1) Be Tall – Women want to look up to a man, literally and figuratively.
2) Be Rich – A rich man is equivalent to a beautiful woman. Have you ever seen a fat girl riding shotgun in a Lamborghini?
3) Be Handsome – You will find some internet sites that bewilderingly proclaim “Looks don’t matter”. We’ll call those guys virgins. Looks matter – make yourself look the best you can.
4) Be Jacked – I have seen the power of being jacked with my own two eyes. Now I’m no Zeus replica but I’m in shape and when women touch my arms and my abs the first thing they say, with huge eyes, is “Oh my God!”.
5) Be Highly Confident – You’ve seen the guy in the bar with the sideways baseball cap and the blonde on his arm just eating it up. I got some sour news for some guys: Women love the guys you call douchebags. Because they are confident enough to be a douchebag without a care what anyone else thinks.
6) Do Not Supplicate to Her – Tease her like a little sister. If you tease your little sister and don’t take her seriously she is going to look at with you giant eyes and a huge smile. But even your little sister will shit all over you if you act in a spineless and dickless manner around her.
7) Be Sarcastically Funny but not Self-Deprecating – Women absolutely love to be teased, but they do not love when you make fun of yourself. She wants to look up to you so don’t tear yourself down, even in a joking manner.
8) Do Not Be Needy - Needy people are annoying to everyone.
9) Don’t be a Nice Guy – You don’t have to be mean or rude to women, you just don’t ever want to be thought of as a “nice guy” or a “great guy”. That conversation always starts and ends the same: “I think you’re a great guy…. and someday you’re going to meet a woman who will make you happy“.
10) Be Pre-occupied with Your Own World – Make her a part of your world. Whatever you are excited about she will genuinely become excited about as well. Do not become a part of her world – do not stay at home and watch chick flicks and tv shows about gay dancers or whatever that shit is that’s popular right now. Do your own thing and make sure it is a priority for you. If you have nothing going on then start a website and work on that.
11) Don’t be Too Available – I am not saying play some game where you don’t answer every 4th call. I am saying genuinely be too busy to take her calls or to see her sometimes. Remember, you don’t need to rush to call her back 13 seconds after she called you. It can wait as long as you need.
12) Have Excellent Style – Give her an excuse to come and talk to you. “Wow, I love your scarf / shirt / jacket whatever“.
13) Make Decisions – When she says “what do you want for dinner?” you say “Fried pork ribs“. Don’t play the “I dunno, what do you want?” game.
14) Be Aggressive in Bed – Women do not like timidity, especially in the bedroom. Be a Gentleman in public, be a caveman in private. This is also true for women: Be a lady in public and a whore in private. Here is an extra tip: Women absolutely love to be objectified. But only by winners.
15) Do Not Fall for internet Pick-Up Artist (PUA) scams – Those programs are written by societies losers for other losers. And they don’t work.
16) Do not take advice from women about how to win a woman’s heart – They will lie to your face and tell you to be nice, buy her things, bring her roses and all the other baloney they know doesn’t work. They will also lie to other women and say things like “no, you aren’t fat! You should eat more! Your haircut doesn’t make you look like a boy, it’s super cute!“.
17) Give up Masturbation and Internet Porn or Cut Down Tremendously – This will do wonders for your confidence, your energy levels, your ambition and your charisma. Read all about it here.
18) Don’t Be Scared to Say Hi - Picking up women is simply a numbers game. If you see a pretty girl on the street, and she gives you some eye contact, go ahead and say “hi”. “Hello” is a bit formal, “hi” is much better. To get over that fear of talking to women make a deal with yourself to say hi to 5 girls one day, 6 girls the next day, 7 girls the next and so on until it’s a matter of habit. Next thing you know you’re Casanova.
Pick 5-7 of the above traits and you will do ok with women.
The real deal truth is that you need to concentrate on your career (money), you need to concentrate on your physique and health, you need to take care of yourself, you need to be the master of your own domain, you need to bring her into your world and not go into her world (like watching chick flicks every Friday night), and you need to hold yourself to a masculine standard. If you do not have a pussy you do not need to be in touch with your “feminine side”. If you worship the ground she walks on, she will not respect you. If you don’t worship the ground she walks on, she will worship the ground you walk on. And everybody’s happy.
Can’t believe no one’s commented on this yet. One of your best articles in a while. Keep up the good work.
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The last paragraph – life in a nutshell.
Props for this. It’s amazing how much credit you can get if you can wear a suit properly, have some muscle mass, a clear somewhat deep-tone speaking voice, a good haircut and have a good red skinny tie. Game doesn’t have to be a ridiculous set of routines, magic tricks and props. It’s just you playing your role as a Masculine Man. And having the good sense to insist that wearing a dress is better for girls than business casual capri cargo pants, hoodies and all that other crap girls try to pull (no, I won’t be seen in public with you if you wear that crap ಠ_ಠ).
Eric,
You get it. Excellent comment.
Victor,
Excellent post as always. I stumbled on to your website via a link and, I must say I am damn glad that I did. In all my time on the internet I have not seen anybody else that can explain manliness quite like you do. Shit, you don’t know how much you have motivated me to improve myself. My workouts have improved(training like an animal), my confidence has risen(given up porn/jacking off) and I am fucking motivated.
Thanks Brother
Roy,
I’m damn glad to hear it. Comments like that fire me up. Keep on killin’, brother.
