or: How to go from Willy Wanker to Billy Badass in 1 Easy Step
(Note: I know there are more than a few guys at work who opened this blog, saw the title of this post, got extremely embarrassed and closed the browser as soon as possible. Sorry guys, but sometimes you gotta eat a little shit. If HR comes by to have a talk with you you can look the Devil in the eye and see what you’ve sold your soul to.)
We could be PC and pretend masturbating and internet porn don’t exist, but they do. And there is a very big problem with internet porn. Internet porn is a succubus whore from Hell intent on draining you of your vital seed, your testosterone, your energy, and your desire to succeed and conquer.
Or, to put it mildly, masturbating to internet porn does not do a body good. Internet porn is like a drug addiciton. The access to endless variety of porn causes your to constantly search for the “perfect” scene. This leads to massive overstimulation of the brain, the overstimulation causes a dopamine (dope) release into the brain (your fix). After you have an orgasm it’s like coming down off a drug. After all that excitement, that endless stimuli for the brain, your body just shuts off and you turn into a lazy piece of shit. How many time have you been about to do something, decided to just have a “quick one”, and by the end 30 minutes later had no motivation to do anything? I already know the answer: a lot.
Here are 10 reasons to stop masturbating to internet porn:
1) Internet porn saps you of precious energy – When you give up the porn and the endless masturbation sessions you have a lot more energy and drive. You want to get out and take care of business. You want to make money, you want to hit the weights, and you want to go and talk to that cute little blonde in the cereal aisle – and you just may have blueballs enough to do it.
2) Internet porn can lead to erectile dysfunction – Keep at it and eventually you will only be aroused by internet porn. Right now guys in their TWENTIES and even guys in their TEENS are having trouble getting hard without porn. They have to keep finding more and more disgusting and outrageous porn scenes to satisfy their hunger. Eventually nothing will do it but seeing a naked black man buttfucking a dog. That’s serious business. Keep up with the porn and it will happen to you too.
3) Internet porn will make you will want to stop having sex – Why bother with sex when you have every fantasy in the world available at one of your hands? Japan is a notoriously porn friendly country. Japan is saturated with porn. In Japan there is an entire culture of young guys called “Herbivores”. These herbivores have no desire for sex. All this porn and now the guys don’t want girls, they want sex with their hand, or sex with robots or nothing at all. Japan now has the lowest birthrate in the world. Can you see the connection?
4) After you stop masturbating to internet porn your voice may become deeper – Straight from the horses mouth, this is what guys who have stopped masturbating are saying happens.
5) After you stop masturbating to internet porn you will have more self control and will power – I’m telling you from personal experience you just plain feel better and stronger and more masculine. It’s the opposite feeling after masturbating to internet porn.
6) After you stop masturbating to internet porn your Testosterone will rise – According to this article, Testosterone is slightly higher when abstaining from orgasm. And it does rise slightly during sexual activity—before dropping back down to normal. Having sex with a real life girl increases your testosterone while having sex with your hand and sitting in front of a computer with 5 different pages open decreases it. I don’t need a science article to tell me that, I know it to be true from experience.
7) After you stop masturbating to internet porn you will become calmer, more rational, and less anxious – Again, straight from the horses mouth. Check out the link below to see all the positive results guys are getting.
8) You will become more attractive to women - Let’s assess the situation. Who do you think women find more attractive? A) Guys who spend their time in the dark, jacking off to endless streams of porn, finish after about an hour, take a nap, finally make it out in the sunlight (or not) and can’t even look them in the eye. Or B) Guys who don’t spend their time playing with themselves for hours, are full of testosterone, not having spilled their precious seed twice that day, have a deeper voice, and have the ability to make eye contact.
Easy answer.
9) You can stop getting viruses on your computer- Viruses are a pain in the ass and can sometimes take days to deal with. Most computer viruses come from porn. Eliminate the source, eliminate the virus.
10) If you can’t believe me, then take the word of these gentlemen who beat their addiction to internet porn and reaped the benefits - There are 90 pages worth of positive results. I’ve only quoted from the first few pages:
- “I really like where I’m at now. I am so much calmer. I am losing my rage and anger which I am glad about. I have found out that the temper I had was linked to this addiction.”
- “Social anxiety was the problem I faced right from my childhood. (I was too much interested in science, unlike normal kids, so I always had a feeling that I was not ”one of them.”) I experienced huge improvement in my confidence and selfassurance since cutting out porn. I have more energy now and I am exercising daily. (I never did before.) I now perceive myself as a self-assured, successful guy, rather than some introverted jerk.”
- “Daily exercise and porn abstinence really seem to help. I am enjoying my new lifestyle now. In contrast, after I started watching porn, my social anxiety was boosted.”
- “I’ve noticed the longer I stay away from porn that it’s easier to talk to them [women], flirt and get into conversations.”
- “One week after quitting porn and masturbation I met a new girl, which even a month ago would have been unimaginable to me”.
- “Another thing is the extra attention I’m getting from the opposite sex. I’ve never really had a problem talking to girls and they’ve spoke to me in the past of course, but it’s incredible how often girls start random conversations with me now! At a recent wedding I went to, for example, there were few people on the dance floor and I decided to get up and have a dance with my aunties. Then all of a sudden I was surrounded by women who were all grabbing me and wanting to dance with me! I’ll be honest; it felt good to have that attention!”
- “It’s amazing how much of a difference there is. I’m a lot less nervous, more coherent, confident, everything. It really does feel like my real personality can come out.”
- “The effect on my social life keeps getting better. I’m finding it really easy to talk to people, especially women. Someone made a comment to me the other day at my salsa class. Something like, “You like to talk to the ladies, don’t you?” I didn’t even notice because I was having so much fun but, when I think about it, he was right.”
- “[Later] I started doing push-ups at work with some of the guys. When I started out I was at like 15 push-ups, and I was struggling. Well today is the first time I have been able to do them with these guys since I have gone 60 days with just a couple orgasm/ejaculations. They were shocked at how many push ups I could do. They all commented on not seeing anyone increase from where I was at about 2 months ago to what I am at now. Today I did 200 (not all at one time ). Maybe not superman but a big improvement in a couple months.”
- “The other is the way I carry myself. I walk with more confidence. I feel better about myself. I do not feel like isolating myself as much as I did in the past. Well actually the longer I go without porn the more the desire to be with a woman is increasing.”
- “[Later] Today is day 50 without porn. My body has healed very well. NO ED problems or weak ejaculations like I suffered from just a few months ago. So giving up porn and fantasy and going without orgasm (mostly) for just this period of time has made big steps in healing the damage I had done to myself. I also learned that I have gone far enough that I can recover my peace of mind a little more easily after an ejaculation.”
- “When I do semen retention for 2 weeks, I notice these benefits: 1) Face looks radiant and energetic (I may get occasional double glances from girls in shopping mall or street) 2) Expression looks carefree (not struggling for more energy, or not worrying about negative stuff) More natural confidence without needing to adjust thoughts. 3) Voice gets deeper and more charming (This, strangely, makes both men and women like to talk with you.) 4) More positive thoughts (The negative thoughts that used to bother seem so minor and irrelevant – I can ‘get over’ issues easier.) 5) More calm emotionally and easier to control myself 6) Exponential increase of stamina and physical energy/strength.”
