How to Cure Depression the Old Fashioned Way

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Depression, or as my Grandfather would say “being a pussy”, is largely self-imposed and easily remedied. Depression is caused by leading a lazy, slothful, gluttonous, pointless, unnatural existence. Boredom is probably the leading cause of depression but a Doctor can’t prescribe pills for having a white water rafting adventure. “But my depression is caused by genetics, chemical imbalance or any other excuse thats takes the blame off of me!“. That’s bullshit. If you’re depressed it’s your responsibility to fix it. Shoveling pills down your throat isn’t a solution, it’s part of the problem. Our Grandparents didn’t shovel pills down their throats and they didn’t whine about being depressed either. How embarrassed would you be if your Grandfather ever whined about being depressed? I would be ashamed beyond belief. Thankfully my Grandfather didn’t have time to be depressed, he was either busy building shit with his hands, killing people in Korea, choking Rattlesnakes to death with his bare hands or drinking beer and playing poker.

Let’s take a look at what should be the obvious causes of Depression:

Lack of physical activity – If you sit in a cubicle all day never getting your blood pumping or sweating toxins out it would stand to reason that your insides are just as mucked up as your outsides. It is an obvious fact that anyone who has ever done anything physical knows: after you do some hard physical shit you feel great. You sure as hell don’t feel depressed.

Solution: Get physical. Go to the gym and lift your heart out. Go out to the garage and build something. Do some yard work. Mow the lawn. Go for a run. For god’s sake keep busy somehow, idleness is a soul-killer. No one was ever depressed after a killer lifting session. No one was ever depressed after building a house with their own hands. No farmer was ever depressed about working on his farm all day. He wouldn’t have time to cry about it.

Eating garbage – This one should be the most obvious but somehow this escapes almost everyone – if you eat garbage you feel like garbage. Do you think your Grandfather would come home from a hard day doing physical labor to a dinner of fucking macaroni and cheese made with margarine and skim milk, soy burger patties, and candy for dessert? No. He wouldn’t eat that bullshit and he’d slap you in the mouth if you tried to serve it to him. He ate meat and potatoes and washed it down with whole milk or beer because he knew what was good.

Solution: Eat meat. Lots of it. Eat plenty of saturated animal fat. Don’t eat anything made in a laboratory.

No love life – If your love life isn’t up to par it is probably because of one reason: you are acting like a pussy. Girls already have one pussy, they don’t want another one. I know you’ve been misled (we all have) that girls want a nice, sensitive, feminized man in touch with his feelings. Hey, that’s great on paper. Use your eyes to figure out that isn’t how it works in the real world. What works in the real world is respect. No one (especially women, double especially women who say they do) respects a feminized man. That horse-shit is how they test you, if you give in you fail. Would your Grandpa act like a fairy to get some chicks? Then you shouldn’t either.

Solution: Take up some manly hobby’s and quit the feminine nonsense. If you’re not a girl, don’t act like one.

Working a dull, lazy job – Clearly an unfulfilling work, a place we spend the majority of our time, can be a major cause of feeling like poop.

Solution: You already know what I’m going to say but I’ll say it anyway: QUIT. Find something fulfilling. A LIFE PURPOSE is fulfilling in ways a job can never be.

Relying on entertainment to fulfill you – The average American watches 5 hours of the boob tube every day. No joke, I would rather be dead then forced to endure 5 hours of TV every day. It’s impossible to not be depressed when constantly bombarded with advertising for stupid bullshit you don’t need. Video games are no substitute. Movies are no substitute. The internet is no substitute. I have never once seen my Grandpa: watch tv, watch a movie, dick around on the internet or play video games but somehow he found a way to pass the time. What I have seen him do: fix cars, build houses, smoke cigars, drink beer and play poker.

Solution: Find some better, more meaningful hobbies. Try woodworking, martial arts, weight-lifting, start a business, anything that gets you off the couch and actually doing something. Get rid of that TV!

No family: Probably half of them men I know of my generation came from a broken home. A man no longer has incentive to get married and have a family. In a snap of a finger all can be taken away by the courts. His children and money can be gone in an instant. With odds like that it’s no wonder men don’t want to start families. On the other hand, not having a family to care and provide for is likely the biggest cause of male depression and malaise. A man is no longer really the man in a relationship, the State is the caregiver. Our Grandparents didn’t have any of that. A man had a family to provide for, being a whiny depressed baby just didn’t put food on the table.

