach, a small island in Thailand (famous for the movie The Beach) and I saw the most embarrassing sight of my life. There are two ways to get to Maya beach: The front way and the back way. If you go the front way you have to pay, so we had our banana boat driver take us the back way so we could get in for free. At the back door of Maya beach you have to park the boat in the water, jump in the ocean, and swim to the edge of the island where you climb up a rope and then up some stairs.

As we were leaving we saw some truly horrific sights. One guy COULD NOT SWIM EVEN WHILE WEARING A LIFE JACKET. He was being pulled through the ocean by a tiny little Thai man who was not wearing a life jacket. The guy in the life jacket was being dragged like a little baby by a guy half his size who was not wearing a life jacket. That man’s father failed big time. The guy looked at me, we made eye-contact and he just shrugged like “what can you do?“.

The embarrassment does not end there. The guy had a buddy WHO ALSO COULD NOT SWIM EVEN WHILE WEARING A LIFE JACKET and was being pulled by another little Thai man.

14) Competition is Great

If you play, you play to win. 2nd place is the first loser.

15) Opportunity is Everywhere

You must learn to keep your eyes and ears open and ready to take advantage of opportunity. As a man you do not wait for opportunity to present itself to you, you seek it out.

16) Know Who You Are

You will live amongst other races who covet the things you have, never forget that and never let your guard down.

17) Always Give 110%

If you are going to do something your must do it right. Never give less than your best. Your aim for perfection is what separates you from the animals of society.

18) Your Word is Special

If you say you will do something it is a must that you follow through. Never, ever be known as a liar or as a flake. Your reputation is special and must be kept in-tact.

19) How to Make Money on Your Own

Working for others to make them rich and you a pittance is what slaves do. Making money on your own is how you do for yourself.

20) Boys is Boys and Girls is Girls

and never the tween shall meet. Sex is not a social construct, it is biological. If you don’t listen to yourself and your body you are going to grow up to be very angry and confused. It is only when you know who you are and what you stand for that you can be comfortable with yourself.

21) Excuses are Useless

Excuses are for the useless and the weak who cannot do what they said they would do. Always do as you say you will do and never give excuses as to why you didn’t do something.

22) Excessive Apologies are for Pussies 

Never, ever apologize unless you have done something terribly wrong. Never end phone calls with “sorry”, never pepper your conversation with “sorry” and never BE sorry unless you truly must be. If it wasn’t your fault do not say sorry. If it wasn’t a heinous crime, don’t say sorry.

23) Girls

Girls will respond to you being a boy. They will not respond to you trying to bond with them and have things in common with them. The further away from their femininity you are the more they will be attracted to you. Tease them, play with them, treat them like a little sister and you will not have girl problems.

24) The Importance of Athletics

Sports will teach you discipline and competition and they will give you pride of accomplishment. Sports will develop your body at the point in time it is most essential to develop your body – your teenage years.

25) Be Bold

Bold action is required to reap the rewards of life. Timidity is good for nothing. If you want something you go after it and you take it. You don’t ask permission to fulfill your goals, you don’t apologize for your goals, you don’t make excuses for your goals, and you don’t give a damn about being modest in the face of lessers.

26) Discipline is a Must

You must be disciplined enough to keep your hair trimmed and clean, you must bathe regularly, you must wear clean clothes daily, you must not dress like a slob, and you must keep yourself in top physical condition.

27) Hedonism is for the Weak

The world you are brought into is a degenerate, nihilistic, and hedonistic den of sin. Most of those you see did not have the same benefits you had (a father who taught you about life). Pity them, but do not join them in their quest for self-destruction.

28) Treat Animals With Firm Kindness

You will never have a better friend in your whole life than your puppy dog. Be good to your pets because they will be good to you. Remember, son, you have friends and family and the whole world, your dog only has you. A firm swat to your dogs behind is enough discipline, but you must never take your frustrations on a helpless animal.

29) Think BIG!

