How to Pick the Right Wife
You have two options: You will get married or you won’t get married. If you will get married then this article is for you. We will not review whether or not you should get married but we will review how to pick the right wife.
Picking the right wife is of utmost importance. Marriage is a life-long commitment and requires a great deal of forethought. Getting married without a plan and without any forethought is a terrible decision.
Getting married is a business decision. Marriage is a contract between two entities. You’ve got to enter into it with the ruthless mind of a determined businessman for it to work.
You’ve got to pick the right wife like a businessman picks a company to invest in. It shouldn’t be left to chance (“love”) – you’ve got to be pro-active, know what you want and then go after it.
Marriage isn’t about love or connecting with your soul-mate. Those are inventions of TV and movies. Marriage is an exchange of resources. Your wife shall provide A and you will provide B. If you’re wife doesn’t, or won’t, provide her share then she should not have the privilege of marriage with you.
Marriage is a contract and you’ve got to try your hardest to make sure that contract is re-inforced. You cannot make the best decision when you’re emotionally love-sick like a 16 year old school girl. No businessman who wants to stay in business will sign a contract in an emotional state of mind and no man who wants to stay married will sign all of his power away just because he loves her. It takes rational, clear-headed planning and thinking to pick the right wife material.
There are only two reasons a man should ever get married:
1) He wants to start a family.
2) His career or political ambitions demand he has a wife (he is interested in going into politics). We will not talk about this except to say that a political wife is for show and show only. For this article we will assume the reader falls into the first category.
There is absolutely no other reason to ever get married. Love is not a reason to get married. When you get married you sign all your power over to your wife – it must be of some benefit for you to do so. That benefit is to grow old with your family.
The goals of a marriage should be:
1) Minimize the chance of divorce theft and child robbery.
2) Maximize wife’s happiness with her wifely and motherly duties (the complete opposite of everything you will see, read or hear). It’s not about empowerment (or any other buzzword designed to kill the modern family), she should be completely devoted to her family. True happiness for a woman comes from her family, it does not come from her career, or her “independence”, or her sexually liberated point of view.
3) Have a healthy, happy family with well educated, respectful children – non-sissified sons and girlish daughters with strong family values.
Be honest about what you want:
Most men don’t want an “independent, empowered” woman. That’s code for bitchy slut with a chip on her shoulder.
We all want a sweet, nice, joyful, feminine woman who treats her man like a King.
Bullshitters will suck up to the dregs and say the opposite in a futile attempt to get some action. These poor suckers get shit on the most and never understand why. Hear this gentlemen – women love men who go after what they want, who don’t take a woman’s BS seriously, and treat her like a woman, not like a man in drag. Women hate suck-ups as much as they hate stepping in dog poop on the street. To a woman, a male suck-up is less than human.
Divorce:
There is no denying that marriage is a very, very bad deal. When you get married you immediately give your wife all the power over your money and your children. “No-fault” divorce really means “his-fault” divorce. If you wife is to decide she wants a divorce she can have all the benefits of being married and none of the drawbacks. Divorce is theft from the man. It’s a redistribution of wealth from men to women. She can live off of your paycheck via alimony and child support and she can keep your children and raise them in a single-mother or step-daddy household. She has the complete and full support of Papa Government behind her. In the eyes of the law she can do no wrong and you can do no right. And there is nothing you can do about any of that. That’s why you have to choose the right wife in the first place to eliminate much of that risk.
Steps should be taken to minimize the chances of divorce. You must take extra special precaution to choosing the right wife so you can avoid the possibility of a financially devastating and family ruining divorce.
When to get married:
The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with.
Now remember, 30 years old is the starting age to think of marriage. That doesn’t mean you should get married at 30 or by 30. Anytime between 30-45 is a good time to tie the knot. Between the ages of 30-45 is when a mans marriage value is at its highest.
We have spoken about the need for a good woman here. In the following section we will look at how to determine good women from bad women.
The top 12 rules for picking the right wife to maximize a happy life and minimize the chance of divorce…
1) She should be young.
The woman should 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age.
A womans body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.
It’s a trade off, she gives you her good years and you put up with her in her bad years. Never take a woman already in her bad years.