A man with a strong family is a man with a purpose. A man with a disintegrating family is a depressed man indeed. Take a look at some foreign families, they never cry about depression.

Solution: For a man wanting to start a family I highly suggest going abroad and finding a women who has not been indoctrinated into the hypergamous misandrous ways of American women. For a man already married but having problems I would highly suggest reading Athol Kay’s book The Married Man Sex Life Primer which will teach you how to be the leader in your relationship. For a man going through divorce, losing his kids and money you have my deepest sympathies. You’re in a hole and you will just have to pull yourself out of it. Frankly, this is the only acceptable cause of depression. Just don’t let it last forever.

Low Testosterone: It’s hard to feel like a man when you ain’t producing your man chemical.

Solution: Get it checked. Get it fixed.

Listening to depressing music, watching depressing movies etc..: Do you listen to depressing music because you’re depressed or are you depressed because you listen to depressing music? Depressing music has a depressing effect. Stop listening to it.

Solution: Listen to music that pumps you up and makes you feel alive. Don’t watch depressing movies. Don’t read depressing websites. Cut out the bullshit, baby. It’s upbeat and positive or it doesn’t exist.

Some tips to remember:

Don’t drink too much. Drinking every now and again is fine. Having a couple with dinner is fine. Getting sloshed every day is a recipe for pussified depression. Know any happy alcoholics?

Don’t masturbate too much: It’s unfortunate that I have to say this, but I do. Internet porn is free and everywhere but masturbating constantly comes with a hefty price: depression, lack of testosterone, obvious loneliness. Work on finding a girl(s), at the very least it will get you out of the house.

Spend your days with a purpose, a mission. When you have no goals or desires all that’s left is boredom and depression.

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  1. recently moved abroad to study language and i found your blog after arriving here. since starting the blog i’ve quit smoking, stopped watching movies all the time(TV i quit long ago), started at the gym today, found a new job, have drawn up a few business plans for importing products, and stopped with porn and jerking off.

    honestly, for the first time in years….i FEEL like a man again. I have such energy i forgot could even exist. this is the greatest blog in the world. keep it up. i love your style and approach. every article i read puts a fire under my ass. I haven’t been this productive, energetic, and driven in about 3 years. thank you

    • Victor Pride says:

      Goddamn man, that comment just fired me up. I love reading positive stories like this! Keep it up, friend. Good luck.

  2. Nice article. I was lucky enough to spend allot of time with my Gramps and learned many of the same things. The guy was a POW of the Japanese during WW2. After living through that not much could depress that man.

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  6. RandomGuy says:

    I think its good what not to do, but what should people do?
    Going to the gym, being obsessive about your body, clothes looks.. its kind narcisstic.
    Is it being a “pussy” to like books? Art? Or studying ?

    Those rules in the 1950s dont apply in our digital information age.. its a different kind of expectation and roles for individuals in society, office work life, people who are cooperative and friendly are liked more. Being individualistic, competitive, traits of American culture but not universal.. happiness is different for everyone

    • Being a pussy isn’t defined by liking books and things like that Victor never implied that. Being a pussy is submitting to a higher power without your best interest WILLINGLY. Studying and such is doing what you have to do. And Victor isn’t asking everyone to be a musclehead. He is asking us to take pride in our body enough to mold it into the shape we desire or need. Idk where your interpretations came from man.

      • I’m wondering the same thing. Victor is always recommending books. I’m actually going to buy a book he recommended when I get home for lunch.

  7. victor. i have been depressed for a very long time but i felt so much better after this. Interesting that when I tap into my man side I feel better and im a female. my therpist doesnt know half of what you do bc he wants me to over talk and be overly mushy. im sick of it. i watch a lot of sports and this is the only time i feel connected to my man side, my happy side. im going to do some of your things. but one of the reasons im depressed is because im alone –all the guys that like me are so feminine . i feel like america has been taken over by feminine men and mean aggressive women. help. what to do??

    • Victor Pride says:

      You’re a female, you feel better when you act like a man, then you come and complain to me that men act like women and you are surprised that only fem-men find you attractive. That’s because you act like a man. Act like a female and a man will find you attractive, act like a man and only fems will find you attractive. 1+1=2

  8. Dear Victor,

    Your advice and motivation is something I do take to heart, but may I ask if you’ve been depressed before? Not as in “being sad” (we’ve all been sad at any point), but clinically depressed?