Small dreams are worthless. Think BIG and get BIG results. Aim high, go for the gold.

30) You Are a Born Leader

Always lead by example and strive for the best.

31) A Higher Power

There is more to life than we know or will ever know. Never think that you know everything about everything. There is something more at work and we won’t know what it is until we die. Atheism is a form of nihilism. If there’s no God then we can just do whatever we want and not worry about consequences. Son, that’s good enough for them but your life has a purpose.

32) Save Money

Spending your money on the latest gadgets and doo-dads and not saving anything for a rainy day is stupid. You will always need a backup fund for a rainy day or for an investment opportunity. The Richest Man in Babylon is good bed-time reading.

33) Don’t Talk So Much

No one needs to know your plans except for you. Keep a lid on the motor-mouthing.

34) How to Properly Shake Hands

A firm handshake says the world about you. A limp handshake says the opposite.

35) Embrace the Future but Do Not Give Up Tradition

The future will bring some fantastic advancements but never clown on your race, your races tradition and values. That’s part of who you are and it is to be embraced.

36) How to Shave

The internet should not be a guide to life. Every son should learn to shave from his father.

37) How to Shoot A Gun

Every man should know how to shoot a gun. Especially with the world delving into chaos.  If you shoot an animal for sport be sure to eat the meat.

38) Don’t Bully or Harm But Always Fight Back

Never, ever let someone slap you around or have their way with you. You don’t start fights but you sure as hell finish them if needed.

39) The Word “No” Gives You All the Power

Never be afraid to say no. No is the most powerful word you can ever say.

40) How to Go Camping

Son, this is how you set up a tent, this is how you build a campfire, and this is how you grill meat and beans outdoors. The cooler is for ice, water and beer.

41) How to Fish

Fishing is a fun and relaxing past-time and comes with a great benefit: fresh, delicious fish to eat.

42) How to Change the Oil in Your Car / How to Change a Tire

It’s ok to take the car to a pro to get the oil changed but some day you may be strapped for cash and need to save every penny. Some day you may be on the highway far from anywhere when a tire blows, you will need to know how to put on a spare tire and not have to rely on mechanical support. Paying someone to change your tire is just a waste of money.

43) Take Road Trips

You should take road trips as often as you can. You will see parts of the country you would have never seen otherwise and road trips will be some of the fondest memories you will ever have.

44) Go to Barbers

A Barber is trained to cut men’s hair. A hair stylist is trained to cut women’s hair. Always look for the red and white Barber’s pole to find a Barber.

45) How to Cook

If you don’t know how to cook you will be one of two things: Fat or Skinny. It is imperative to know how to cook steak, eggs, chicken, pork, bacon, and fish. Those foods should be your staple foods and you can add things like potatoes, vegetables, rice, and other foods that require cooking. Fast food equals fast fat on your belly.

46) How to Lift Weights and Do Pushups

Learning proper form from a seasoned pro is better than learning from the internet.

47) Always Ask for What You Want

If the waiter brings you the wrong food tell them. If the cook made your order wrong tell them. Never be shy to get what you paid for. If your woman asks you what you want for dinner you always answer. You never say “oh, I dunno…what do you want…“.

48) Don’t Be Afraid to Negotiate

You will want to get the best possible price on the cars and houses you buy. Never pay the asking price (unless it’s a steal) and always try to negotiate the best possible price. Always pay cash money. An offer with cash in hand is often irresistible.

49) Political Correctness is How the Weak Gain Strength

Always understand what political correctness is based on: lies. People are not all the same. Black is not white. Woman is not man. Gay is not straight.

50) Travel as Often as You Can

Travel does not inherently make you a better person but it gives you life experience and a chance to see how the rest of the world lives. It will give you stories to tell for years to come.

51) Never Tie Yourself Down

Don’t tie yourself down with an un-affordable mortgage, don’t tie yourself down with a job making others richer, never tie yourself down with immense credit card or student loan debt. If you can’t pay cash, wait and save up until you can.