Sounds like the guys quoted above had other social problems in addition to porn addiction, but even for the Average Joe quitting porn and masturbation has real benefits. Keep your precious seed for yourself. Don’t give it away every few hours while taking the drug of internet porn. Let the confidence and the testosterone build up inside of you instead of spilling it every day. And when you do give it away, give it to a girl and not a kleenex. Winners don’t spend their time jacking off. Of this I am sure. Try it for 30 days and see for yourself. You may just like the results. I know I do.
More resources: http://yourbrainonporn.com/understanding_porn_addiction
I’m actually quite shocked that this post has no comments cos this happens to be the greatest post in internet history! Anyway, Victor I took your advice and i’m reading think and grow rich by napoleon hill-Greatest book of all time..this book should be compulsory for all teenage boys to read…and the best chapter is the one on sex transmutation…now I understand what michael Jackson meant when he always said that he cannot take credit for his music because they come from a “higher source.” He said that a million times..he probably used sex transmutaion (or drugs) to reach that “sixth sense” that the book talks about…and also,i guess thats why “great” artsts like lil wayne use weed and stuff in the studio…Anyway, I have a question about sex transmuttation..How exactly do you transmute your desire for sex? For example, If you want to embark on an edevour like writing a song or hittin the weights, do you get your girl to “turn you on” and then get to the endevour imediately? How exactly woild you turn the desire for sex into inspiration? Please explain..Thank you Victor..you changed my life mehn..
I’m not surprised this post has no comments. It’s an uncomfortable subject. Best way I can describe it is : Use all the energy you would use on sex gratification and use it for your business.
This post might help: http://boldanddetermined.com/2011/10/24/how-to-harness-your-sexual-energy/
So fired up to have found ur site victor bro…iv made ur site my homepage on my phone ;)
Anyways my questions – u might have read the epic your-brain-on-porn site
They advise to completely shut off all ‘bad’ thinking not even cheking out a girls ass n imagining her naked when rebooting..i find this unncecessary.
And can you stroke ur dick once ina while a little..or jst completely shun masturbation for a a long 60 days and no porn ever??
Also i’v read heard froma friend that 21 days or 3 weeks was the best maximun fapp abstain time..n wat about ejacualting to kaintain to avoid prostate cancee..isnt that a priboem cz f high testosteone??
Iv seen the benefits even when i ws edging almostr evey other day but abstained for 17 days ;)
Just gonna chime in here,
The ‘no masturbation’ stance is somewhat up for debate. ‘No Porn’ is not. It’s totally unnatural. It’s bad. So if you got to wank it, use your imagination. Stop watching porn and you won’t have to masturbate as much either. Porn causes you to get horny when you’re genuinely not horny or at least not really horny. And yes, they do find masturbation occurring in other primate species. However, curious george isn’t logging on to the computer to do it.
Here is a website to help with quitting porn.
Check it out please: http://www.rampout.com
Thanks!
goopra, don’t forget about wet dreams.
The alternative to masturbation is wet dreams. If you stop masturbating for a week to a month your mind will begin to produce wet dreams. You might have had them as a teen before you started masturbating. It is almost impossible to have wet dreams while masturbating.
In my opinion, masturbation cannot hold a candle to wet dreams. Dreams at night are so much more vivid and real. Even more interesting is that you get a glimpse into your subconscious. The subconscious and your sexual passions can teach you a lot about who you are and what you really need and desire. You get almost none of that from internet porn and masturbation.
It’s a challenge to get to where you have wet dreams. And you will usually have anywhere from one to maybe three a week. The number can be a challenge to get accustomed to if you are on a regular or daily masturbation cycle. But if you agree with what Victor has wrote in his article then you know there are benefits to having sexual aggression from being a little sex deprived.
Don’t sell wet dreams short. Masturbation is not the only way to clean the pipes. Your subconscious mind will do it for you with dreams that would not be possible any other way.
Thanks Victor for the article and for the subject matter.
If you would like more information about quitting porn and masturbation may I be so bold as to recommend my website:
http://rampout.com
soon to be:
http://AdiosPorn.com
Good post Victor. My friends and I have something called the 7 day challenge, where we (try to) abstain from masturbation for 1 week. Sex is allowed just not with palmela handerson. For those without girlfriend’s it is difficult in our hyper-sexualized world, but the results are striking. I noticed a significant uptick either real or perceived in my life when I lifted heavy everyday, did not masturbate (still had sex), cut out marijuana, and limited my alcohol intake. I received comments from close friends about my aggression level increasing and I actually liked it. Keep up the great work man.
Boom. Excellent work. And you’re right, for this to work best it’s best to have a girlfriend.
Great article! i have just recently started to read about this subject. It’s time to give up porn for good! Take care.
Awesome bro, really good read, after a week and a few days, i feel prety awesome, less stress, less anxiety, energy. Your page seems to make this touchy subject alot easier to talk about, unlike other pages i have read, where it makes you feel like a complete head case. I myself laughed when i relised why i was having poblems and it turned out to be to much porn..
So cheers.
Is it normal to make gains in the weight room like a beginner again when you no longer jack it?
only one way to find out.
Victor, fucken oath bro porn destroys you both mentally and physically. I just finished 30 days without and feel fantastic. Hitting the weights with a vengeance, slamming them raw steaks and truly feel like a man.
Today is my cheat day, I’ve just ate like a pig, had a cigarette and jacked off to redtube. I feel dirty. I don’t want to feel like this. Did I just damage everything? The ONLY option is to never do it again, but how far will i have sent myself back?
You Are Very right Author. I actually got myself here by googling “How Can I Stop Masturbation” .
To be candid, every comment i have read regarding people’s experiences about Porn and Masturbation has outrightly explained my predicaments.
I started at a very tender age of 16yrs (2003). Have made so many promises to stop this evil act but have failed as twice as the number of times i have made such promises.
Now thank God that people can now discuss this openly. Though have read many articles on masturbation, the good and the bad side of it, but always ashamed to make comments.
I think, it’s time to take my destiny in my hands and choose a brighter future over a mere crazy act that makes you feel good and disgusted at the same time. It’s not worth it!
The fact that I’m making this comment openly, I believe is a sure way of getting myself out of this mess completely by God’s grace.
I just hate what it feels like after every single act and i believe it’s thesame for other victims too.
I must confess to you all that Masturbation is a Destiny killer, a confusionist (makes you loose focus) , a robber(robbs you off your potentials), future destroyer, an energy sapper, a brain drainer, and a great deciet.
The choice is yours!
Despise all medical benefits of it TODAY, or you’l keep going in cirlcles cos they’l make you feel worst than your problem.
All it brings is bitterness, shame, laziness, and above all makes you an enemy to your Creator.
The cure for masturbation is mind-oriented.
Stop to think it and you’l get over it.’Cos whatever can get your mind, has eventually gotten you.
Once again, a Big thank you to the Initiator of the Article/blog/page. And to all who have positively contributed.
You’ve really ushered someone into a newness of life. And that’s me!
God bless you all!
Day 30, I don’t miss it now, I’m trying to go 90 days without an orgasm, but the way things are going especially with the confidence boost,the chi boost as well as the vastly lowered social anxiety. I don’t really think the girls are going to let that happen. Give up masturbation and porn and see the benefits.
Going days without masturbation and I’m finding my body miraculously looks better. Either I’ve got more energy for training or my body’s just building muscle and burning fat quicker. Either way I look fucking great.