#18. A while back, I got into the habit of purposely making eye contact with every woman I see, even if I’m not interested. It’s strangely empowering.
I tried that once for an entire week on holiday. I looked like shit the entire time too in my opinion, yet I got a lot of positive eye contact back and I will concur that it was immensely empowering.
I have this as a list that I am surely ticking items off.
was curious..so if you give up porn, do you give up masturbation? and how long do you hold that in?
Victor,
Do you only say hi to women who give you eye contact? what if you see a hottie in the cereal aisle and she’s glued to the cereal? Also…what typically follows hi….do you usually make small talk or are more direct? Would love some quick ideas from you….probably a bit different for me as I’m 42 and not as good looking as I used to be…but at least I’m slim and in shape.
It all starts with hi. After that, it’s downhill. Say hi, blah blah joke abut cereal, if she has a little involuntary smile and laughs at a stupid joke then you go in for the kill. If not, well, there are plenty more.
Hey , all girls of my class have given me eyecontact from time to time , what should i do , should i go for all of them and nail them , and should i pick only one.
About #1 – I’m a young man in my 20s. I’m 5’8″ (tall by my community’s standards) but my growth spurt is over. How do I project more tallness? Did you refer to height/tallness in some metaphorical sense?
Hey Jimmy, I’m 5’7, average to tall by my community standards as well. The one thing that absolutely helped me was doing dead-lifts. They improved my posture so much that it creates an illusion of being only an inch or 2 shorter than my brother who is 5’11.
Thanks for the tip, Sunny!
Actual height and perceived height are two different things. I am 5’6″ according to my driver’s license, but everyone thinks I am 5’8 – 5’10 because of my presence and how I carry myself. It’s confidence, attitude, posture, and strength of masculine presence. Remember that perception is reality. That’s why beer goggles work to get ugly people laid.
That’s great article, love it! thanks Victor.
I think you should be more specific than Women absolutely love to be objectified….. because I hate being treated like I’m a piece of meat. We like to be treated like we are human not whores. Whore is a derogatory word, If you want women to be ‘nasty’ or ‘dirty’ don’t make her feel bad about liking sex…. quit the slut-shaming. Women don’t like being referred to as whore, slut, nasty, dirty. But a lot of us get really raw in bed.
Allison, you dirty little slut, either every feminist in the world is named Allison or you have sent me about 500 emails and comments. Get it through your peabrain – I AM NOT INTERESTED in nasty little girls like you.
LOL, funny how you call me a dirty little slut!!! I am a married woman—yes to a man who I have been faithful to for 10 years. I have only commented one time. I can see you must have a hard time getting a woman and need to hate on someone who shames you for being a fuckin woman hater who treats people like objects delete my comment and block me from this site because now I couldn’t give a fuck less about what your dumb-ass has to say.
Quit the slut shaming^^. It’s time to own your word and show the world sluts shouldn’t be shamed, and that starts with you declaring your sluttiness. It’s because of whores like you, the ones who make ‘slut’ a dirty word and won’t own it, that sluts can’t go out at 2am wearing crotchless panties and not get raped by woman haters who also work for the patriarchy.
The first few sound about right for younger women.
For me: (1)Tall/Clean Looking, (2)Ambitious, (3)Great lover.
About me: Woman, 40 yrs old, Black, desired-by-all
1.Tall because that a 1st impression thing – you also must be clean +groomed. Dirty looking me are just nasty.
2.Ambitious. This would be #1 if we could meet your mind first. It brings “peace of mind”
3. ’nuff said’
40 yr old black woman named cinnamon desired by all………
Wow, you really need to get a proper education, because you haven’t got a clue about women.
You are right, you do need to be formally educated by the state to believe the nonsense you morons believe. Play at home mom? If I had feelings I would feel so bad for your children. It’s too bad for them they will grow up gay.
“16) Do not take advice from women about how to win a woman’s heart”. All women, including Laura, are liars. Women love lies and therefore spread them to all men like a virus. Women and assorted feminazis hate the truth and therefore will hate men like myself and Victor. OOOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
I have been reading these posts of yours, Victor, and I find that you are spot with my experience in the school of hard knocks on about 99% of the time. This article is no exception.
As a girl, I confess these are attractive traits…but I have to take issue with the idea that my world is frivolous and not worth considering. I’m aware I’m in a minority in that I’m an exceptionally bright woman, but I think it’s always wise to consider the financial potential a girlfriend/wife brings to the table. My fiancee and I work together to manage our finances, though our goal is for my husband to be the breadwinner while I raise the children. Just because I’m not *doing* all the work, doesn’t mean I have nothing to contribute – bouncing ideas off one another has benefited both of us, and our relationship thrives off our shared mental worlds.
Then again, that might just be because I don’t do popular culture, so my world isn’t as asinine as most women’s
You’re a woman… no, sorry, you’re a “girl”, so following the enlightened logic of this article you can’t help but lie about what you like, therefore what you actually like is the opposite of this, which contradicts the article, which puts into question whether or not you’re really lying….
I probably shouldn’t even be trying to make sense of this. As you pointed out, you’re a minority as an intelligent woman. Wait, who put this computer in front of me? What’s it for? What’s the internet? What are these little buttons with squiqqly lines on them? srñobvwnñbionwbo
-”Then again, that might just be because I don’t do popular culture, so my world isn’t as asinine as most women’s”-
Since you presume most women are asinine; would you also assert that most men are puerile?
What do I do if im short?