52) Always Keep a Positive Mental Attitude

Remember, son, whether you think you can or think you can’t you are right.

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  1. Harris says

    Great work Vic!
    First of all I am really excited to find out that my father taught me most of those and the rest I learned from reading your blog posts.

    P.S Looking forward to your book

  2. Exenith says

    This post is complete and utter truth.

    My Dad didn’t teach me a single thing. The result? I turned into a sunken, submissive, depressed loser who only ever played video games, ate junk food and stared at the ground. Think “forever alone”.

    Even though the Internet was responsible for a lot of false beliefs, it was responsible for completely transforming me. I cleaned up my act, started being social, started dating, started eating properly, started working out, started recording music. Eventually, especially thanks to this site, I learned about true masculinity, and I’m on my way to never having a job again. I’ve never been happier and more ambitious in my goddamn life. Being masculine makes a man happy.

    But I got lucky. The Internet was my father figure, and luckily it steered me in the right direction. But it doesn’t take a genius to see that’s a stupidly haphazard situation. The world is full of single mothers and weak fathers, and there’s very little you can do to change that. What you can do is raise a son the right way, and if you know a kid without a masculine father figure — become him. You’ll change his life for the better.

    • D Man64 says

      You just happened to have the smarts to learn the right things from the net.
      My father was in and out of my life and I grew up(not raised) at my aunt’s house. But I grew up with a lot of male figures in my life and I had the
      goal of joining the military since junior high.
      Since then, I was always into martial arts and fitness.

    • Marcus says

      I see how you feel.
      I am a black man. My mother had that “I don’t need no man” mentality and my father, well he was strange. Sometimes he was a man and sometimes he was weak. He taught me a few things, but the Internet helped me the most. Discrimination ironically saved my life as you had mentioned earlier. The Internet taught me that. I became a man because of the Internet.

  3. says

    “If you play, you play to win. 2nd place is the first loser.”
    One of the best quotes I’ve read on your blog so far.

    For the first time I do disagree with you on something. I find that not believing in a higher power actually makes you work harder. It requires you to find out for yourself what’s right or wrong. It also takes away the false safety net for when you need an excuse or are feeling down.

    • Victor Pride says


      I said nothing about looking to religion for moral support. When I say higher power I mean that life has a purpose.

      • Nick says

        But you did mention Atheism is nihilistic. Which I disagree as this is not true. Nihilism is for losers and winners don’t believe in God but themselves & mother nature, which is known as Atheism.

        I agree with rest of your stuff and other articles I have read here so far. Would be interested in knowing more on your modafinil experiences. Just curious what is your stand on Gay, Lesbians and Trans?

        • J.M. says

          Mother Nature hahahaha. There is no more nihilistic outlook than atheism. Our world is en route already to that destiny and its fruits show (stagnation, ruin, next stop mass slaughter…).

          By the way only idiots, sissies and feminists rely on “mother nature”. How blind does one need to be in order to believe a building can build itself from nothingness…

        • PM says

          ”winners dont believe in god but themselves” I think that if you take a look at history and present you’d realize that you are wrong. you can believe in god and yourself you know…

          • El Argentino says

            Here we go “Science vs Religion” BS, f#ck me what a waste. No one really knows and nobody really gives a f#ck.

          • Sibylla says

            When we look at history, all we see is religious wars. When we look at the present we still see wars going on because of religion. I think that you need to take a better look at history and the present.

            Furthermore, I think what he means with ” winners don’t believe in god but themselves,” is that people depend on God rather than getting things done themselves.
            For example, if someone is having a hard time, you will most likely hear them say ” I trust God, and He has a plan for me.” So, instead of actually trying to make things better, they put their trust in God (who does not exists, as far as we KNOW), and do nothing.

  4. Russ says

    @Exenith Ditto all. I seem to have had a similar experience to you. Sometimes it makes me rage and punch the wall, but there is nothing I can do about the past, only the future. I want to raise a Son, I want to do a good job and give him what I never got. I’ve even written a meditation (In a Marcus Aurelius style) around my purpose being to raise a Son and stop the cycle.