I must say, your article is spot on. VERY spot on. I’ve lasted as long as 10 days last year, and most recently I managed to last 9 days, and both those times I felt postive differences. Only now, I don’t deny that spending too much time on the porn is very bad for you in so many ways. I’d been trying to abstain for a month now, I relapsed at least 15 times in a total of 6 days that time, it’d take about 2-3 days before each relapse, and 9 days was the longest I lasted this time, and now I’m trying not to look at any form of nude pics at all, especially since I’ve seen better changes just tapering off porn. Yeah, if I was still addicted, I’d find this embarassing, but at least now I’m honest about it, and yes, I’m a weight lifter and I got even stronger, and have more muscle tone since I’ve decided to quit. I’m even reducing my caffeine intake, because I have more energy naturally! If this article inspires me to commit to abstinence from porn, it should inspire everybody else. And I shall say this, “Never get hooked on porn.. EVER.” Awesome article, once again, thanks for the inspiration.
And by relapsing 15 times, I meant, jacking off to porn 15 times… Even if you’re horny, that doesn’t give you the right to look at porn, or you can go back to your old habit… And again, I don’t know why a lot of people are embarassed about this. It only makes quitting porn more difficult. Cheers.
thats why Islam strictly forbids the waste of seminal fluid through masturbation, i really liked ur article, thank u :)
I’m a webmaster myself. I have to say wow, what an interesting article. I will have to try it and report back…. Thanks for posting this article.
I have no idea how I manage to beat off every single day, and yet I have sold a series of websites in the low six figures!
But anyways – I’m going to give this a try and maybe my income will skyrocket
(I’ve achieved #1 on google for very competitive keywords)
feel free to drop me an email
Hi how did you achieve #1 on google?
Exellent article! I’ll give it a try! It’s time to become a REAL man!!
As someone said this is the greatest article on porn’s disadvantages in the history of the internet.Really man.I usually don’t reply to any site but this gem of a post has forced me to do so.I will have to control this habit of mine.Thnx so much dude.
Yes!! Love this shit…Nice job. I would like to post this on my blog at compulsionsolutions.com and share with your readers with your permission Porn Zombie, a article I wrote about my life. http://compulsionsolutions.com/blog/confessions-of-a-porn-zombie-by-kevin-behan-of-compulsion-solutions/ Thanks Victor.
Hey guys. Long time no see. I’ve relapsed many times since I started, but more recently I’ve only been masturbating without porn, since porn is no longer my problem. Good news is, I don’t even masturbate daily. I learned from my relapses and every aspect of my life is getting better, including my level of confidence and attractiveness. I’m day 44 having not masturbated to porn, and it’s going to keep getting better. I’m living proof Internet porn addiction can be overcome! Don’t give up! Take care.
Wow, after i stopped jacking off to porn i was amazed at the results. I was walking home one day and i got attacked by a grizzly bear. I then proceeded to rip out its jugular with my teeth and then took it home for super to my harem of insanely hot ladies. if it weren’t not looking at porn, I’d never achieve this level of greatness. Now excuse me, i have to go kill a shark with my bear hands… heh, get it? bear hands.
Cool story…….
Real men admit they have a problem and do something about it.
High school boys blush and poke fun.
Truth brother
I love your website full of great information , all the best
Dave from Scotland UK
Porn is pointless, it screws up your mind and is addictive, it will leave you exhausted mentally and physically, it is like a drug, once you use you will feel bad and disgusted with yourself, it can cause problems with your erection, its time to stop using porn and join the real world, you will have more energy feel good about yourself and become a real man, be strong and determined!
Just love the no BS approach this writer takes to assessing and advising the whipped emasculated modern day emo-man. It’s time to be men again boys. I am 2 months porn free and there are changes happening. I’m starting to man up in various areas and not everyone is happy about it (especially my boss) but he’s got me confused with someone who gives a sh!t. Those skinny Russian porn skanks can have someone drive a train up their @$$ for all I care – I don’t have to watch them anymore. They don’t own me. The only thing people should be shoving in their skinny faces is a hot meal. I am done with porn. It’s a lie and it ruins your sex life and your life in general. If you get depressed like I did after you quit try exercise, sleeping enough and eating properly at meal time: lean meat, vegetable and pasta, rice or potatoes. Fad diets ARE for women! Atkins? He died didn’t he? Don’t eat anything with SOY it raises ESTROGEN and will inflate those man boobs even more. Ever wonder why all vegans are either chicks or gay men? Do the math. Being a man is harder, but living like a woman is better? Fuhgedaboudit. I’m outta here.
Hahahahah, the line about the Russian porn skanks made my day.
Is it okay to masturbate everyday, but not watching any porn? I’ve given up porn, but still like to jack off at least once every 24 hours. It makes me less horny and more focused. Is this fine?
It’s fine.
But, what about not spilling our precious seed?
Buddy the whole point of not using internet is to not program your mind to only be stimulated by porn. In others words jerking off to porn will desensitize you to other stimuli in your life, including real women. Spilling your seed just makes it worse. Ya get it now?
In the long run, it’s even better if you stop masturbating altogether! You definitely gain in self-control and boldness. Coz you don’t have your hand to help you out, you go out and face the world/girls.
That’s my personal experience.
I’d say its still pretty fucked to even masturbate, you have no will power to defeat your addiction. If you cannot overcome this then you will not be able to overcome any other challenge in your life therefore you will not be a strong man period.
Porn absolutely clouds your brain and drains time and energy away from life! I used to be a porn fanac, but now am totally free and clear for almost two months! Even the last time I looked at it, the frequency had gone down to several weeks at a time in between. Now no more! I know it will take time for the neural synapses to completely regrow with the new porn-free wiring. After all, it was years of porno from a young age constantly in front of me, it didn’t happen overnight and it takes time to completely heal. But it feels great when things are improving. Guys, just take the steps and stop looking at it!
Hey, I’m in the same boat. I made a commitment on stickK.com to go completely cold turkey on porn for one year. I’ve been looking at suggestive images, but even that has vastly diminished.
I would be lying if I said I don’t miss it though, but I guess that’s a common withdrawal symptom.
I should add, I’m in my 8th week right now of a porn-free life, 5th week of no masturbation.
Hang in there Alvaro it’s tough I know I have withdrawn for now close to 3 weeks but I have read before eventually the addiction will stop it just takes some time, u should be proud of yourself for making it as far u have but don’t get too cocky lol! Just get sleep at night properly because that is the most difficult time at least for me since I don’t always fall a sleep easily so I get bored and think about turning on my laptop but now I have been able to either sleep or watch an inspiring film or listen to motivational music. I believe I will beat this thing no wait not beat it but STOP IT! I always think about the countless hours of looking for porn what a waste of time I’m better than that and I know all u guys are too. Thanks everybody I suddenly feel like I have some support here and am not alone.
When you decide to STOP. You don’t need to count! Just like when you decide to walk to a destination you do not count how many steps you travel, you just GO. Keeping count already implies you will start again.
Facebook and Youtube are more addictive than any porn anyway. :P
Haha love the not getting virus argument. Is hiv better than a trojan ;-)
This is excellent advice. I’ve personally seen excellent results by stopping the porn. More sex drive. More willpower. Happier girlfriend.
Victor, I have a Woman’s Relationship Advice blog that I just recently started. I’m going to link this to my readers so they can tell their men to stop the masturbation and porn. If I can do something to help out the rampant man-children sickness the world has come down with these days, I will.