Women do not age well. “Cougars”, older women that younger men find irresistable, are an invention of the movies. Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years have a lot of random sex and now they want to find a sucker who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don’t be that sucker.
A young body is especially important for bearing children. Old women cannot have and don’t have healthy children. At 30 years of age a woman is already 15 years past her child-bearing prime.
But I like talking to smart women. 20 year olds are stupid.
Her IQ won’t grow much with age. A dumb 20 year old is a dumb 30 year old. The difference is that the 30 year old dumb woman is a lot more bitter and has a whole lot less to offer.
2) She has to come from an intact family with original mother and father.
No step-mommies and step-daddies. Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies. You want an emotionally healthy wife. Women who grew up with divorce have too much baggage, use sluttery as a way to get attention from daddy, and will not know how to act in a proper family setting.
3) She cannot believe in divorce or even imagine getting a divorce.
If she mentions the word ‘divorce’, what to do in case of divorce, praises a friend who got a divorce, or says divorce is an option then she is not a keeper. Throw her back in the water and go fishing some more.
To make a marriage work, both the man and wife must think of divorce as no option at all.
4) She must have the natural body type you prefer.
Every woman will gain a few pounds when they settle with a man. It’s unavoidable. What is unacceptable is a woman blowing up to whale proportions. If a woman was once very fat, lost the weight on crash diets and ultra-gym sessions, that weight will ALL come back plus more when she gets married.
If she has to constantly diet and go to the gym she is about to blow up like a balloon when the ring is on her finger and the vows are spoken.
You must pick the natural body type you like. That means she must have the same body type her whole life, never yo-yo’ing up or down in weight.
She should have a pretty face. When her body goes the only thing that will be left is her face and you will have to see it every single day.
5) She must be image conscious.
A woman who gets pig-fat after marriage is a disgrace to herself and her family. She must be aware of her image and keep her body trim for you. Women will always gain a few pounds after marriage, but there is a difference between a few pounds and one hundred pounds. Take a look at all the women in her family, if they are all pig-fat it’s a good idea to walk away as fast as you can. You will have to see your wife daily, you don’t want to be thinking about skinning some bacon off of her back to cook breakfast.
6) She must be family oriented and not career oriented.
This is going to be the mother of your children and the keeper of your house. An Ass-kicker doesn’t need two incomes, he can provide, what he needs is a keeper of home and heart.
Two income households leave the raising of their children to expensive day cares and schools, and then mommy goes to work so they can afford to pay for day care and babysitters.
I don’t want children.
Don’t get married. The only reason to get married is to have a family.
But I want a career woman.
Doesn’t matter, even if she is a career woman when you meet she will not be when she is older. No woman wants to work but it takes some of them a long time to figure that out. They waste all their youth playing/working their career and then realize what a huge mistake they made and leave their jobs to take care of their (quite possibly retarded – that’s what happens when old ladies have babies) child. How many 45 year old married female lawyers or other professionals do you know?
The women who work in middle age do so because they have no choice and they whine about it every day of their life. They would give anything to leave their jobs and take care of their family instead.
No woman truly wants to work. Work is a mans world and always will be. A woman’s work should be in the home taking care of the home and children.
7) She must be a “good” girl.
She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a whore into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.
Are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are sluts?
Yes.
The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced in about 6 years and lose most of your money, possessions, and your children.
If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she is changing then you are being foolish and you are being played. It’s going to end badly for you when you get hitched to a woman like this.
Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient.
8) She must have no problem signing a pre-nuptial agreement.
A Pre-nup probably won’t save you much money, if any, in the case of divorce but her signing a pre-nup does one very important thing for you: it shows you she is serious about making the marriage work.
9) She should change herself for you.
When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform with you. Her new favorite food will become steak and eggs, she will enjoy watching all six Rocky movies with you, and she will do things to please you she has never done or liked before.
I don’t want a woman who flip-flops!
A woman who doesn’t flip-flop is a woman who does not respect you.
Women are not men and should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love. She should not be degraded for that because that’s what ‘keepers’ do.
10) She must look up to you and respect you.