    I ask this because a classmate of mine was an Army Ranger who had episodes of ptsd and depression, and unfortunately ended up killing himself. I have to disagree that willpower and lifestyle change alone is the be-all-end-all cure for mental health.

    As for me and my mental history, medicine cures the symptoms, but as you said, it’s the lifestyle adjustments that prevents it all.

    • Victor Pride says:

      Austin, PTSD is a different animal than the type of depression and general malaise that I talked about in this article. A few months ago I visited the War Remnants Museum in Saigon, and I saw what those men go through and it’s very, very severe BUT! if I had to guess I would guess your friend was using mind altering substances like alcohol or narcotics. Without that shit all can be overcome. It’s simply a matter of time. In his case it’s plausible that with the help of SSRI’s or CBT he could have gotten through it. They say time heals all wounds, and I happen to believe that.

  9. Zane Lone says:

    Hey Victor, Thanks alot, Good post, made me rethink on my “depression” and just noticed how i was feeling sorry for myself, I never feel sorry for myself, now its just embarrassing that I was feeling sorry for myself. Thanks heaps :D

  10. Kick ass article. Very much needed and enjoyed reading it! Everyone should be reminded of the things you mentioned in the text above. They can be priceless. They are to me. As a father and a husband and dealing with training related injury, which has me putting gym on hold for a while, I find reading articles such as this one very inspiring and also (this may sound weird) recovering quicker. Thanx for this one Victor. Good job!

  11. I have never been depressed but I have a friend who is. I have been looking around the internet for advice as to how to deal with it and all I got were posts such as:
    -Depression is so hard..I can’t deal with it,nobody gets me, nobody understands my pain, don’t even try because you won’t get it
    -Here are things you should not say to a depressed person: It will be better, you should exercise more, you don’t have that many problems…and so on.

    If anything, this search for advice only made me more skeptical of depression. I share your view. It’s about time somebody said what is on the mind of many people who have to constantly listen to depression whining.

    Problem is, when you try to suggest to a depressed person that changing their lifestyle might help, all you get is “It might help, but I’m too depressed to do or change anything and therefore I can’t get out of the depression; It’s a vicious cycle.”. Even worse when they say “you don’t get it, you’ve never been depressed, it’s not that easy”. Maybe , dear person, there is a reason I am not depressed and you are. Maybe I do get it.

  12. I’m getting the impression the author doesn’t have much time for LGBT people? Shame the article was interesting

  13. Man I love this article. I just read it for the second time, after writing my own article on how depression is just a tag, an excuse and the end result of not acting like a man should when he starts feeling down. So I came back here and read this and realised how much I missed, which is just a pity. But hey, can’t bite off your stuff, it’s tough biting on chunks of gold.

    If anyone would like to read something similar to this article come over to StrengthInConfidence.com and tell me what you think of my post on depression.

  14. Hi, Victor. The problem many people encounter when they’re depressed is an inability to derive pleasure or satisfaction from the sort of activities they used to enjoy. This tends to leave them in a deeper rut because they made an effort to be “manly” and got about as much out of it as watching brainless television. Furthermore, there is a plethora of legitimate reasons for why depression sets in: as you yourself said, divorce, but also the death of a loved one and early childhood trauma such as sexual or physical abuse/torture, to name a couple. Believe me, a person who experiences a major depressive episode wasn’t asking for it to happen. There isn’t a person alive who would make the choice to feel that way, and yet some people certainly seem to like simplifying it as such. Your theory lacks an explanation for why people who’ve lived physically and emotionally healthy lives suddenly stop doing so. On the other hand, I’m glad your advice has helped those who’ve visited this site.

  15. You know, I didn’t think I’d say this when I posted my original comment. In the last couple of weeks, exploring your site has really helped me get my shit together and stop pretending that I’m unable to influence my quality of life, as though it is some kind of spectator sport for which the outcome is out of my hands. I’ve started getting back to working out, eating healthier and even picked up a few new hobbies to occupy my time. I’ve barely glanced at a screen in the last 7 or 8 days, excluding when I come here to my boring ass office job (which has in turn inspired me to look at starting an internet-based business to fund my legal education). That’s not to say that I don’t believe people can’t suffer immeasurably from trauma, and there’s certainly a period of time that a person needs to recover from such things, but in this case, your credo has given me the boot in the ass that I sorely needed to move on and seek satisfaction. Thank you, Victor!