Thanks,
Chris
Ladies Should Know
What I get from this and the related comments is your suggesting us to one stop watching porn which I can see the benefits of but also to stop masturbating?
The problem i have with that is alot of doctors actually say its healthy to masturbate and encourage you to do so saying things like how it relieves stress and helps you concentrate more etc.
I myself have had times of no masturbation that can last up to a few months but every now and again fall back into it and tbh do it too much when i do but still. I kinda agree with the porn thing and can see its affects but should we really stop masturbating all together especially when doctors say we should do it?
Im kinda expecting some comments to this if people see it so please try and keep to constructive stuff and also not to start anything like oh its a conspiricy blah blah blah. Thanks
Short answer: Quit porn.
I need help
Holy s#it I think my voice has actually gotten deeper since stopping porn for a few months now, my girl even noticed, maybe I’m just more relaxed now. Great article, this has improved my life a lot. Less social anxiety, better sex, better at flirting with random girls, more confident, hornier, more motivated… the list could go on!!
Well I usually fail after a few days, but this time I’m hitting the weights consistently as compared to my before BS of on and off weight training. Anyway, a few days of no jerking it to porn and I’m already feeling more relaxed, euphoric, and big one: confident! I can make much more eye contact and hold it longer, and I’m already quite vocal, but even more so now.
I love it. I’m hornier and happier as well.
Another tip to add to the powerful feeling of not jerking: Of course eat healthy etc, but drinking coffee is actually more effective when you’re not “jerked out” and you just feel a strong constant flow of energy that really pushes you to lift more and heavier. Good stuff. The science behind this is that the caffeine in coffee (coffee usually contains natural caffeine so it’s better for you) releases more dopamine in the brain therefore making you more focused and alert, and if you’re scatter-brained like I am, calm and collected.
I’m gonna try to hit the 30 day mark. If I feel AWESOME, I will vow to cut off jack-u-lation forever
No offense, but its not really the denial of porn or jacking off that is causing the effects. In general, discipline has the effect of increasing confidence and physical vitality…its the new mental state you have created for yourself that is truly beneficial, and believe me, there will come a time when sexual self-denial won’t make you feel any happier than being a porn addict did.
I have to agree whole heartedly. The actual truth is that over sexing with women is just as beneficial/hurtful as over masturbation. There is something to be said for regular ejaculation and stimulation. Regular- is not the same as Over doing it. I’m not discouraging anyone to keep to their convictions, but truth about these matters have to be focused on, far more than speculations.
Part of what you said is right. But, you have to keep in mind that masturbation is not natural. Nowadays, teenagers think that it is, but the truth is that masturbation is relatively a modern thing, well at least masturbation and porn. The access of porn to the general population has caused a massive development of sexual problems. If our ancestors masturbated, it was with complete use of imagination and without porn over-stimulation. Now, just turn the PC and you have an endless porn stream; totally not natural. I have learned that I’d rather waste my energy on the chase (going after the girls) than to sit in front of the computer and masturbate. It is well known that if you keep masturbating, you deplete your body of nutrients, causing fatigue and exhaustion. You don’t need a phD to understand that. It is common sense, but it doesn’t sink in immediately.
Consistent masturbator since 1999. I’m one of those guys you can look at and just see the damage I’ve done to my body. Two weeks now both porn/fap free: energy, stamina, motivation. Downside: anger, irritability, erections every hour, and I see and hear sexual in everywhere/everything. I’ve read this is supposed to wear off after a few months…can’t wait.
I faced the same problem bro, try lifting weights or working out intensely every morning before interacting with people. It takes the “edge” off.
I had never really thought of porn use and masturbating being very harmful in life but the more and more I look around and think about it I could really benefit from discontinuing both.
I’m a 23 year old entrepreneur who works solely for myself, I live a very active lifestyle and have an amazing girlfriend. As all of these things seem great there is always room for improvement. Why should I be a slave to my dick wasting my time on the computer and lowering my energy level? Theres been countless times where I’ve procrastinated finishing a project or going to the gym because I wanted to jerk one out quickly before, then after being lazy and disgusted with myself.
When it comes to my sex life I think excluding porn and masturbating would be a great change, not that I dont love sex as it is, but I’ve found my erections to be softer in bed, lower confidence, and decreased sensitivity, all because of frequent porn use. How do I know? Because I quit the shit a week ago and already I’ve been noticing stronger erections, increased testosterone at the gym and an overall better feeling. Is this because it’s just been a better week? maybe. But am I going to continue doing so? You fuckin bet!
I’d rather be improving my business physical health and relationship both mentally and sexually than fapping away.
I do understand casually masturbating if you don’t have a girlfriend but maybe cutting it down will give you that kick in the pants to get off your ass and talk to that girl you’ve never had the balls to go for.
I’m not some religous person saying your god will hate you if you jerk off, but seriously if you feel like your life might need improvement maybe quit for at least a month to see if you feel better.
I started last week and plan to continue doing so, it will be a definite challenge but I’m looking forward to it
I will check back with you guys and let you know how it goes!
(great inspiring article by the way)
So is it not masturbating at all?
Or just not masturbating to internet porn?
i guess not masturbating at all is better :)
i don’t think not masturbating at all is that indicated… unless you have a girlfriend..
did you ever hear the expression ” if you don’t use it , you lose it ” ?
i think it’s ok to masturbate ( i repeat, if you don’t have a girlfriend ) without porn, and not very often…
This is the best article I have ever read. I am 30 year old male and although I’m a decent looking guy, I struggle to maintain a normal relationship with any girl because I always end up masturbating to porn and thus losing interest in her. I am on day 5 of no porn and no masturbating and everything is improved – confidence in public, better self image, looking forward to going out the house etc
I am planning to go two weeks which is by far the longest ever for me, then go out and pull the fittest girl I can. The type of girl I normally masturbate about and am scared of… Not anymore.
Cheers guys and good luck
what a great article that i have ever read on net .its is true when when we masturbate we ashamed on our self.this guy doing a great job.
This picture was shown to me at high school, really effective.
http://www.blameitonthevoices.com/2008/04/effects-of-masturbation.html
and later go to the army and kick some ass, the teacher said.
In all seriousness, I suffer from terrible stomach pains and vomitted blood the other morning. I was thinking ulcer but, now that I see this picture I wonder if all those over the top things they used to say might have a bit of truth to them.
Alright first i want to thank victor because NOT watching porn feels great! If u cant stop watching it ill offer some advice on how to “stop” first look up cure the cravings and subscribe to the website its totally free and it helps, next if your christian buy the book every young mans battle,third unless you want to get jacked start training for a triathlon sign up for one or some kind of physical event itll force you out of the house and you wontbe thinking about girls youll be dieing to breath…
Alright I’ll start today and remind my self every 30 days on this website. :) ‘Cause honestly I’m 18 now and I’m fucking tired of this crap… Not like it used to be when I was younger and now I’m at the peak of graduating and I sure as hell don’t wish to be in the drop out category. (: Adios.
Wow what a great article. I’ve stopped for about two weeks, last weekend I was at a party and I actually got with a girl, now this mightn’t sound like much but I was the most socially awkward person imaginable. I kept letting my “friends” beat me down with discouraging comments but now I’m slowly starting to stand up for myself.
I’m looking for some advice, I’m just over 5 11″ and weigh 133pounds so I’m really scrawny for my height and I have no idea where to start with nutrition or weights so if someone would please give me some advice id really appreciate it.