Women marry up and men marry down, since the dawn of marriage. If she looks down on you she will leave with your money and your children. You’ve got to be a man that she can look up to, admire, love and respect – always.
11) She should not have any children from a previous affair.
In the animal kingdom when a Lion takes over a pride he kills the cubs of other Lions.
Raising someone else’s child is cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent.
If you raise someone else’s child you will be taking care of another mans seedling and there will always be another man in the picture.
Be selfish and keep your wife and children to yourself. They should be yours and only yours. Don’t settle for another mans leavings and sloppy seconds.
Here is what women with children do: They have unprotected sex with a stud, get knocked up, and look for a sucker to raise the bastard.
or..
She has already been married, had children, and then divorced the father and left.
In each case the woman is unfit for marriage.
12) She should be a smiler.
She should smile when she sees you. Her eyes should light up. She should be excited each time she sees you and reward you with her beautiful smile.
A big, bright shining smile from a pretty girl is worth more than any university degree she has, worth more than any job she has, worth more than any other baloney modern women wrongly believe makes them attractive to men.
You want a happy woman. You don’t want a frowning, nagging, pessimistic bride.
Always pick a smiling, warm, happy-go-lucky woman to share your life with.
Things to remember:
American women have been indoctrinated since birth to believe in and embrace divorce. They have been indoctrinated and instructed to believe that their feminine instincts are wrong and bad. This causes a great deal of confusion in their minds and, to put it plainly, many of them are unfit for marriage and raising a family. Especially avoid women who use psychiatric drugs and especially avoid women who go to therapy. Therapy only makes women more insane and teaches them to blame men more for their problems.
Party girls are for fun, good girls are for marriage.
If a woman cannot or will not cook daily, how will she ever care for children? She can’t. To raise non-fat children you must marry a woman who can and will cook.
As a man your options do not dwindle as you age. Your options only increase with your age and wealth. Conversely, as a woman ages her options plummet. That’s because men age gracefully, like a fine wine, and women age like milk. That’s why you must pick a beautiful young lady. It is highly advisable for a man to wait until he is a little older to get married. 30 years of age is an acceptable starting age for a man to start thinking of marriage.
Never, ever take advice from a woman on how to be attractive to women. Be nice, be yourself, be courteous, buy her gifts only works to put you in the friend zone and rightfully so because it’s pathetic behavior.
You should avoid women who have a lazy, entitled, “me-first” attitude.
Don’t let your wife have complete and utter control of the home decor. You don’t want to live in emasculation-station with throw pillows and doilies and dolls and flowers everywhere.
Men are not women and women are not men. Things that women should do do not apply to men and vice versa. Double standards exist. That’s life.
You are the leader. She is the follower. Lead her.
When she loves and respects you she will enjoy all things about you. She will not demand and nag you into changing. If you smoke a big fat cigar and your clothes smell like an ashtray she will enjoy the smell. She should want to sleep in one of your shirts because it has your smell. That’s the power you should have over your wife for her to be happy and content.
If she’s a nagger before marriage then that is a sign you need to give her her walking papers. Nothing is going to get better with marriage, it will only amplify.
Marriage should be old school traditional for it to work. Pick a non-traditional woman and have some baloney non-traditional marriage and you can expect non-traditional results: Alimony payments, child support payments and seeing your children every other weekend.
Never get married just because. Have a purpose and a reason for the things you do.
Getting married is a dangerous proposition – make sure you know how to swim before you dive in head-first.
Dealing with the one who got away:
There are over 3 billion women in the world. The median age for women the entire world over is 29 years old. There are millions of women who are possible marriage material. “She” isn’t the one or your soul-mate or other baloney. There are millions just like her. And if she was your soul-mate you’d still be together. Let her go and move on. There are plenty more where she came from.
Personal recommendation from BOLD & DETERMINED to find a suitable wife:
Picking a woman from your own country and culture is always the best solution. Unfortunately, there is wholesale, systematic destruction of marriage and family in many 1st world countries, especially America and England, which has narrowed the options tremendously. One may have a broader selection if he were to go abroad to another country country where marriage and family are still valued. But, and this is a big but, think long and hard before you marry a woman of another race and father half-breed children.