  16. Pathetic Loser says:

    your articles, they do energize me but only for a tiny fraction of second. I need something more substantial , something which would actually work bit longer. But I guess if anyone could discover that or anything even close to it , he will become an instant millionaire…

  17. Victor I couldn’t have said it better…seriously I couldn’t have said it better because I just don’t have the patience for people who sit on their butts whining about their problems. Come to me when you find out you have cancer or some real disease, not something that’s all in your head. To many people don’t work because they live off the tax payers and spend their days on their computers, hell we the tax payers should be the ones depressed. Thanks for a great blog!!

  18. Hey I love this post! Nothing like some good old fashioned common sense. What you say rings very true. I am working through depression at the moment, and nothing feels better than getting my hands dirty digging dirt in the garden when I’m feeling rubbish. I’m taking antidepressants, and they have helped me too, but I will do whatever I can to get out of crappy mind sets, work through past trauma, and just get it back together. Your suggestions would help anyone who is suffering. Thanks for speaking your mind.

  19. “Get Rich or Die Tryin” Great movie to watch to see how to deal with “depression” :)

  20. What’s really depressing is the LACK of THIS kind of message. Quite honestly I cannot find it anywhere else. And every other asshole I come across with an opinion thinks I’m a self-centered, self righteous prick for saying that depression is bullshit (along with my “ridiculous” reasoning behind why suicide is for the weak and inherently selfish for anyone to commit). I tell you, I was depressed for a while during college (complete bullshit waste of $ for the college my parents thought still existed), ended up self medicating on a variety of things because all I felt like was a trapped muzzled animal, biding his time for some stupid degree. It was only within the last few years (after changing schools to the top one of its kind) I was able to figure it the fuck out. Depression is a self-perpetuating grave digging exercise where you pile more and more negativity onto yourself, which only leads to bad coping and lifestyle habits. You wanna not be depressed? Depression is a fucking MINDSET. Stop being depressed. Be that guy you wish you were (your personal Tyler Durden). You are the catalyst needed to be THAT guy, just fucking do it! Now that I’ve graduated, within a month of being back in my home sweet city, I’ve de-cluttered all my shit, found a job that allows me to build/create something new every day (got a 20% raise out of no where the other day), been hitting the gym on the reg, practically ditched all old loser HS friends, and have started working on making prof contacts, commissions, and side hustles. I feel GD liberated as a man.

    Granted there are people with medical conditions like schizophrenia and bipolar disorder but for christ sake the majority of people who say they are depressed is because quite literally they are depressing people and are looking for a sympathy pat. Guess what? You got two hands, use ‘em! Build something for yourself so you can pat yourself on the back every once and a while. Western Ideologies esp. medicine and feminism sure does poison everything when you step back and open your eyes and ears. Imagine this…what would you call depression if the word didn’t exist? You realize it’s just word you learned and have associations with (all negative). Don’t let labels or words define who you are. Don’t be that depressing guy, be that guy everyone else wishes they could be and wants to fucking know!

    • alan2102 says:

      You were not depressed, you were sad.

      And that is what Vic is talking about in this article: sadness. Not depression. Depression is a real physical degenerative disease of the brain. You cannot “snap out of it” by eating a better diet, going to the gym, etc. Those are all very good things to do, but they do not cure depression.

  21. Having passed depression for almost like a year now (although i sometimes get some really small rebounds which i quickly shoo away – thanks to Vic and some self improvement skills) i can say that real depression cant be passed away easily. I remember i was almost ready to take anti-depressants (i think prozac was its name) prescribed by a doctor. What stopped me was myself and my parents. I knew those wouldnt help the problem,what they would do actually is mask the problem. But the problem would still be there anyway,so someday i would STILL have to deal with it,sooner or later.

    Even by working out,eating right etc i wouldnt feel “powered up”. I was 17 to 18 then,and depression lasted for almost 3 years before finally fading away.Depression is a real pain in the ass.Too bad i didnt know victors site back then,it could help me get over it a lot faster!

    This blog is god sent (no i am not religious,its a matter of speech ) :P

    • Buffguy, glad you could overcome your depression without resorting to drugs. You’re completely right about drugs just masking the problem. While I have never suffered from depression, I rarely use any medication because I don’t want to mask any problems I’m having (be it pain, insomnia, fatigue, etc). In my experience, masking a problem just allows it to continue to get worse and worse until it finally explodes.

      Keep fighting the good fight, friend.

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