Hi Shane,
Your the perfect candidate for Body of Spartan.
http://bodyofaspartan.com/
All you need to know is there.
Good Luck,
Scott
good article. This is messing up a lot of people.
Ok. I’m fucking 58. I have been fapping for a very long time. I have been wasting a whole LOT of time and energy.
This is a cautionary tale to you, dear readers. I found this article by googling “have difficulty fucking, is it because of beating off too much?” I used to always be able to fuck but over the years have noticed it slip sliding away and hating it. I thought it was because of age or medications or some shit. This article makes me feel like it’s really all the fapping to porn I do daily (hours). I get so so little done in my life, it’s a big struggle to do the tiniest things. I won’t look back because that’s bullshit that’s over. The past doesn’t matter. I am presently working on not chasing the next meaningless and soul scarring porn-based orgasm. Time to finally get over this. I am a very positive person and hope that this tale doesn’t fall on deaf ears. Our numbers are legion. Love life and love yourself; you deserve it.
Day 21 of no porn and no masturbation.
Girls in school are starting to notice me.
Every time I feel there may be a relapse,I come straight back here and become bold and determined again.
Having excellent muscle growth and confidence boost as well.
BTW, I’m only in high school.
Thanks for your help man. Cheers
Thought you might find this study interesting.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11760788
Endocrine response to masturbation-induced orgasm in healthy men following a 3-week sexual abstinence.
“These effects were observed both before and after sexual abstinence. In contrast, although plasma testosterone was unaltered by orgasm, higher testosterone concentrations were observed following the period of abstinence. These data demonstrate that acute abstinence does not change the neuroendocrine response to orgasm but does produce elevated levels of testosterone in males.”
The best study is to understand your own body, I know masturbation does harm to my body because I noticed it, so That is enough to know about myself and stop the fap.
I understand the discipline aspect, the draining of energy, and the holding back for real sex. That said, masturbating to porn does not stop me from picking up women or having a girlfriend and a great great sex life. In fact it can enhance it! Side note : I don’t take cues from porn however to determine how to have sex or make love (there is good and bad porn). Addicted to sex, to porn – well that need needs to be satisfied. I even integrate porn in the background at times when having sex. But this discussion is about masturbation – so you can enhance your pleasure and build up your libido, along with discipline all by how you choose to masturbate. I would say quick fixes, one fast tempo, and releasing are all things to keep in check. You can masturbate and hold back from cumming, and build up your drive for the real world. And you may even experience what it is to orgasm without ejaculation – that’s right fellow it’s possible. There are many ways to approach this in a fun, healthy and positive way. I’ve given a few examples, but leave you with one last example, for a transition to a different masturbation style – search for Cock Hero – a neat concept / game that challenges you to hold back, build up, change tempo while you watch a series of sex scenes… If you are going to do it, do it right!
i know im a girl but when i first opened up this link i didnt know it was just for guys, but after reading this, it was very interesting, i relised girls dont masterbait as much as guys, but have some of the same problems after watching porn. Like tirednesss, anxiousness and arousel problems. But also after reading this i just wanna watch porn now. i mean, they have used the word PORN so much i just wanna go and watch some now. but im gonna stop because its really bad for you and i will probably not gonna be sexual active for the next 4 years so i do not wanna be put off sex.
The author of this article faces the real masturbation effects , so this article rises from real experience and its 100% right . We all should beat this habit . AND I WILL ADD TO THIS ARTICLE … when you stop masturbation you will have better memory and better vision and will have the urge to go and have a real girlfriend its TRUE. LETS BEAT THE DEVIL .
thanks
its a great and very helpful article. Masturbation has affected my life in several ways. I started it in February 2011 and since then i have been doing it on and off. Sometime i stop for couple of months and then start again. Since i have started masturbation my hairs start to turn grey. My self-esteem and confidence keeps going down from the day one. i don’t have any social life and no friends either. it has effected my education life too. Your comments have given me so much hope and i hope that by following this procedure i will be able to overcome these obstacles. By the way i am 19 years old and from England.
One of the hardest (pun intended) addiction/habits to give up.
I first discovered my little brain when I was 14 and although my parental units were strongly involved in a cult at that time there was no stopping my new found pleasure, girls, drugs, booze were all readily available but not 24/7 and you had to work for them one way or another.
Between the guilt and anti-social behaviour I also had a zit problem, argue as you may but I know for a fact that choking Mr. Happy will give you a skin reaction, I have witnessed it many times on both male and female.
Finally met a girl in my mid-twenties and she was cool enough to let my rod get it’s feeling back.
Note; the grip from a working mans hand makes it almost impossible to truely enjoy a females nice smooth supple lovenest, I’m only guessing but I imagine a large knobbled vibrating dildo will desensitize a woman in a similar fashion.
Married soon after, thinking “no more sex by myself”, YA,Right.
Divorced four years later and now after swearing each Jan 1st for the past 25 New Year’s I am commited.
The acne never went away, sweating for three days after each orgasm ( making it hard to hold a conversation with anyone), scared some female will hit on you at a party because; ‘you are not ready’, low self esteem from symptoms, poor eyesight, yes, it is a strain on your vision.
The longest I ever went before was 28 days back when I was in my mid thirties.
I realize that I will more than likely never have intercourse again but at my age I really don’t care I just want to enjoy my life without all the ‘fake’ of porn/love/etc.
Good Luck to all of you that succeed!
I read this article a couple of weeks ago, but I kept masturbating to porn. I knew porn was having a negative effect on me, that’s the reason I did a Google search about it. Well, I was having 3 or 4 day breaks and I was noticing the positive difference. I’m at day 6 without masturbation and I’m feeling great. I get hard really fast and my genital are tingles just with the thought of sex; a sensation that feels awesome. I’m getting things done better than before. Yesterday, a girl called me and surprisingly, she told me that my voice heard deeper and I was like, “Ok, I see, so it’s working.” And she was like, “What? What are you talking about?”. “I’m going through a treatment” I said without any more details. She kept insisting what I was talking about, but I kept it to myself. It really works. Thanks for your input. Teenagers should be required to read this article. Keep up the great work.
Excellent work Victor! I couldn’t agree more with this article. I tend to become “addicted” to everything I like…even activities that are constructive (like lifting weights and running, so, I guess it’s not all bad). It’s like older wiser people used to tell me when I was young, “Everything in moderation.” There’s alot of truth to the statement. Ejaculation does seem to be different when it happens with a woman (especially with a woman I truly care about), and not when I’m playing “Hand Solo”. I feel energized after being with a woman, unlike when I take matters into my own hands.
Net porn is evvvverywhere and far too accessible and pervasive. It’s just too easy to fall into this pit. I’m in my 30′s and have figured these things out. I really worry about the youth of today. The world was a different place when I was young. The statement regarding “searching for the perfect porn scene” is very true also. Most women are very sensitive and perceptive creatures, and can sense very subtle changes in men. They sense changes in a man when he is brimming with confidence (ie. testosterone, pheromones, etc) and not walking around like a tapped out schmuck. Many years ago, I took care of my own business before my gf got home. Somehow she knew that I did so, and called me out on it. I’ve noticed when I save my seed by practicing restraint, I’m far more attractive in general, and more potent in life. I’ll even take it a step further…I feel that I’m spiritually more potent also when I abstain from Jack Handy also. Maybe we’ll save those details of that for a “New Age” type of post.
Thanks again for manning up and posting this.
good bye addiction, never come back ^_^
Thanks for this amazing article.