Remember, it is best to marry a woman of your culture and race. If that option is unappealing for the reasons described above there is a whole, big, wide world for you to choose from.
Conclusion:
Growing old alone and with no children to carry on your name seems a worse prospect than following this checklist and picking the best wife you can.
Civilization exists because of the nuclear family. Certainly marriage has been tainted in the last 50 years, to the detriment of all, but if you make smart decisions you can cut down your risk tremendously.
If you are going to get married, do it the smart way.
If you aren’t going to get married go ahead and have a beer.
Good luck and Godspeed.
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I am curious about your views on adoption. Do you consider that “cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent?”
Also, you have suggested in previous posts that you will likely someday get married. Is getting married important to you?
Adoption is a great thing for children whose parents cannot raise them and for parents who cannot have children. Everybody wins.
Yes, I believe having a family is important. I would also say it is better to never marry and have a family rather than divorce and lose custody of your children. Which is the option many are taking.
This is great..Unfortunately, this western culture nonsense has now spread all over the world, including my hometown (Nigeria.) It’s almost like the Nigerian women want to be even more “American” than the American women..George Clooney is smart for not getting married. My Nigerian uncles always advised me not to marry an American woman, especially not an “Akata” (That’s a Nigerian nickname for Black Americans), but what they don’t realize is that Nigerian women are becoming even worse!
That’s unfortunate for Nigeria. The trend is going worldwide, but there is plenty of time to get a good woman while the gettin’s good.
Victor, These posts are relentless!!!
Here in Australia which is a super multicultural continent almost all the women here are but poisoned by the Westernized ways. Ill never even consider dating a girl here as there becoming more like blokes. Even if they are awesome, pure & amazing n just come from Sth America or Asia, in just a few months they completely change for the worse because they want to be like the rest of the women in the surrounding society here they envy these hood rats. Super stuck up demanding rough loud mouths.
When i was in Colombia, Brazil, Argentina, Thailand & Philippines i wanted to marry a different girl there every week it felt. In time my future wife will be from 1 of these places. Also ill be careful to not have her in this country Australia to be seduced by the materialistic ways and spoiled. Better i reside in 1 of these fascinating Countries when i decide where and who.
Yes, I think if you are going to marry a foreign bird it is best to live in her country. Take her away from the grounding influence of her family and put her right smack dab in sex and the city-land and she’s going to go nuts.
Your best option is to pick a solidly middle class woman. For some reason guys who pick up foreign girlfriends and wives completely overlook everything about her except for her perceived sweetness. If you marry a foreigner you’ve still got to run the checklist to pick a good one.
Victor I stumbled upon this site by accident. No-nonsense. Absolutely love it. This is for a fuckin man not pussys.
Welcome aboard, brother.
Hey Victor awesome post. I am curious about your views on marrying outside your race? Awesome blog
Well, after giving it much serious deliberation, I don’t think it’s a good idea. Half breed children often feel lost and alienated like they belong neither here nor there. Racial identity is very important even though our tv’s will tell us differently.
Imagine having children who don’t even look like you. Imagine people sneering at your children. Why give them such a disadvantage right from the start.
Highlighted, copied, pasted, and saved into my personal notes; fantastic stuff.
I’m curious, in particular, about the logistics of older men (35-45) meeting younger women (20-25) (i.e. how to meet younger women without being the lone “weird/creepy” older guy at a restaurant or club where most youth hang out.)
For men 35+:
Be someone she is attracted to. Take care of yourself very well. Don’t go to dance clubs lone wolf style trying to meet a good girl. Don’t think of yourself as creepy (unless you are creepy, then fix it).
1) Be in excellent physical shape (testosterone replacement and human growth hormone are your friends)
2) Have impeccable style
3) Have a large bank account
If you want to meet young women you must remember this one magic word, “Hi”. Spoken with sincerity and eye-contact there is little else you need. If she’s into it you’ll get her number. If she isn’t into it move on to the next one.
Every young woman is on the internet, it’s not a bad place to search.
