When 18 year old boys email me asking for advice the number one thing they feel is REGRET.
They feel regret for what they think is a wasted opportunity.
They feel like they didn't act soon enough, now it's too late for them and that it's all over.
I got bad news for you, boys…
It probably is over for you … unless you do something about it right now.
You're 18 and you have your whole life in front of you but that does not change this one iron-clad rule of life: IT'S NOW OR NEVER.
When you're a young gun you feel like every move is life or death. You feel like:
“I have to do it now because tomorrow is too late.”
And that's the right attitude to have. You gotta go now and if you don't, you're stuck forever.
I could lie and say you have all the time in the world but you don't have all the time in the world.
If you don't take action today you will regret it tomorrow, like everybody else does.
From young Alexander to ol' Grandpa Joe…
Most people feel regret and do nothing about it.
Do you know what emotion dying people experience the most?
Dying people made bad decisions and wasted their entire lives. On their death bed it hits them like a ton of bricks…
“Oh my God. What did I do with my life?”
Imagine living your whole life and never doing what you're meant to do, never fulfilling your destiny and being a slave your whole life. Ouch.
Feeling regret right now is totally normal. It's also totally normal to feel regret when you die. In fact…
It's totally normal to live your entire life feeling regret.
What's not normal is living life without regrets, being free and being happy.
See, people naturally don't live up to their potential.
They feel like they can always “do it later.”
But laziness and inaction catches up to everyone … and all of a sudden later comes and they haven't done anything.
Tomorrow you must answer for what you did today.
If what you did today wasn't enough, then you can expect a visit from the regret fairy tomorrow.
You feel regret now? GOOD. You should feel regret. Use it as fuel.
Feeling regretful for missing an opportunity is the right thing to feel.
Your body is saying to you “we missed this one, don't miss the next one.”
If you don't take action today you will regret it tomorrow.
The decisions you make and the actions you take right now decide what will happen to you tomorrow.
ALL YOU HAVE IS RIGHT NOW.
You have right now and that's all you have.
If you waste too many of your todays you'll be on your deathbed tomorrow crying about your wasted life just like Grandpa Joe.
But it doesn't have to be that way…
I said a million billion times already you have a million billion opportunities today that didn't exist even ten years ago.
You can be a passenger or you can be a driver and it's entirely up to you.
You don't have to follow the same path that Grandpa Joe followed, he came from a different era. His opportunities were far less than yours.
Grandpa Joe did what he HAD to do. You can do what you WANT to do.
Can you spot the difference?
Grandpa Joe didn't have much of a choice and he regretted it when he died.
When you die, with all the choice you have, will you regret it too?
If you don't want to feel regret you have to live life by this one principle:
ALL YOU HAVE IS RIGHT NOW.
Right now, you youngsters and many other people feel intense regret.
You feel like you waited too long, missed an opportunity and it's over for you.
You're partially right. You may have missed an opportunity but new ones will emerge.
The trick is to let your regret fuel you into not missing another opportunity.
Your brain is saying “we missed the last one, don't miss this next one” and you gotta listen.
Each second you wait is a second you waste and you may not get another one.
A wasted opportunity is a wasted opportunity no matter how old you are.
Just because “you have your whole life ahead of you” doesn't mean you can be lazy and slow because you cannot be lazy and slow.
If you're lazy and slow, the next thing you know you'll be on the deathbed and you'll be saying “Oh my God, I wish I had done this or that…”
But by then it's too late.
It's now or never and you have to start right now.
Yesterday don't mean shit and tomorrow don't mean much more.
It's all about right now and right now I will show you the #1 rule you must follow to live life well….
The #1 rule to live well:
ALL YOU HAVE IS RIGHT NOW.
Make it count.
Until next time.
PS – There are 2 articles coming soon that you will love.
1. 18 Years Old? How to Earn a College Degree Without Earning a College Degree. It's for 18 year olds specifically. You'll love it.
2. The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying (and how to live with no regrets). This article shows you the powerful top 5 regrets of dying men and I show you how you can turn those 5 regrets into fuel for a great life.
You won't want to miss these 2 life-changing articles. Enter your email address in the box below and I'll send you an email when these 2 articles are live. Enter your email address right now because tomorrow is too late.
While you wait for those 2 great articles to drop, you can to read these great articles for 18 year olds:
- 18 Things Every 18 Year Old Should Know
- Unconventional Advice for Young Men
- 5 Ways to Set Yourself Up for Success in Your 30s
Talk soon, boys. Whatever you do, bookmark Bold & Determined because more is coming soon specifically for you.