I do not look at video porn as that disgusts me but I do look at pics of attractive women wearing not-much clothing which is still porn. I gave up jacking off for 9 days once and it felt great although it was a bit tough.
I’ll read this article whenever I have an urge.
Thank you once again Victor.
So you basically can’t go to the beach. It’s porn to you. In the beach there are “women wearing not-much clothing”. And that is still porn.
i’m trying to quit masturbating. i’m socially akward and its so hard to control masturbation 1 month is over. next goal avoid masturbation for 1 year
I am just starting with this now. Basically I have recently exited a sexless long term relationship. And I am starting to believe most of the problems were me. I fucked myself over countless amounts of porn. there was no drive or cum left for her. It was never a shame thing for me though. It was self control.
While I think every point in this article is true, the strength you receive from self control is not well documented by the 10 points.
Anyway, I’ve started eating better and I can look at sexual images feeling my dick grow hard without the need to jerk it. I can even tempt myself and not release. The feeling of control is exhilarating. Thanks for all the help.
well its back to day 1 for me, I really want to give this up, im convinced that there is a connection between porn/masterbation and me having social anxiety and depressed. IT TIME TO END THIS SHIT AND START LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST! CARPE DIEM!
Wow. Thank you. I needed this.
Today , let a new era begin. Will come back in a cpl weeks to tell my tale.Great no bs site.
Funny – My wife and I were walking last night and she asked my opinion on this matter. I said “Take this in the Batman theater shooting as context. Substitute ON-SCREEN PUSSY for ON-SCREEN VIOLENCE. Discuss. ” We’re desensitizing ourselves to some very very heavy primal shit here, and so far, this is a bad thing. This road leads to people who can’t verbalize their thoughts, can’t tell when to stop eating, can’t fuck, and who massacre their peers for picking on them. Messing with nature has all sorts of unforeseen consequences in unforeseen places. We often don’t realize it until all the bald eagles are dead. I contend that this applies to the human mind and body as well.
What do you think about happeh theory?
dude, I must admit that ur article just opened up my eyes n senses. I wish I could find it sometime back, but better late than never.
my next steps : for the next 30 days, its a complete no no to porn. I hope that I start off well and will definitely post an update after a month.
“Eventually nothing will do it but seeing a naked black man buttfucking a dog.”: point taken.
I was a fierce defender of porn for a long time. It’s just a easy way for sexually deprived guys to have some relief,,, What could possibly be wrong with that? I still don’t think porn is degrading to women and I still don’t think it has any effect on sexual crime. I don’t think there is anything wrong in a moral sense.
But, after a while, I’ve started to spend more and more time watching porn, because it was simply harder to get myself aroused. I used to spend at best 30~40 minutes watching porn a day, but recently I found myself watching porn straight for 2~3 hours. And as you said, I’ve been looking up more and more extreme stuff. What really scared me was that I was starting to accept these disgusting types of porn that I used to find repulsive. Few weeks ago, I saw this really fucked up japanese porno that made me want to puke. I was scared that one day I’d find this shit to be acceptable.
Now I’m trying to quit porn for good. I’ll miss the lovely porn girls, but I gotta be a man now.
Thanks for the post. It really convinced me that quitting porn is the right thing to do.
i understand that m8 ,it do have to get harder n harder 4 u to get there ,there so much bad sick porn ,to me a lot stuff was out there but after while u get used to it .then it normal, then u need worse n so on so on ,all porn in all it forms is bad end of the day….i dont want it no more n i will some how stop,u have to replace it with some thing anything ,,dont u think so
I’m in the same boat here. i Just finish seeing some porn. and all the above is all true. scary!!! i need to stop, i want to stop.. i know i can. but good article, does anyone have or know of chat rooms for this type of issue? it will be greta to get support from someone who will understand that it is not easy!!!
Jon
Admitting is a great 1 st step!
Jonathan,
This is a good online accountability group for stopping porn/fapping:
yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php#c3
Also see yourbrainonporn.com/ for some research and theory about why online porn is so damaging.
thank you so much for this article porn has destroyed my life in terms of me being shy insecure looking at the mirror seeing something else i wanna stop it both masturbating and porn the sick thing every time i do it i pray i will stop so lets embark on a journey do destroy this disgusting habit i want 30 days without porn from now…a better voice , self esteem and getting laid with real chics
well i’m 23 been watching all kinds of porn and masterbating daily since i was 11 and i also slept with good amount of woman over 75 prob but I think porn is addictive it ruins sex life sex drive hardness and arousal cause your body gets used to your touch masterbating but then when your’re with a woman her touch is not the same well I stopped watching porn just having sex maybe 2 3 times a week sometimes more sometimes less i deff live by not spilling the seed unless its worth it ( u got a real fine dime piece :) i notinced more energy in life better workouts more motivation i dont eat as much as i used to i just feel more alive and confident stronger. better in bed 2 we are not created to watch porn or masterbate sex is different so as hard as it is for to to stay away i miss it i slip up often but i’m doing better glad to hear that more and more man agree and feel the same way i do
I need a chastity device.
Love the article Victor, truly great stuff that I think could benefit scores of people in the future as I believe a lot of young kids growing up with internet porn will have a problem with this addiction. It’s a hard habit to kick, mood levels drop furiously, but, as you so clearly state, well worth it.
I’ve been a very successful person all my life, 15 years. I masturbated at least every two days for about 5-20 minutes at a time. There’s no problem with it, what the hell? I also use a reliable site so I don’t get viruses.
But that still doesn’t discount porn’s damaging effects on sexual function in both mental and physical aspects. Maybe you’d be more successful if you didn’t jerk it to porn, or maybe you’re just not looking at porn that much (sounds like you aren’t as much as some others do).
Everyone can easily say it’s bad and that it demotivates you to do a lot of things.But,the real question still stands out to whether or not you’ve stopped this addiction or have found a new one.I understand breaking addiction is good in fact i suffer with this problem(im a christian btw)and i do not look down on others with d same problem but look to them as equals.I hope and pray that almost everyone here is actuall or have done something about this addiction or else everything that they have wrote would have just been meaningless to themselves
Hey Victor
Good article! Masturbation and porn are so counter-productive and negative to everything in life from getting laid to getting money. I have personally not masturbated in more than 2 years… I’ve fucked more than 100 different girls instead – it’s way more fun when you can touch ;-)
Actually, I just wrote an article about why to quit porn and masturbation on my own site a few days ago. I just decided to do a google search today to see if anyone else shared my opinions. Seems like you do. I need to check out the rest of your site now.
If you wanna check out my article with more reasons on why to quit porn and masturbation, or if you want to read my diary and lay reports or my other articles, I’d love for you to check out my site! The article is here: http://www.boytoystory.com/why-you-should-quit-porn-and-masturbation/
2day i give up tis dam porn
How Much Masturbation Does It Take To Cause Problems?
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There is a direct correlation between the amount of masturbation and the severity of the changes that masturbation causes to the human body. The more masturbation is engaged in, the more numerous and more severe will be the changes caused to the body A general guideline to various amounts of masturbation and the associated amounts of body change is presented next.