Great post Vic. I’d like to second ‘Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy.’ since I was such a child. You know it wasn’t until I joined a sailing club that I realized how messed up my idea of what a man is. The sailing club was full of rich successful family men who owned yachts and men who wern’t that rich or conventionally successful but owned and sailed yachts anyway because they wanted to, you got a problem with that? Up until that point most the men I’d met were one of my Mother’s boyfriends. A 100 names but to me they were all called Paul. Every single one was a hapless beta who was only delighted to get with an aging women and put up with her existing kids. No wonder my model of reality was distorted.
Before I get married I’m going to hide some money away in a tax haven. As little as $50k would allow you to escape after a divorce (child abadonment aside) and head to SE Asia to start again.
I’ve just spent 23 of that last 28 hours hiking up a mountain and back. This gave me a lot of time to think. I’ve decided to concentrate on business only this year, expending no effort on women. I’m also going to register my second company in Hong Kong when I fly through this Summer and maybe take a peak at China to see if I’d like to go live there. The land of opportuneties they say and it sounds like a nicer place to live (http://www.henrymakow.com/ex-patfindsmorefreedom.html). Fuck women, do exciting things and make bank, then pick up a fresh young wife when you’re 35~.
About going to China:
I met a local guy here two weeks ago. He made $260kAUD last year setting up vineyards in China. I have no reason not to believe him. Most the vineyard owners around here would be better off working for minimum wage in a supermarket. It seems there’s money to be made teaching the Chinese how to compete with Western industries, and since we’re ‘one world’ now and nationality is just a piece of paper why not leave a decaying country for a rising country?
Russ,
Excellent comments, like usual. Hiding some money is a very smart move. Be glad you aren’t American, we have a real liability when it comes to international banking.
That was an interesting article. I do find myself freer in communist china than in the us. That goes for me as a White foreigner, Chinese don’t have it the same. Even in a place like China where the women aren’t so feminine you see a huge difference in the way they act (they still act like women) and the man hatred just isn’t here.
When you’re in HK it’s an easy trek through the border into Shenzhen and you can take a gander at China.
spot on as usual, vic. i married the wrong woman and am paying dearly for it. luckiy she was more into her career than her kids so i had it written into the decree that i get the kids everyday after school until 6pm. i work a night shift job. luckily we divorced while i was still relatively young and in good shape. i have always dated younger. there are 25 26 year old women in every gym and bookstore that love older guys, i am 42 now and still have never dated a woman over 30. i am not looking to get married again anytime soon, i am enjoying myself way too much, but i can say that everything you said in your 12 rules is right.
i would also add that the demise of our society and family values started with women in the workplace. that leads to greed, affairs, and children being raised like animals by other women not even in the kids family. there is no way they have your kids best interest at heart if they have 20 others to watch. and if your kid is a little rambunctuos then they probably get tons of time alone in “time out”. no way my kids ever went to day care. i manned up, got a night job, and raised them myself.
i just discovered your web site last week. it is my new favorite. i am starting the 30 days and steak and eggs diet monday. i also discovered the vince gironda 8×8 workout and will give that a shot.
keep encouraging the ass-kickers and real men! i love to watch the news with my dad…he says “that fella just needs an ass kickin” about 20 times every news cast, and he is right!
ROLL TIDE!
John,
You’ve done better than most divorced dads. And yes, the worst thing that ever happened to the western world is feminism/women’s suffrage/whatever you want to call it. Women going to work to pay other women to watch their children. It’s absolutely disgusting.
Agree with everything except for leaving marriage till your 30s. It’s true that men remain attractive (or even become more attractive) as they get older. So that’s not the issue. But I’m not sure that a social model in which men are wild in their 20s before settling down and marrying young women in their 20s is going to work. If men model a “wild party lifestyle” in their 20s, then won’t that influence young women in ways that will make them unsuitable for the men in their 30s? And, if large numbers of men are marrying women in their 20s, doesn’t that mean that many men in their 20s are going to be unable to find partners? And will an unsettled lifestyle in your 20s, really set you up for being a good husband in your 30s? And how old do men want to be for their children? You write that anything up to 45 is OK, but a 45-year-old embarking on family life is going to be old as his children grow up and if his son were to do the same thing he won’t be there as a grandfather. Personally, I think mid-20s is the ideal time for most men to marry, though I admit that some men will hit their straps and their peak attractiveness to women a little later, perhaps early 30s.