    This post is brilliant Vic, I’ve saved it and will be using it as a checklist for improving myself, how can I raise a Son to be a Man without becoming a Man myself? This is my mission in life, at least right now.

    As for Body of a Spartan. I’m really looking forward to it, a single set of guidelines to follow in Vic’s patent pending no bullshit style is invaluable.

    Today I made a slightly modified Spartan Soup (Black Soup) the main staple of the Spartan diet (Ignore that shitty spartan diet blog, it’s complete bullshit). It isincredible delicious, nutrient dense and energy pumping, I’m currently in ketosis and this soup is perfect.

    Ingredients: 500g Diced grass fed, hormone and preservative free, organic beef (formally known as beef), get some fatty cuts if you can, if not add some grass fed butter, 250g Diced Free range, hormone free blood sausage in intestine casing (couldn’t find blood on its own), Diced carrot since I had one, Dash of apple cider vinegar (stops blood congealing, Himalayan salt (contains minerals and trace elements which have been refined out of our food, similar to what spartans would have used).

    Bring water to boil, add ingredients and boil for 7-10 minutes. Don’t overcook.

    It’s delicious as hell, the only keto meal I’ve made that I love. It’s jam packed with everything a man needs, you can diced up organs, other meats, vegetables, eggs, spices to changed the flavour. I’m going to experiment with eating this everyday. Currently only eating a single evening meal and feeling great. I do my best work on a empty stomach.

    No wonder Spartans are described by ancient scholars as being tall and athletic. Give it a go.

    • Victor Pride says


      I’m too pre-occupied to make soup, it sounds delicious though. I’ve never seen the spartan diet blog. What I do lately is cook 10 lbs of pork ribs and eat them throughout 2 or 3 days. Coat the ribs with a little sea salt, shao kao seasoning (chinese bbq), cook at 450 for 50 minutes, let cool, eat and enjoy. They taste even better as leftovers. Easy peasy, japaneasy.

  5. Dan says

    Excellent article. Been thinking along this vein for awhile now, since my boy just turned 7. I was raised without a dad around, and it really messed me up for a long time. My mom did her best, but she was small in stature and prone to worrying too much about what people at her church thought, so I grew up afraid to stand up for myself. Now that I’m older with a boy of my own, every time I’m confronted with bullshit, and my old instinct is to let it slide, I think, “How can I raise my boy to be the man I want him to be if I can’t be that myself?”

    We put him in baseball and he doesn’t want to play anymore, and I don’t really blame him. The coach sucks and none of the kids on the team are having fun – just a negative experience all around. On one hand, I don’t want him to think that quitting something is okay, but on the other, he’ll learn that life is too short to put up with bullshit, especially with something that’s supposed to be fun. Tough call, one I’m struggling with.

  6. andres reng says

    I did not have a father so I had to learn most of these points by experience, thanks for all this writing, Victor. This is what kids need to learn to make a better society.

    • andres reng says

      I would add this, if you dont have a father, go to the army, that what I did when I was 15 and learnt most of what you wrote here.

  7. kronozord says

    The item number 12 is so wrong.
    I don’t think AIDS knows the APOE technique.
    Tell your son to always weare a condom that sould be number 12.

    • sipho says

      Whie that might be true you seem to imply that every unprotected sex act resutls in AIDS which is far from true.

  8. Mike says

    Great post BUT how could you forget?

    “How to dress”

    A father needs to teach his son how to dress in a neat masculine way. Otherwise he will end up following gay trends or dressing like a total slob. It’s pathetic how many 30+ year olds I know who can’t even tie a tie.