Masturbation one time per year
Very little if any change to the body
Masturbation once every six months
Very little change to the body
Masturbation once every three months
Causes a small number of minor changes to the body
Masturbation once a month
Causes a larger number of minor changes of slightly increased severity
Masturbation once a week
Causes moderate changes of moderate severity to the body
Masturbation once a day
Causes many changes of varying severity
Masturbation multiple times per day
Causes a multitude of severe and extremely severe changes to the body
(Happeh Theory)
thanks this site helps,day 1 starts now,it makes u ill mind n body ,it wrong ,in all it forms,for u and them that make it
this is not easy but i can stop porn i can stop
Hey Vic, man oh man. I thank God for allowing me to stumble on your post cause man I just stopped smoking weed. I had so much unfiltered non-sense in my life that I can’t explain to the level it affected me. Once my mind cleared I noticed not only was I addicted to the supposed “peace” I got from weed but man it f*cked my view and feelings toward sexuality. I used to always watch porn and attempt to gain pleasure and even though I thought of special people when I did it, the ultimate thing to gain is pleasure for yourself. And when I stopped, I would get thoughts like ” What if you don’t get hard? or It would be good to just watch porn and masturbate this once but I realize its just the addiction and your always going to be a sexual creature because that’s how were made, but we should not abuse it.
Dude this is the best of the internet,on masturbation.i hope you could get me relation between memory loss and masturbation
I stumbled across this page after looking for help with my lack of motivation and laziness. It sums up almost everything that’s wrong with me! My addiction is so bad, I was online and ‘indulging’ before 9am. Not only that, as the article states, the material gets stronger to satisfy. I’ve even started watching gay and tranny porn. This has led to me hooking up with guys online risking my health as well as my marriage. This has really opened my eyes to how much damage porn can do. It’s so invasive, it can take control of everything.
Agreed.. one of the best articles… the links that Victor you have given are also very encouraging and inspiring… Kudos!
I think that the destructive effects of porn on the brain and on the mind are pretty much the same for females. But can some one give a link or tell me were to find more information on how porn addiction affects a females that watch it and masturbate with it? Thanks for your very well explained post.
Hey Victor,
Thanks for the post, very inspiring! I am trying to quit masturbating and it is just like trying to quit smoking, you need so much willpower. I get incredible mood swings and I can’t concentrate on studying. Another thing is that almost every guy I know masturbates, so I am very conflicted. I have no idea what to do with my sexual urges. Any ideas, Victor?
^Get a girlfriend.
Or boyfriend which ever~
i now know for sure i no longer want need porn,,look around you,life is all around us,porn is death
i knew that masturbation harm my body. I started masturbation when i was 15 and now i’m 18. Age 15-17 was the worst days of mine. As i just discovered the ‘feeling’, i got addicted to it. It damaged my body completely. I lost my old attraction from girls, face covered with pimples and scars and i turned in to an alien like creature. i was academically weak too. when i was 17, i took a break for 2 weeks and i could see the changes. but after, i started again. And today, i’m on the 10th day without masturbation. I could see changes already. I don’t want to do it again! really, I pray to god that please don’t make me do it.. Peace.
Reading this article and the determined people fixing their lives gave me the strength and well accompanied by the power to STOP IT !!! This is DAY1 and like hell i so wont be saying DAY1 no more , ill recheck this form everytime i feel weak ,you people gave me the reason to say NO , BIG THANKS TO YOU ALL . FTW
Fantastic blog, Victor. Thank you for posting. Before I continue, I want to preface the rest of my comment by mentioning that I’m a 21-year-old male.
I accidentally discovered the benefits of not masturbating when I was in high school. Now, see, I didn’t mention porn. Porn has always been just ‘eh’ to me. I’ve always been an aspiring writer (never said a good one, just somebody that enjoys letting the written word flow while disregarding any type of proofreading as much as possible, but I digress)… so my imagination has always been one of my fortes.
With that said and out of the way… despite not using porn, I still had enough energy to fap 2-4 times a day, without a problem, except I always felt sluggish, my energy levels would be absolutely drained every time, and my appetite was ridiculous following every ‘session’. I could ramble on and on about pseudoscience and things that haven’t been conclusively studied in regards to masturbation’s effects psychologically and physiologically, but let me tell you…
I was busy at one point where I had gone over a week without masturbating, and it was like night and day. My energy levels were through the roof, my appetite seemed stabilized, I felt like I was stronger and had infinitely more strength and I could look girls in the eyes and check out their bodies right in front of them without being apologetic, clumsy and awkward about it. Call this a placebo if you want, but I could ‘feel’ the differences, and if it’s merely a placebo, then it’s the greatest placebo known to mankind.
People say, “Ah! Well! If you stop masturbating, you’ll last less!” Simple solution… have sex twice within a manageable time frame! It’s possible.
I’m not saying masturbation is bad, but fapping often isn’t optimal. What’s good when it comes to railing a girl if your balls are constantly drained. Compare that to a full, heavy nutsack. Not to mention there’s the possibilities of seminal fluid having a positive effect on a female’s mood. And we all know females are much, much, much, much, much more pleasant to be around when they are thinking positively instead of acting like molecular structured biblical nightmare bitches. Let’s be serious, now.
This post actually changed my life. I put it as a homepage.
Third day and still going on
“thing that makes your life never change: fall into the same mistake”
for another reader… There’s NO late to be better, i think
Exactly what I needed to hear bro I’m going to try the 30 days of stayin away from the porn and masturbating from what I’ve read it makes much sense that feeding my head with such fucked up things that I have may be the real reason why I can’t hold a relationship or even have a normal sex drive for the ladies was getting way to fired up for porn rather than the real thing it’s very humbling to know I’m not alone I appreciate the words of encouragement
Victor, your post has really changed my mind. I tend to Jack-Off if I don’t have sex with a girl. even when I have sex with a girl, I still do it when they’re not around. I’m addicted to porn and I’m only 19. but after today, I will try to stop. I’ll keep posting on here to let you know how I do :) thank you man!
porn is destryoing men. I HAD ERECTYLE DYSFUNCTION and I overcame it by cutting off daily porn and mastrubation marathons. Start exercising and let your fantasies and desire work out the porn in your mind, its the only aphrodisiac you will need till you hit your 60′s.
watching porn killed my desire , I had forgotten the basic art of fantasizing which killed all the mojolibido you require to get excited.
ED made me suffer from insomnia, anxiety and depression to which I am still being cured.
again the root cause to this problem is the insatiable porn hunger.
and the more you crave for it the more you get into the void of frustration.
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Its the 18th day without porn/masturbation. As usual, wetdreams did occur to me in two consecutive days! But I’m super horny. Whenever I loose my control, i come to this page and read the comments from other people. it helps me a lot. And saying about the benefits, I feel really good today.
Tip:
Don’t sleep on your stomach. You will fail.
This is a big one, if you do sleep on your stomach, next minute you will want to slide your pillow under you and try and court it.
Thanks..a lot…
Thanks man.. Aftr reading your post and all the comments i really get some willpower to overcome masturbation..though i had left masturbation for 18 days from today but jst in night today ejacuation occur from my penis yet i not masturbate bt watching porn..
Bt 4m today right now i start my journey to the road of success..i knw I WILL..!!!! I WILL DEFEAT THE PORN..NO FUCKER OR BITCH WILL ABLE TO STOP ME..
SO PORN GET READY FOR MY THUNDERBOLT WAR..HELL FUCKER..
hey guyz!success and save journey from masturbation and porn to your destination.i wish i had seen this article earlier,i would have achieved a lot in my life, but am sure i won’t do it again.because i have spent like 3hours reading your comments and i have learnt a lot!success!