Mark,
I wouldn’t necessarily disagree with your statements, if it were a different time under a different set of circumstances. But the game has changed. Marriage is a complete and total raw deal. If the young men of today want to partake they should be very smart about it because if/when it goes wrong it has disastrous consequences. Most mid twenties men can’t support a family with their wages. It takes time to make some dough. In another world I would agree with you, but in this world we have to make the best of a bad situation.
Victor great post glad I found you from the In malafide links. I concur with nearly all of it and they key for long term happiness has to do with marrying a woman who aims to please and make you happy as the #1 goal.
absolutely right brother.
About the half breeds i think this even applies to a white American dad & white non-American mom. My mom is foreign and i feel like i don’t fit in. My wife is the same, foreign mom, American dad – though her mom is Asian.
Victor, correct me if i am wrong, but haven’t you praised Asian women, even as possible wives? I, too, like Asian women and could settle-down with one, but agree with much of this post. Kind of a win-lose situation. If you feel so highly about Asian women, are you willing to overlook or ignore your own advice?
Pete,
I have given this considerable thought. It isn’t a matter of liking Asian women or not, it is a matter of the children being halfies, neither here nor there. Like James said above, it is better for the children to be the same as both parents.
I didn’t make it one of the 12 rules, but I think anyone who wants to marry foreign should give much serious consideration as to how happy and adjusted the children will be. Since I do not think anyone should get married unless they want children it is a big issue. Just my 2 cents.
Excellent post, sir. I’ve seen alot of posts about marriage lately in my blogroll so I felt compelled to comment on one of your reasons to get married which is to start a family.
I stopped dead in my reading tracks.
I disagree that you must be married to start a family as marriage is a religious institution, family is not. Marriage is completely unnecessary for starting a family, as if it would negate the fact that a child is the product of combined genetic information. One can start a family, raise his children, and make his woman happy without this silly contract.
agree to disagree.
Hey, Victor. One of my 5 friends showed me your website a few weeks ago and I have been reading it every since. I’m 19 and live in the small town of Searcy AR. This town is defiantly a redneck town and most all the female species are nasty slutty animals. However there is a collage (with decent girls) and a coffee shop that I frequent almost every day, and I sit and watch people and can tell you what each person does with his or her life every day without ever talking to them. My few friends say that I am a creep, witch is true but I don’t know what else to do with my life. I don’t want to do the collage thing because that’s four years of life my gone by. I just recently got a job at the local Filipino reasturaunt making $3.75 an hour plus tips… I work two days a week, that’s about $40 a week. My future looks promising doesn’t it? I have been thinking of starting a pressure washing business. It would be $1100 for the pressure washer and I have a truck so that’s all it would take. My brother is a graphic designer so he would make the business cards and flyers and possibly a website. I could make indecent living. But my problem is that I don’t want to be 48 and still be washing some pissed off grandpas driveway. Have a wife that is just always in the “oh whatever” mood. I want to not be like every other person in Searcy. I want to be able to have a beutiful wife with a few kids living in a house that I want to build (it would be a container home) be able to have money saved up so we can travel the world and crap. I just don’t want to be old and crabby. Oh and I’ve never dated a girl before there is a girl that I watch and the coffee shop and I recently was going through a Facebook friends, friends, friends list and found her and was looking through her pictures and saw a picture she had taken of me eating a fry at chick fila. It was weird. This post is probably really weird. But anyways, It wouldn’t let me tag myself in the picture so it requested it to her and she accepted it and now we are friends on Facebook and it’s just weird. I don’t know if I should try to ask her out or what because she leaves this week for Italy for the next three months. It will probably be awkward when she comes back. Idk. I feel like a teenage girl writing this on here and your probably throwing up reading it. Anyways thanks
George
George,
Here is what I would do of I were you: I would start a pressure washing business immediately. Do what you need to do to get the $1100 (but don’t steal). I would post flyers everywhere, I would post internet ads and I would go door to door looking for business. I would do this all by myself so I could learn the business inside and out. A bonus is that you will be working outside, getting sun, getting in shape, staying busy and being productive – not just sitting in a coffee shop creeping people out. When I started to get some good repeat business I would hire someone to come in and do a lot of the work. I would concentrate on getting more business and hiring more people until eventually I had a full time staff who took care of everything and deposited my checks. When this happened I would leave Searcy and go travelling a little but, open my eyes some. That would be my goal: Start the biz, hire people, let them do all the work. Think of it as a business, not as self-employment.