  9. Sam says

    Hey Vic the featured comment was well-deserved and I’m glad that you did that for the rest of the men to have hope for their souls. My thoughts are that I have been a father figure for so many young, poor boys and I love them more than myself. I am only 19 but I draw inspiration from the fact that my father is not a strong, confident man and he only taught me how to work. I am lacking, but I have time and energy to spare. I think when I adopt my future sons they will have the best parts of me.

  10. Tracy says

    a hard pill to swallow while I was reading a few, but after some thought, it’s a great list.

    I was a single “mommy” of a son. I truly saw the need for a strong male influence and was lucky enough to find a great man before my son was too old to bond to a “step-dad”. Although I’ve taught many of these items to my son, I don’t think I could have taught them all. At 14, I’m happy to say he is progressing well and I will print this list and put it on his wall. Thank you for putting out there a “strong” list.

  11. says

    -I like this post man, honestly- I remembered my dad. Guess he wasn’t a weak man because I’m strong. .
    I remember when I got into kid fights- my dad would give me hi five while helping me hide it from mom

  12. Rachel says

    I haven’t visited your site before and have found it an interesting read. I was looking for some things to work with my 7year old that my father may have neglected to teach to me but in fact there wasn’t much difference. By eight I could camp , had survival training, shoot a variety of weapons, cook, swim, ride bike and horse. I could play sport and as my father was in the army was able to defend myself if necessary. I actively encourage my son to participate in most of the above activities, age appropriate , and as you can see am still researching areas that I may miss owing to my gender.
    I am concerned then that you feel that us single mums allow our sons to be sissys as you put it. I did not choose this. My husband had mental health issues and left us both. It takes a strong individual of either sex to successfully raise a child alone and labelling all single mums the same is damaging to both their credibility and all our sons futures.
    Tomorrow I will be teaching my son sword fighting. And how to make a pie. I will not be teaching him to hate anyone though.

    • rodgerM says

      Single mothers should be listed on a domestic terrorist list. As much as you think you are helping your son, you are permanently damaging him. Making him into a psychopath, the best thing you could have done for him was to give your sons father a daily blow job. And if that didn’t work make it 2 or 3 or 7 a day. Cures virtually all mens “mental health issues”– as women like to put it.

      • kai says

        Rachel is being a great mother and whether or not it ruins her son depends on what kind of person he is. No matter how he was raised he will still be different (and that a good thing).

  13. says

    The 52 things a man should teach his son.

    Can You Please Elaborate On #5

    It is only when you hold your rightful power do women respect you
    whats rightful power?

    Please Post A Article On This.
    Im 21 and I currently struggle with the mother on my daughter.
    Its Like I Have To Surrender to her to even has access my daughter.
    Ive Had An Abusive Mother and now i have an abusive girlfriend.

    • luke says

      That WAS me until she actually called the police. I questioned myself for a long time after that night but this post has confirmed that to be true to myself I made the right decision to get the f#@k out.
      I think I speak on behalf of all B&D guys that its time you did the same.

  14. says

    This is the very first time I have been to this site. The title of the post caught my attention as i have my first child, and he is 8 months old. The list brought up emotion in me as I remembered some of the very things on the list that my father taught me, and was sad at the things he didn’t, but wished he had. I will subscribe to the site, and thank you for posting this.

  15. PG says

    Here are a couple more,

    Be man enough to admit when you made a mistake, and say Im sorry!

    Be courageous enough to tell those people who you truly love, that you love them!

    Street Drugs and Alcohol are for those who are running away from their problems!

    Honor your word, Integrity is everything to a man!

  16. says

    So is this just for white parents, or do you feel there are other races which have reason to teach their kids to be proud? Are there any stereotypes about white people that other races should be willing to use to prejudge whites?

    Considering global demographics, these are questions to which a lot of fathers could probably use answers. Look forward to your feedback!