Why did the prophets tell us that the bible teaches people that “Thinking about the sin is worse than the sin itself”- that is because the mind and intellect is God’s inheritance to man, which is wasted in being occupied to corporreal satisfactions: masturbation is no excempt : it is an act, yes: but it is also akin to thinking about actual sex. Therefore even according to the holy texts, actual sex is not as evil (as damaging) as masturbation which makes the intellect occupied upon a lowly act instead of being employed on bringing us closer to God (through research and intellect). The texts therefore clearly does not forbid us of doing these animal acts (eating, sex, drinking) but on the level of which we need and reserve the mind for something else and not think of these. Therefore the ancient texts are relived by this modern article by boldanddetermined , cheers, Victor
why is this all about women? I mean really I read this and the way it’s put makes it sound like. “Yes you need to stop for yourself but also because we want the D and we can’t get it because we fat and gnarly. yes this sounds very rude and I agree with almost all 10 reasons honestly just you know it’s not all about women you know and it gives off that vibe, so maybe you should redo some of that, besides not our fault most women now days aren’t worth the time of day because they are all two timers ever thought maybe women are the very reason why men masturbate instead of talk to them?
it’s like this, this is a good point but like all women do they do it in a bad tone or just in a way that seems aggressive demanding and it’s annoying. Soooo you could always say this in a way that seems more interested in the guys health other than making it sound at least like your just horny and can’t get any guys up.
Vic I love the website and i have to say the values you put on this website symbolizes what my Haitian immigrant father tries to instill in me. He teaches me discipline,he teaches me women are tricky bastards. Anyway people may call you racist but i don’t anyway. I am black you are telling it like it is. Anyway I have not masturbated in 10 days. I haven’t masturbated to porn in 30 days. Your website is changing my whole world view. I am a 22 year old virgin and I always wanted to get laid. My parents do not really allow to me to have a social life so I was wondering should I just try to find a sweet girl in my college(which is rare) or should I just find some slut and have a fuck buddy relationship with her? What is your view on fuck buddy relationships? Many guys in the PUA community think this is the “alpha” way to go. I really do not have the time for a relationship because I am a bio major and spend every hour studying(except now), so I want to get laid and I see a fuck buddy relationship as something that could work for me. lay it on me and be very brutally honest. I need the tough love.
day 4
no porn or masturbating. i didn’t actually plan to stop watching porn or masturbation, i just didn’t do it for a day or two and i said to myself what the hell, i can go like this a few days more if i want. then this morning i googled about how to stop masturbation and found this site and a bunch of other sites. but you were the only one that put your finger on the serious points of p & m.
so i just decided to go for it. i,m not planning yet to stop masturbating for like a year or something. i just want to see how far i can go.
i will check on this site later on
peace out
Is this talking about jerking off in general, or with porn? I don’t think its physically possible for me to never jerk off again. It’ll be hard enough to do it without porn.
First go without porn, then go without images.
That probably reduces the amount of jerking off you do, and will reduce the need for jerking off.
That makes it easier to then stop jerking off. (You basically split up the challenge, and with that the discipline required to do it.)
We are all loaded with character defects – some of which are i the natural and some spiritual. Most of these will lie dorman for a lifetime unless they are triggered. For example the child of analcolholic who may be pre-disposed to alcoholism will not become and alcoholic if he never starts drinking…the same with sexual behaviors, many have had terrible sexual passions ignited through porn that they ever knew existed. Fine men with great careers and ministries involved with child pornography, bestiality, fetishes, sado masochism….all because they walked down the garden path of internet porn (that so called victimless behavior). Suddenly their trigger is pulled and they find themselves owned by these behaviors followed by the end of their familes repuations even prison.
I believe that most of us need the internet but we also need internet safety whihc can only be found using safetey software-filters. I have known many guys who say they can handle it but then they cannot. I use a filter that I like called http://www.wisechoice.net. I also recommend a filtering review site called http://www.filterreview.org where various filters are reviewed and their differences explored. For your own sake and you family-install a filter
day 16
sometimes it’s really hard.
i couldn’t imagine i can come this far.
meeting my gf in two weeks. gonna keep going…
Three things changed my entire life: Think and grow rich, best life ever by Jim Rohn and a Quote by Adolf Hitler: “The secret for the strength of a man is in abstinence”
Abstinence in jerking off, smoking, drinking, eating bad stuff, making party, working out instead of lying around, reading instead of watching TV etc. Abstinence is the clue for discipline as you will get everything done if you abstain of useless things.
PD: Now please don´t whine around because i quoted HIM.
I came to the conclusion that I needed to stop internet porn. Decided four days ago to stop jacking off altogether and focus on fucking my wife instead of my hand. Focused on it last night as a matter of fact and I had an amazing orgasm that porn cannot provide. This article really nails this addiction on the head. I think I really have discovered that porn makes me a unhappy person. Only four days and I feel TONS better.
I’m 21,been masturbating for over 5 years now,want to stop but dont know how(blc i can go 2 to 3 days without it and the next i can do it for close to ten times a day).Pls i need help and tips.Some(not all)of the symptoms are showing and i’m a godly person.i.e,no girlfriend stuff.My pastor also said i have a weak mind.i.e,inability to take decisions on my own.Pls i need help
The problem with anything you read on the net is knowing who to, and who not to believe.
There is little advice is separating the use of porn from the act of masturbation.
Some say No Porn, but masturbation is fine. That sounds to me like someone pushing their moral belief that Porn is wrong. There is no physical damage to using porn as an aid to masturbation, so anyone talking exclusively about porn use is probably trying to convert you to ‘Their’ moral beliefs, by making it sound ‘Logical’ and almost scientific to stop.
Only listen to the ones talking about masturbation only, and to be honest, nearly every website contradicts itself on the case.
It should be like anything in life – balance. Balance and control of its use. If you can do that, there is no harm in using porn.
Like I said, those that sound reasonable are probably just trying to convert you, I mean “Internet porn is a succubus whore from Hell intent on draining you of your vital seed” so does not sound likes its from someone without a religious alterer-motive! Yeah right! Wake up people! Its religion that makes you feel bad about masturbating and using porn in the first place.
You want to be a man? Then make your own damn decisions, do what YOU want and don’t feel guilty about it. You want to shake one off? Who the hell is anyone else to tell you not to?
I’m surprised you were able to type all of that with one hand. Religion? Morality? No, you’re just a loser and you’re dreaming up anything you can to justify your loserdom.
Vic, this article speaks the truth. It should be printed out and given to every man sitting in front of his screen full of juggling tits wondering why he can’t get girls.
PUAs talk about forcing yourself to approach as if it were something hard and mechanical to do. When a guy addicted to porn, jacking off every few hours, with no control, decides to get a girl – he thinks like this:
“I should go and maybe talk to a girl so I can get better at ‘game’. ”
Weak, without any desire or motivation. If you’ve just been eating tofu every hour of every day why would you bother going out to hunt for some real steak?
After a week of forcing yourself to spend that porn time NOT touching yourself at all – but lifting weights and building your empire your mindset is this:
“I must go outside and find a girl to bend over and rail from behind or my dick will explode.”
When you talk to a girl and the only thing on your mind is penetrating her tight pussy, you emanate sexuality. Girls love sexual men that are selfish(kudos to vic’s secret to getting girls) and take what they want. They respond to sexuality with… wait for it… sexuality. Just as nature intended it.
110% correct my friend.