In re: getting girls: You have a lot more confidence when you have 4 grand in your pocket than when you have $40 to your name.
I wouldn’t ask the girl out. I would forget about her. Find a new one when you have more confidence ($$). After you make some dough there is nothing keeping you in Searcy. If you don’t like the rednecks then you can leave for greener pastures. There’s a whole, great big, wide world out there.
Thank you so much, Victor this has given me motivation to go ahead and buy the pressure washer and get started! I do have about $5000 In the bank though. The girl is from Seattle… Still think I should forget about her? Haha thanks again.
“Still think I should forget about her?”
Yep. There are plenty more where she came from whom you can start with on a non creepy level. She’s going to be gone for 3 months anyway, you can concentrate on making some dough. Good luck.
Ok, that post just looks stupid.
It sounds like I’m sending a message to Dear Abby. Gah.
Great post man.
Some other things to look out for.
Any history of, or inclination towards lesbianism. This might seem sexy for a porn infested mind and yeah whatever it could be fun, but not with your wife. This only shows that she is liberated and hedonistic.
Gay friends are out of the question. They tend to be loose with touching each other, showing their pierced nipples, shaved crotches, etc. Plus, since you are a man and you won’t put up with their bullshit they will turn against you and badly influence your woman.
The woman is physically or verbally aggressive. A bit of hair pulling in bed is fine. But if she slaps you around “playfully”, or curses you, this is an indication that she doesn’t see aggression as it is, a lack of respect. Don’t tolerate this it will only get worse.
Leon,
Right on.
Good points, Leon.
However, many “good” females have bi or lesbian friends these days. I understand your point about the touchy-feely nature you mentioned, and agree, but does having a bi or lesbian friend necessarily mean that you have those tendencies too?
How about you Victor, would you break-away from a girl who you thought was marriage material if you got wave that she has a bi or lesbian friend? I know people in this situation and when you are close to it, it is hard to advise one way or the other. Remember, not all people want to broadcast their sexuality, so it is possible that you only find out after forming a strong relationship with your girlfriend/fiancee. Is it the duty of a girlfriend to disclose to her boyfriend the sexuality of all her friends? In Asia, for instance, discussing sexuality is still a tight-lid issue, where one of my aforementioned friends lives and is in a long relationship with a prospective wife who has a bi friend.
“How about you Victor, would you break-away from a girl who you thought was marriage material if you got wave that she has a bi or lesbian friend?”
I wouldn’t consider a woman with gay/lesbian friends to be marriage material in the first place.
Could you elaborate as to why?
Certainly.
Women who hang out with gays tend to be promiscuous and potty-mouthed, not good traits for a wife and a mother. Women who hang out with lesbians tend to be angry and ultra-liberal (read: anti traditional family and “gender roles”). Women who hang out with “bi” girls are usually club-sluts themselves. Who do you think those girls are “bi” with? Their friends. Like I said in the article, those girls are just for fun. You can’t turn a ho into a housewife.
Cheers!
I want to add something else that is intolerable in women, and a definite red flag if looking for wife material. Women who can’t get their faces off their phones. Women who are always updating their Facebook status, texting friends, receiving calls. These women will pop out their cell phones in the middle of a conversation, or at the table, or on your bed. Never tolerate this. As a man, your presence is the testament of your greatness. Sharing your presence with a woman is all that your woman should aspire to. If a woman is not satisfied with just being at your side doing what you tell her to do she is not worthy.
I would add one thing, a lot of women don’t seem to have any empathy or care for men. For example show an article on a false rape accusation when she says that’s terrible, ask her whats the worst thing about F.R.A.s. If she says its crying wolf and hurts actual victims of rapes deduct points from her, if she says it’s evil as it destroys men’s lives add points to her score, as she seems to have empathy towards men and believes men have a right to not have their lives destroyed.