  17. Jim Dorsey says


    Great job. These are great.
    Makes me appreciate what a great job Dad did.
    Would add a few:
    to not be afraid, not to fail, not to win, not at all…
    how to respond to a loss… (work harder)
    how to respond to a win… (work harder)
    how to face the inevitability of death…
    how to face challenge and adversity…
    how to raise expectations in the face of disappointment…

    You have many that are priceless reminders. Thanks…

  18. nat says

    Here is the sad twist. My dad raised me like most of those points. Which made me tough. However this is effecting me raising my now 6 yearold. Iam too hard on him and will eventually break his personality if I did not change. He is a stubborn kid which makes our battles more often . My ponit is there is a certain age and maturity level for each of the above. And the level is set by your son.

  19. Dan says

    your posts are always great, and i always read something original and innovative in each one. but sometimes i read things that are a so blunt that they end up being a little vague i dont know quite what youre trying to say. what exactly do you mean “black is not white”?

  20. Braggi says

    “A.P.O.E. (Always pull out early).”
    Are you kidding? That doesn’t even prevent pregnancy and it doesn’t begin to prevent the spread of STDs. How about, “Learn how to use a condom and use one every single time until AFTER you’re married and ready to have kids?”

    Thanks for most of these great rules.

  21. Jeff S. says

    7) Discrimination is Good
    You are right, but you could have had more variance.

    -You see a bunch of college-aged drunk white men and you can assume some homosexual activity will occur.

    -You see a group of country white men who love guns and Jesus you should avoid them if you are a black or mexican male.

    -You see a white girl who is interested in minority men- assume she is a slut who will cry rape if her daddy finds out. Avoid her.

    – You see a group of white women in the HR office- assume they are a bunch of gossiping hags who you should avoid telling any personal business to.

    -You see a white police officer- first check the town you are in. If it’s too white, crawl on your knees while bleeding to death until you reach the next city before you ask for help.

    We all should learn to be very selective. Great post!

  22. Curtis says

    A Father should also teach his son on how to take care of a car or know how to drive a stick. Moms aren’t going to teach their sons that.

  23. David says

    12) Don’t Believe Her When She Says She’s on the Pill

    A.P.O.E. (Always pull out early).

    – Whatever happened to ‘wear a condom’? Pulling out early won’t do anything really..

    Apart from this, nice post man, spot on

  24. Michael says

    Loving the post, man. I have something to say about the second one.

    What I say now is the truth.

    When I was four, my dad taught me how to throw a right cross and follow up with a left hook. In fifth grade some fatass bully tried to bully me into giving him some money. He never came back to that school after that day.

    Props to my dad, one of the greatest guys I have ever known, who taught me that a solid punch is the only way to deal with those fuckers called bullies.

  25. FathersBuildMen says

    Dammit, 7 and 49 throw me off being “black” amongst other mixtures…(though never with my pants to my waist – which is stupid) (side note that isn’t just a black thing)…okay…but whatever…not sure of what your motivation there was, don’t really care…the rest of the article pretty much Kicks A$$…Got 2 Boy’s myself (under 4) and already teaching to build stuff with their hands, how to think big…how to make their own luck/money/fortune/dreams etc…How TV/Politics/VideoGames etc. are distractions and how we pull ourselves up..not count on others.. Anyhow…appreciate the words…(Again for the most part)…but you do have the disclaimer saying you are not trying to be politically correct…so definitely not looking for you to justify (not that you would) – Also…side note…Steak/Eggs etc. (no processed, no sugars) way to go…

  26. says

    Thinking BIG is something I’m teaching my SON at the moment. Recently I took him to London Eye where he could see the city from up high. Little treats like these help to broaden the horizon so they can think big when they grow up. Another great post VP.

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  28. christina says

    Hi my boyfriend didn’t have his father around to teach him a lot of things like shaving and stuff like that. He just really needs someone there for him. Should I teach him since i have 3 brothers and I know what he needs to learn or what should I do someone please help me.

    • TheGreyWolf says

      Unless you are his wife, you are the last person that should be training him in the ways of being a man. You teaching him these things would be emasculating for him. It would be synonymous with him teaching you how to cook, how to apply your makeup, and how to change your tampon.

      You love him. You care about him. Everyone gets that. Help him find a viable resource; his uncle, his older brother, trusted youth leader in the church or from a scouting experience. Do not choose a man from ‘your’ side of the equation.

      Honestly, this entire website would help him plenty.

      The following two articles would help him instantly;



      Beyond that, I would encourage him to go to the archives button at the top of this page, read one blog post a day and all the comments attached, starting with the very first post on November 20th, 2010. Each day he should read the next blog post and all the comments.

      Do not involve yourself in this process. You are not his mommy or his daddy. If you assume any part of either of these roles it will damage your boy/girl thing and you will not be fulfilled as a woman because he will not be operating as an independent, autonomous man.

      Knowing your ages would be helpful, but if you are both old enough to be aware of your sexuality in relation to each other, then all of this stuff applies.

      I’m 53 years old and have six boys. I know what I’m talking about.

      If you would like to know how to be a great compliment to him, the perfect ying to his yang, just ask.

      I won’t offend you by offering you information you didn’t ask for.

    • kai says

      Yes, man need to learn one way or another getting someone to do it (as AIS said) would be great, but if you can’t, yes.

  29. AIS says

    While I agree with most of the points in this list, there are a couple of things I am sure could have been touched on better than they were. I agree men shouldn’t let women have power over them, but also women should not allow men to have power over them either. A strong relationship is a give and take thing, full of love and respect each for the other. It’s not supposed to be about who wears the pants in the family. Pulling out early will not help you. Always, always, always wear a condom!! Can’t stress that enough! Finally if Little Johnny has a nagging wife, maybe he doesn’t follow through on anything he says making his wife feel like she has to nag in order to get anything done. Just saying….

  30. James says

    I wish I had someone who could have taught me these points when I was a child. This is one if the better, if not the best article I’ve read on the internet to date. Thank you.

  31. A says

    I think your views are pretty sexist and corrupt. To blame it all on single moms is a fallacy in itself. You think some of us single moms wanted to be single moms? I would give anything to not have to shoulder all the responsibility of caring for my son and daughter. Also, it’s the fathers responsibility to teach his son how to treat women. It’s a fathers job to stick around to make sure his son doesn’t end up exactly like my son’s deadbeat father (my daughters father pays child support and I work full time). You certainly can’t blame everything on single mommies. How about using a condom instead of pulling out? I got pregnant using the pullout method. Who is to say my son will be a pussy because I’m raising him alone. I believe in tough love. He falls and gets hurt, I don’t run to his aid because if he was hurt badly enough he’ll seek that comfort. He is disciplined. He pees standing up and he has a father figure. His uncle is a stand in father for him until I meet a suitable partner. My son is not a pussy.

    • Victor Pride says

      “It’s a fathers job to stick around to make sure his son doesn’t end up exactly like my son’s deadbeat father (my daughters father pays child support and I work full time).”

      You’re a piece of trash. Have a nice day.

    • Michael says


      Being a single mother is a trial I could never dream of undertaking. You have my respect. Do not let the rantings of an XYY male disuade you.

  32. Jeff says

    You have some great ideas
    You have some horrible ideas
    You need to treat women as Christ would
    You can write me anytime

  33. Lisa says

    Pulling out won’t stop pregnancy. Teach using a rubber. Teach keeping your sperm contained. Dispose of the rubber, so no one can get the contents. Teach respecting your sperm, it’s sacred, sterile sauce that shouldn’t be dripping out of skankie women or wiped on dirty socks your mom washes.

  34. Michael says

    This should be titled “How to train your White Supremest, Chauvinistic, Homophobe.”

    I’ll agree with a good number of these… Strong hand shake, eye contact, knowledge of basic tools, etc… But a lot could be said for basic self respect, honor, courage, and a strong moral compass.

    At 29, my Dad is still the man I want to be when I grow up… But I can appreciate that some of his views were backwards and old. This sounds like a perfect way to raise a son in the 50’s but the world has moved on.